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dirty_magic

These people are older than you if they're claiming their pensions. Their kids are probably grown up and paying for themselves and they only have to buy 2 tickets for their holidays. Maybe your time will come when you're older!

You could just skip a year in Wales and save if you want to go abroad. I've had cheaper holidays abroad than in the UK because accommodation and food is expensive here. One of the most expensive holidays I've had was in the lakes. I've been to a lot of places though and the lakes is still one of my favourite places to go.

AylesburyDuck

I've found in life the degree of peeve at this kind of thing is mainly a direct reflection on the state of the friendship.
If its people you adore then they could be multimillionaires living it up in Florida on a bi monthly basis and you'll still love them, as the friendship gets less then even if they only get weekends Morecambe it'll annoy you.
I've actually forgotten what a holiday is, havnt had one for over 20 years, cant say i'm heartbroken about it either. Would rather spend our money on other stuff.

Georgiegirl256

ska_lover wrote: »

I had to come back here to say, I have just logged on to facebook to see a friend has put the caption ''Just for you lot getting rained on at home'' with a picture of the beach at Ibiza with said friends legs and hairy trotters included in the photo

I hate bragging, that's not excitement that is just plain bragging so I responded with the comment ''I hope you realise you have probably invalidated your home insurance by advertising you are away from home'' - so far my post has 18 likes, and his original braggy photo, has one, and that is from his mother - so clearly I'm not the only one of his FB friends that sees this in bad taste.

That is just spiteful....Can you not take a joke?

AylesburyDuck

*Devils advocate warning* As this seems popular on the site!

Has nobody ever heard of "banter"
My other half got a new car few weeks back, so we put a photo up on Facebook, could be seen by many along the same principle of a holiday brag.
One of our mates put a comment along the lines of had he changed profession to hairdresser!
May be seen as spitefull or churlish by some, but we laughed our heads off it was hilarious.
You cant dictate someones reaction to anything

Detroit

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

*Devils advocate warning* As this seems popular on the site!

Has nobody ever heard of "banter"
My other half got a new car few weeks back, so we put a photo up on Facebook, could be seen by many along the same principle of a holiday brag.
One of our mates put a comment along the lines of had he changed profession to hairdresser!
May be seen as spitefull or churlish by some, but we laughed our heads off it was hilarious.
You cant dictate someones reaction to anything

It's the intent behind it that makes the difference.

You knew your friend was joking.

The response by the poster referring to their friends holiday picture was, by their own admission, motivated by irritation. This IMO makes it unpleasant. Plus it wasn't funny.

fierystormcloud

FBaby wrote: »

Surely it all comes down to whether the person share their news because they are genuinely happy and want to share their happiness and it has nothing to do with the sadistic pleasure of making others envious, and then you have those who do. Similarly, you have people who can feel genuinely happy for their friend's happiness and some who can't stand anyone getting anything they wish they had and resent them for it.

I wouldn't keep a friend who resented me for any good deeds that happened in my life so that I felt I couldn't share any of my good news for fear of offending them. Similarly, I wouldn't keep a friend who was constantly bragging and showed absolutely no interest in anyone's else joys, or worse couldn't provide any support to those experiencing sorrow.

My philosophy: enjoy your friends' happiness, be there for them when they are down and expect the same the other way around.

This with bells on ^ :T

I know a number of people who are proper full-on loaded, who have £50K cars, a 1 million pound house, and 5 holidays abroad every year, but they're the sweetest people, and kind and lovely, and don't ever brag about anything, they just have it and that's that. Some of them were born into the wealth, some made it themselves, one person won it. I don't resent them for it. I sometimes think 'oooooh, lucky devils! 'and wish I had so much money that I could pop to Rome for the weekend, but I don't resent them for it.

On the other hand, I have known some people who have the 5 bed executive house, the new car on the drive, the holiday to Florida, the shopping from waitrose, and designer clothes, who just have to tell everyone how much everything cost (I think most of us know this type!) and in many cases, it turns out that they are up to their eyeballs in debt.

