How easy is it for my mum to kick my brother out?

carefullycautious

HurdyGurdy wrote: »

Your mother is an adult and capable of making her own decisions.

Your sister is an adult, and capable of making her own decisions.

Your brother is an adult, and capable of making his own decisions.

Your brother's girlfriend is an adult, and capable of making her own decisions.

But your niece and nephew, are not capable of making their own decisions, and are unable to get away from what sounds like a horrific living situation. It is just awful for them.

Please please PLEASE do something to help those children. There is absolutely nothing good in your posts about those children's living conditions. Nothing.

I would say it is your moral duty to speak to someone - social services, their schools when they are back from the holidays (although I don't think this can wait until then) or the NSPCC and ask someone to do something to help them.

Their home conditions sound appalling, and their diet is just as bad. Please get help for them.

Exactly this. How you can allow this to go on and not contact Social Services is beyond me. The rest of it is between your mother and brother.

GlasweJen

Is your mum living in this house OP? I can't imagine her holed up in a bedroom with 2 spare rooms and her son and family sprawled around the living room.

baby_lemonade

GlasweJen wrote: »

Is your mum living in this house OP? I can't imagine her holed up in a bedroom with 2 spare rooms and her son and family sprawled around the living room.

Fwiw it doesn't sound true to me either. What 10 year old boy would share a sofa-bed with his mum and where's the errant brother supposed to be sleeping?

Loz01

I would have already phoned social services - who thinks its acceptable for a 10 year old to share a SOFA with their mother and a 6 year old to still be sleeping in a baby cot??? That is absolutely disgusting.

Guest101

Loz01 wrote: »

I would have already phoned social services - who thinks its acceptable for a 10 year old to share a SOFA with their mother and a 6 year old to still be sleeping in a baby cot??? That is absolutely disgusting.

It's not true though, the OP is a long time poster. This 'has' been going on for years, why would they not mention it at all. Why would it be as part of a question on mortgages and legal rights?

[Deleted User]

And moreso when we have an OP who has had their own property for 9 months at least, so how the heck do they really know what goes on of a night time at present.?? I'm baffled. I've also heard of cot beds suitable from baby to child but really I think that's enough indulgence.

Andrew - As much as I was starting to think you real, does your family your very own flesh and blood mind you making actual whole threads about them? With these such serious allegations?

When I think of someone who has been just as genuine who has to see lets get the popcorn or here we go again I've no idea how you are repeatedly tolerated.
Children talk by the way so perhaps their is hope as we found out when our child minder's children let it out their mummy was paid to look after me and my bro - our full time working mum got hulled over the coles for using someone 'unregistered' as I remember.

Andrew_Ryan_89

Hey all, I am not creating these threads to moan and rant, I genuinely need help. This is entirely my mums fault in regards to the mortgage and letting my brother run all over her. With that said, I am trying my best to put the situation right out of love for my mother.

To answer a few of the comments in this page. Though I have been at my own place for 10 months or so, every couple weeks I go back to my mums and if It is early enough you can still see the two sofas pushed together. I know for a fact that's how they sleep because I have seen it and my mum complains how they have ruined two expenses sofas. The attitude of my brother is completely beyond me and anyone with two brain cells. Yes, the two rooms need a bit of investment, no more than £500 worth of work to make them livable (or £0 and 1 day of your own time).

My mum calls me crying over the phone and letting me know how she can't sleep because of the anxiety of everything and the disrespect my brother shows. So, I am trying to do as much as I can, seeing brokers with her, inquiring about personal loans etc. If by some miracle we can get the money before they foreclose on the property, the question of my brothers stay needs to be permanently addressed and this is what I have created this topic for.

The details about my brother are to put everything in context, but if removing most of the details will better help me get an answer than questioning the legitimacy of this thread, I'll happily do it!

nimbo

The issue of your brother draining the household needs to be resolved.

As does the neglect and emotional abuse you appear to be describing in relation to his children.

I realise you feel the mortgage is the number one priority and not having your mother homeless is definitely important - but please consider the quality of life your nieces / nephew and what needs to be done to support their needs.

fairy_lights

Call social services! Call them tomorrow! Children shouldn't be living like that and it's unbelievable that the other adults living in the house have turned a blind eye.

paddy's_mum

Andrew - do you know WHY your mother is so unable or unwilling to demand that your brother behaves?