How easy is it for my mum to kick my brother out?

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Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

Hi guys,

My brother is turning 38 and has been a thorn in our side for many many years. He lives with my mum and sister with his girlfriend and two young children. Since he has had the children, he has literally raised them in the front room, despite their being 2 spare rooms which to this day remains unfurnished and full of rubbish.

He fails to consistently pay rent and even when he does on the odd sporadic month, it's no more than £200 (for his girlfriend and children). He also runs up the bills and spends money on cars rentals, numerous Apple products and other nonsense way before he buys a proper bed for his 10 year old son (they push the 2 sofas together and he shares with his mum) or refurbishes the rooms so their 6 year old daughter can stop sleeping in the same cot she was raised In.

Long story short he is a bum. Anyway, my mum is being threatened with an eviction. She had an interest only mortgage and the terms was up ages ago. It's went to court and the bank and permission to foreclose. There is a glimmer of hope as we just received a mortgage in principle from another lender but it is expensive. However, there is no way my mother and sister can start paying for a new mortgage with my brother still being in the house and not contributing. I told her that if the mortgage goes through she has to put her foot down and kick him out even if it means calling the police.

She owns the house and there is no official rent agreement in regards to him living there. Is it as some as him having to leave and if, or more likely when, he refuses to budge she simply calls the police?

You’ve had 3 pages worth of people telling you to call Social Services as what you’ve described is not a healthy environment for 2 young children to be growing up in. Is there a reason why you haven’t done it before?

Am I missing something here? Your brother and his waste of space girlfriend aside, you’ve got you, your sister and your mum. 3 adults. 2 of whom live (and have lived for a long time) in the same house as your brother’s family and NONE of you thought it was wrong to raise children that way? You’re telling me that your mum, the grandmother of these children, wouldn’t even have thought to go out and buy a bed(s) for them? Regardless of whether it being your brother’s responsibility, surely being their grandmother she wouldn’t want to see them still sleeping in a cot / on a sofa pushed together sleeping with their mother?! A 6 year old still sleeping in the cot she was in when she was a baby. What the actual…. What is wrong with you lot?

Either you are lying, or this whole sorry story is even worse because by you 3 being bystanders and doing nothing, you are being complicit in your brother’s poor treatment of his children.

19lottie82

I'm not going to be as harsh as guest101, but I have to admit, the OP's history of bizarrely frequent, equally bizarre, life dilemmas, does have me second guessing this post.

If it IS true, then to me there are 2 simple choices.

1 - Forget about "getting the brother to move out, it's not going to happen. Your main concern should be the concern of the children. Phone social services.

2 - The same as point 1. But if you won't phone SS, but out and leave them all to it.
It seems all of the people living in the house have mental health issues, and listening to your mother complain, if she's not doing anything to address the situation herself, will only stress you out, nothing else. As she clearly hasn't paid any attention to rational advice in the past.