Is having one weekend every now and again free of visitors that unreasonable?!

Kim_kim

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

I just took it as a turn of phrase and not litterally. :eek:

Edit,
I've been know to say i live in the wilds of Aylesbury.
I mean frankly the Chavs are getting out of control, but its hardly wild.

Yes, but do the women have to wait for the scraps left on the table after the men have eaten?

Honestly - it makes the Irish sound like savages!

AylesburyDuck

Kim_kim wrote: »

Yes, but do the women have to wait for the scraps left on the table after the men have eaten?

Honestly - it makes the Irish sound like savages!

The Irish matriarc i know, god no.:rotfl:
As for the other poster, i can only take what she posted at face value, if thats what shes seen herself then savage or not its her memory of it.
If it helps, i certainly dont see the Irish as savages as im sure others dont.

Andypandyboy

ska_lover wrote: »

I completely agree, which is why I find it interesting that you repeatedly take a combative position and cheerlead the OPs husbands POV.


To allow one person to have their own way all the time is not an adult relationship, sorry but it isn't, and never will be. Anyone who thinks it is has got a lot of growing up to do - fact.


And the people who say words along the lines of 'there are two sides to every story' yes of course there are, but clearly all we have available to discuss, is what the OP is telling us and as complete strangers we can only take this at face value rather than guessing on a complete strangers life

We play Devil's Advocate all the time on here!

If you take at face value everything everyone says, and don't read between the lines and don't factor in information given in other threads then it would make for agreement with almost every OP.

I don't believe for a minute that Lulu is such a doormat as to always accept what her husband says and go along with it, or that he always gets his own way. That is what you are suggesting.

POPPYOSCAR

Andypandyboy wrote: »

We play Devil's Advocate all the time on here!

If you take at face value everything everyone says, and don't read between the lines and don't factor in information given in other threads then it would make for agreement with almost every OP.

I don't believe for a minute that Lulu is such a doormat as to always accept what her husband says and go along with it, or that he always gets his own way. That is what you are suggesting.

I can easily believe it as I have a friend who would never stand up to her husband. It used to really annoy me as she would moan continually to me but never to him.

She finally snapped after over 20 years of marriage and suddenly upped and left.

AylesburyDuck

Andypandyboy wrote: »

We play Devil's Advocate all the time on here!

If you take at face value everything everyone says, and don't read between the lines and don't factor in information given in other threads then it would make for agreement with almost every OP.

I don't believe for a minute that Lulu is such a doormat as to always accept what her husband says and go along with it, or that he always gets his own way. That is what you are suggesting.

Can you quote and maybe bold the bit you mean? I'm at a loss to see this is what ska suggested.:o

Andypandyboy

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Can you quote and maybe bold the bit you mean? I'm at a loss to this is what ska suggested.:o

I read it to mean that from reading the thread she/he(SKA) was of the opinion that currently Lulu allowed/facilitiated/or just put up with her husband having his own way every time. Probably because they wrote:



" which is why I find it interesting that you repeatedly take a combative position and cheerlead the OPs husbands POV.


To allow one person to have their own way all the time is not an adult relationship, sorry but it isn't, and never will be"

Who else were they talking about?

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ska_lover

Andypandyboy wrote: »

We play Devil's Advocate all the time on here!


I don't believe for a minute that Lulu is such a doormat as to always accept what her husband says and go along with it, or that he always gets his own way. That is what you are suggesting.

You know what is also a regular occurrence on here? Putting words in peoples mouths or twisting what folk are saying - or basically when folk come on here asking for help, calling them a liar....

Andypandyboy

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I can easily believe it as I have a friend who would never stand up to her husband. It used to really annoy me as she would moan continually to me but never to him.

She finally snapped after over 20 years of marriage and suddenly upped and left.

I am not saying it doesn't happen, just that Lulu doesn't appear to me from what I have read to be that kind of person.

Perhaps she could confirm or deny it?;)

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Andypandyboy

ska_lover wrote: »

You know what is also a regular occurrence on here? Putting words in peoples mouths or twisting what folk are saying - or basically when folk come on here asking for help, calling them a liar....

I haven't seen anyone calling her a liar, and Lulu herself has been very open about the faults on both sides. I am not sure what you are reading but perhaps you could point to a post which paints the OP in that light?

maman

I've not read the complete thread but I remember your other thread before the girls were born.


I don't think this thread is about visitors in general it's about your in-laws. You definitely have a different attitude to OH's family than you do your own. That's not unusual but you need to deal with it. Your OH won't rise to your bait (sensibly IMO) and take sides.


I'm sure you've been given various ideas about how to stop them coming every single weekend rather than weekdays but what you need to guard against is showing your DH that you're happy to receive any number of friends or your own family but not his.


When my DD was young my MIL was obsessed with her as she only had my OH and this was her opportunity to enjoy a girl. I used to let OH take her to visit them during the week on his own or at weekends and have a break myself or let MIL have her at her house for the day while I met a friend for lunch. Maybe an idea for the future?