A woman me and my OH know was going off on hols every few months for a few years, doing her house up, (new kitchen, new bathroom, new windows, fancy garden, a £1000 oak unit, the works,) even though she was 55 and single. Turned out she was fleecing benefits! :eek: It caught up with her, and long story short, she is now serving a suspended sentence, living in a 1 bed private let flat, and is on JSA. She ripped off over £30K!

And I know several others too, who I thought were fancy and well off, always flashing their money about, and some time later, they went bankrupt! So you can't just assume that because someone is flashing money about and going on fancy holidays, that they're rich. Many are not!

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

I've found in life the degree of peeve at this kind of thing is mainly a direct reflection on the state of the friendship.

If its people you adore then they could be multimillionaires living it up in Florida on a bi monthly basis and you'll still love them, as the friendship gets less then even if they only get weekends Morecambe it'll annoy you. I've actually forgotten what a holiday is, havnt had one for over 20 years, cant say i'm heartbroken about it either. Would rather spend our money on other stuff.

This also ^ :T

It does depend on the friendship, but as I said, I have found people who are properly rich and/or upper class are much nicer people than people who are upper working class, trying to be something they're not. (As I said, I think most of us know someone like this!)

AylesburyDuck

Detroit wrote: »

It's the intent behind it that makes the difference.

You knew your friend was joking.

The response by the poster referring to their friends holiday picture was, by their own admission, motivated by irritation. This IMO makes it unpleasant. Plus it wasn't funny.

Some things are just water off a ducks back, comments on photos good or bad should just be like sliding off teflon.I think we have become a nation that can be professionally offended at Olympic gold medal level.
Baby photos/wedding photos are the one of the only exceptions.:rotfl:

fierystormcloud

ska_lover wrote: »

I had to come back here to say, I have just logged on to facebook to see a friend has put the caption ''Just for you lot getting rained on at home'' with a picture of the beach at Ibiza with said friends legs and hairy trotters included in the photo

I hate bragging, that's not excitement that is just plain bragging so I responded with the comment ''I hope you realise you have probably invalidated your home insurance by advertising you are away from home'' - so far my post has 18 likes, and his original braggy photo, has one, and that is from his mother - so clearly I'm not the only one of his FB friends that sees this in bad taste.

Seems a bit mean to do this to your so-called friend. If you did this to me, you would be unfriended straight away.

Detroit wrote: »

Yes I know exactly what the word means, thank you.

Do I think your response to your friends joke rude, to meet what was clearly intended as a joke with a comment designed to make him look foolish? Yes.

Do I think it mean spirited to deliberately try to make him anxious while on holiday? Yes again.

Do I think it's surly that you felt the need to respond in a negative way to someone s pleasure? I sure do.

Do I think bragging is rude? As in self congratulating that your comment got more likes than his? Hell yes.

Guess thats me with Andypandyboy in the naughty corner, no?

Agree.

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

That is just spiteful....Can you not take a joke?

And agree with this too.

Have to agree with D and G. Sorry Ska Lover, but that was pretty mean to put that message on, and then mock him only have one 'like' from his mother, when your comment got eighteen likes. As I said, if I had been your mate, I would have unfriended you for that. It does come across as mean spirited.

I get what aylesbury duck is saying, and on many occasions I would agree, but on this occasion, I believe the intent was spite. (Going by everything else that poster has written.)

I agree that advertising that he was away from home wasn't the best idea, but it could be said that no-one would have thought this until you pointed it out! :eek:

Georgiegirl256

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

*Devils advocate warning* As this seems popular on the site!

Has nobody ever heard of "banter"
My other half got a new car few weeks back, so we put a photo up on Facebook, could be seen by many along the same principle of a holiday brag.
One of our mates put a comment along the lines of had he changed profession to hairdresser!
May be seen as spitefull or churlish by some, but we laughed our heads off it was hilarious.
You cant dictate someones reaction to anything

Totally agree with the above, however, the reply in question wasn't intended as banter. It was instead a somewhat bitter put down to a friend merely enjoying their holiday and posting as many do and not meaning any malice.

What I do find funny though, and actually very ironic, is SkaLover complaining about bragging, and then she turns round and does the very same thing! :rotfl:

AylesburyDuck

Maybe your both right *shrugs*, maybe im just weird (hell thats a given TBH), stuff like that genuinely hasnt bothered me for years. :undecided