Vacestomy

KateBob

Guest101 wrote: »

Oh no, no argument. I was just highlighting a point.


I got that you didn't agree with it - I was more giving a general 'why', not presuming you insisted on being there

Husband wanted me at the actual operation for moral support but I spent most of the time watching the procedure rather than "mopping his brow". Much to his disgust :rotfl:

peachyprice

catkins wrote: »

Surely you either want children or you don't? Why would your view change because you meet someone new?

That's one of the reasons my OH couldn't get a vasectomy on the NHS - we were told we may change our minds! No we wouldn't and haven't.

Who knows why, but enough people do, both men and women.

peachyprice

Guest101 wrote: »

On what basis?


That's genuinely horrible.

More horrible than a man secretly going off for a vasectomy knowing his wife wants children? I don't think so.

peachyprice

Guest101 wrote: »

So a wife requires husbands consent for morning after pill or abortion or birth control ?

None of those are permanent.

Person_one

Guest101 wrote: »

That's giving a moral stand point with no medical reason, I'm actually surprised and going to take it up with my employers (a NHS Trust)

Are you really though? :rotfl:

Loads of leaflets/patient info about sexual health and contraception recommends talking through with your partner if possible.

seven-day-weekend

We are in our mid-60s now, so way past the age when it would be relevant, but I never wanted my husband to have a vasectomy, (neither did he), despite us only wanting (and only having) one child. I felt that in the natural scheme of things I would become infertile anyway, so the problem would disappear of its own accord.

Anyway, that's just my opinion. I do know a couple of men who have had it done, neither had any trouble, in fact one of them rode his motorbike to the Isle of Man TT races the day after (although he did say it might have been a bit too soon)

catkins

peachyprice wrote: »

Who knows why, but enough people do, both men and women.

I don't understand it though and, as I say, is the reason why the NHS refuse to do it if they think you are too young or don't have children. Some of us are capable of making a decision and sticking to it.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We are in our mid-60s now, so way past the age when it would be relevant, but I never wanted my husband to have a vasectomy, (neither did he), despite us only wanting (and only having) one child. I felt that in the natural scheme of things I would become infertile anyway, so the problem would disappear of its own accord.

Anyway, that's just my opinion. I do know a couple of men who have had it done, neither had any trouble, in fact one of them rode his motorbike to the Isle of Man TT races the day after (although he did say it might have been a bit too soon)

We didn't want to have years and years of worrying about me getting pregnant. I did in fact get pregnant while on the pill but it was an ectopic pregnancy. In fact it ruptured and I was lucky not to die so even more reason not to risk another unwanted pregnancy.

I was willing to be sterilised but my OH didn't want that as it is a much bigger op than a vasectomy.

He had no problems at all and, as I said, meant no more worrying

Person_one

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We are in our mid-60s now, so way past the age when it would be relevant, but I never wanted my husband to have a vasectomy, (neither did he), despite us only wanting (and only having) one child. I felt that in the natural scheme of things I would become infertile anyway, so the problem would disappear of its own accord.

My dad had his vasectomy at 25, my mum then ended up having a hysterectomy just a few years later. I do remember a few comments from him about how he'd gone through it for nothing.

It could have been 20 or more years though, that's a long time to be careful and be faffing about with other methods.

GwylimT

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We are in our mid-60s now, so way past the age when it would be relevant, but I never wanted my husband to have a vasectomy, (neither did he), despite us only wanting (and only having) one child. I felt that in the natural scheme of things I would become infertile anyway, so the problem would disappear of its own accord.

Anyway, that's just my opinion. I do know a couple of men who have had it done, neither had any trouble, in fact one of them rode his motorbike to the Isle of Man TT races the day after (although he did say it might have been a bit too soon)

For many people waiting until your late fifties to no longer be worried about an unplanned pregnancy isn't at all acceptable.

zoesmummy_2006

My now ex husband went to see about having the snip shortly after I gave birth to our 2nd, he was adamant he wanted no more. The Dr told him that as our son was literally a couple weeks old they wouldn't consider it, because of the risk of cot deaths in the first year! In the end my ex left when son turned 1 and within a year and half had another baby on way!