Vacestomy

bargainbetty

Guest101 wrote: »

Yes but there's many other, less intrusive ways to prevent pregnancy...

All of which involve either semi-permanent chemical adjustments for the woman, or stopping to put a condom on, which even in loving relationships can be a passion killer at times.


If two people are sure they do not want children, then being sterilised is an excellent solution. In a stable couple, it is far less invasive in the male than the female.

GwylimT

Guest101 wrote: »

Yes to some extent, and mostly less intrusive and less permanent.


Anyway I was just asking for the OPs opinion

Painful to insert medical implants, or daily medication that increases the incidence of certain cancers, all medical contraception for women increases the likelihood of ectopic pregnancies, many women also cannot use any form of medical contraception, many have to stop using due to inpleasant side effects. Apart from that condoms are the only other option.

greatgimpo

It's ironic that we were counselled to confirm our decision, but many children are conceived accidentally, or with little thought to the consequences. Perhaps you should opt in to sex only after you've been counselled.

piglet25

My other half had one and got an infection, think footballs and you can imagine the pain he was in!

greatgimpo

piglet25 wrote: »

My other half had one and got an infection, think footballs and you can imagine the pain he was in!

Purple ones at that!

thriftyemma

Better_Days wrote: »

Just to add about 99% effective.

My brother was one of those 2,000 after being lulled into a false sense of security for 7 years :eek:

Yup, my brother was one of those too. 5 years after the snip, and my nephew is due in about a month! Massive shock for the whole family. His operation was relatively simple, a dull ache for a couple of weeks, no problems (apart from houdini sperm!)

OP, I know you seem certain you do not want children, but think VERY carefully. Once you have the snip, it is extremely difficult to reverse it. And the longer you leave it, the greater the chances of a reversal failing. You may change your mind, or your partner may. And (God forbid) you may find yourself with a new partner, who you may want children with.

I have two male friends who thought they were happily married (not to each other, mind!) Both had two children, both were certain they didn't want more. Both had the snip. Both now find themselves divorced, and in new relationships with women who both want children. Both have been told the chance of a successful vasectomy reversal are close to zero. It does happen.

jackyann

greatgimpo wrote: »

It's ironic that we were counselled to confirm our decision, but many children are conceived accidentally, or with little thought to the consequences. Perhaps you should opt in to sex only after you've been counselled.

If only.............................

molerat

My mate rode his motorbike home from the hospital - not to be recommended :rotfl:

I went for a long walk 2 days after in the middle of summer - again not a good idea, aching betty swallocks :eek:

But all in all no pain or problems :money:

Tigsteroonie

If you'd asked me at 35, I'd have said that I didn't want children. Cue a marriage breakdown, new partner, and our son was born when I was 40 That would have been very difficult if I had been sterilised or Marley had the snip before we met.

Just sayin'.

Gavin83

Better_Days wrote: »

Just to add about 99% effective.

My brother was one of those 2,000 after being lulled into a false sense of security for 7 years :eek:

Did he get a DNA test? I'm assuming the odds of the kid not being his is a lot higher than the odds of a vasectomy failing. I'm remember reading once the percentage of men raising kids that aren't theirs who have no idea. I can't remember the exact figure but it was shockingly high.

In this situation do they actually retest the mans sperm count at any point?

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

If you'd asked me at 35, I'd have said that I didn't want children. Cue a marriage breakdown, new partner, and our son was born when I was 40 That would have been very difficult if I had been sterilised or Marley had the snip before we met.

Just sayin'.

What changed? Did you actually always have that niggling feeling but just didn't want them with your first partner or something? Find it surprising someone can go from not wanting kids at all to having one in five years, especially as an older guy.