Thoughts on my marriage ?

JReacher1

GoingNowhere wrote: »

So I DID earn income then, from work ???

Yes but working for your husbands business. With your MH issues it sounds like if he hadn't employed you nobody else would have done.

GoingNowhere

Wow that's a big judgement you just made about my mental health condition.

Detroit

JReacher1 wrote: »

Yes but working for your husbands business. With your MH issues it sounds like if he hadn't employed you nobody else would have done.

What is it about the the OPs MH condition that means she would have been unemployable to anyone other than her husband?

What is the nature of her condition, and how does this effect her ability to perform within a workplace?

JReacher1

Detroit wrote: »

What is it about the the OPs MH condition that means she would have been unemployable to anyone other than her husband?

What is the nature of her condition, and how does this effect her ability to perform within a workplace?

It's not clear as she's not specified in her posts.

All you can judge it is on the fact that she has only in the last year found alternative employment that suits her current mental health. I've made an assumption (and I may be mistaken) that this is the first job she has had that wasn't working for her husband for a considerable number of years.

tulip_tulip

I got the opinion that the OPs husband is content with his wife not progressing with her life as that would show up his own insecurities and failures, He does't seem to have supported her nor tried to rid himself of his own needless spending on drugs despite having a family to care for as well as his own self respect.

OP you have managed to find yourself work and have started the recovery/management of your health, you have aspirations. Don't let a waste of space husband tie you down, You don't need to stay with a man who doesn't support you just because of your children. I'm sure they don't want a dad who spends all his disposable income on drugs as a primary carer.

Detroit

JReacher1 wrote: »

It's not clear as she's not specified in her posts.

All you can judge it is on the fact that she has only in the last year found alternative employment that suits her current mental health. I've made an assumption (and I may be mistaken) that this is the first job she has had that wasn't working for her husband for a considerable number of years.

That's not actually an assumption, OP says in her post she hasn't worked other than for her husband.

The assumption is that this was the case because her husband was the only person who would employ her.

Your posts reads as if you consider her husband to have been employing her a favour, rather than because she was contributing in a meaningful way.

There is no evidence in her posts to suggest this.

JReacher1

tulip_tulip wrote: »

I got the opinion that the OPs husband is content with his wife not progressing with her life as that would show up his own insecurities and failures, He does't seem to have supported her nor tried to rid himself of his own needless spending on drugs despite having a family to care for as well as his own self respect.

OP you have managed to find yourself work and have started the recovery/management of your health, you have aspirations. Don't let a waste of space husband tie you down, You don't need to stay with a man who doesn't support you just because of your children. I'm sure they don't want a dad who spends all his disposable income on drugs as a primary carer.

Where has the drugs come from?

Are there some additional posts I've not read?

tulip_tulip

JReacher1 wrote: »

It's not clear as she's not specified in her posts.

All you can judge it is on the fact that she has only in the last year found alternative employment that suits her current mental health. I've made an assumption (and I may be mistaken) that this is the first job she has had that wasn't working for her husband for a considerable number of years.

Maybe her husband wasn't willing to go part time in order to take on more childcare, so as well as her health issues the OP really had little choice but to stay at home for the past few years. It seems to me that she has being trying to get out of this situation by entering the workforce and planning for a future, You seem really against the OP for some reason when all she was doing was asking for advice.

tulip_tulip

JReacher1 wrote: »

Where has the drugs come from?

Are there some additional posts I've not read?

The OP wrote that he fritters away his cash on alcohol and cigarettes, are they not drugs?

JReacher1

Detroit wrote: »

That's not actually an assumption, OP says in her post she hasn't worked other than for her husband.

The assumption is that this was the case because her husband was the only person who would employ her.

Your posts reads as if you consider her husband to have been employing her a favour, rather than because she was contributing in a meaningful way.

There is no evidence in her posts to suggest this.

There's not enough information to know either way. I'm just going on my own opinion which doesn't have enough information for me to be confident is correct.

It's just In my opinion if you've got MH issues that mean you can't work but you do get a job at your husbands business it sounds to me like hes doing you a favour.

I would also suggest the fact the OP has worked for her husbands business probably helped her get her current position of employment.