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Having a child is though!peachyprice wrote: »None of those are permanent.
For once I find myself strongly in agreement with Guest101 (:eek::D).
If either party doesn't want children, then no children should be had. And there should be no way a wife or husband should have any (legal) control of the other's body. Although of course in any good relationship it would be a subject for discussion and agreement or compromise.Do you not know that a man is not dead while his name is still spoken?
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peachyprice wrote: »More horrible than a man secretly going off for a vasectomy knowing his wife wants children? I don't think so.
Maybe doctors should start to insist on getting the mans permission when a woman wants an abortion. It's really no different.
For the record I don't think either is acceptable. We should never be in a situation where a person can veto a medical procedure on someone elses body, unless that person is a doctor and there is a good reason to say no. If a man really wants to keep that from his wife then it's not a medical issue, it's a trust issue and their problems will go a lot deeper than that.0 -
Maybe doctors should start to insist on getting the mans permission when a woman wants an abortion. It's really no different.
The correct information has already been posted:
"If you have a partner, discuss it with them before deciding to have a vasectomy. If possible, you should both agree to the procedure, but it is not a legal requirement to get your partner's permission."
That's off the NHS website.
Maybe it used to be a requirement, but it isn't anymore, just like the way women used to have to get their husband's permission to go on the pill, and it used to be legal for husbands to rape their wives. Things do change, sometimes even for the better!0 -
I don't understand it though and, as I say, is the reason why the NHS refuse to do it if they think you are too young or don't have children. Some of us are capable of making a decision and sticking to it.
We didn't want to have years and years of worrying about me getting pregnant. I did in fact get pregnant while on the pill but it was an ectopic pregnancy. In fact it ruptured and I was lucky not to die so even more reason not to risk another unwanted pregnancy.
I was willing to be sterilised but my OH didn't want that as it is a much bigger op than a vasectomy.
He had no problems at all and, as I said, meant no more worrying
Fair enough if that is the decision you and your partner made between yourselves, and TBH, if I'd had an ectopic pregnancy I'm sure we would have felt differently. x(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Person_one wrote: »My dad had his vasectomy at 25, my mum then ended up having a hysterectomy just a few years later. I do remember a few comments from him about how he'd gone through it for nothing.
It could have been 20 or more years though, that's a long time to be careful and be faffing about with other methods.
Yes I do understand, it must be the decision of the couple concerned, there is no right or wrong.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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My husband had one about 7 years ago. A couple of days' soreness (although he tried to strong it for a couple of weeks!).
He had to give two samples, about 6 weeks apart.
I wasn't asked to attend any meetings with him and the Doctor though.0 -
For many people waiting until your late fifties to no longer be worried about an unplanned pregnancy isn't at all acceptable.
Yes I do understand, it must be the decision of the couple concerned, there is no right or wrong.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Angry_Bear wrote: »Having a child is though!
For once I find myself strongly in agreement with Guest101 (:eek::D).
If either party doesn't want children, then no children should be had. And there should be no way a wife or husband should have any (legal) control of the other's body. Although of course in any good relationship it would be a subject for discussion and agreement or compromise.
Don't panic, normal service will resume
Absolutely agree, it's something for the couple to decide, but ultimately not be thrust upon them by the NHS0 -
peachyprice wrote: »More horrible than a man secretly going off for a vasectomy knowing his wife wants children? I don't think so.
If he doesn't want kids, then what? It's forced upon him?
If he wanted kids and she didn't, then what?0 -
Person_one wrote: »Are you really though? :rotfl:
Loads of leaflets/patient info about sexual health and contraception recommends talking through with your partner if possible.
Yes, recommend. But in the above example they would not carry out the procedure without the wife's consent.
Which is very different to recommending something.
And yes quite happy to take it up with the trust, I am on first name terms with most of the execs so...0
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