Weekly Flylady Thread 15 August 2016

bossymoo

Ooo I enrolled at college too - full steam ahead for next month :T

lynnejk

Evening all


Hugs and vibes(especially 'empty bed ones) to all those needing some
Glad to see you're still sofa surfing CY. Hope the consultant sorts things out PDQ.

I can now say that I am down to just one, ONE, hotspot now, which I hope to clear by the weekend. This would mean that the only place left to sort is DH's double cupboard/indoor shed. I daren't attempt that on my own, as I don't know what he wants to hold onto. Trouble is, although I've offered to help, he keeps putting it off. I don't want to make a problem out of it - any ideas how to get him motivated ??



I re-potted all the house-plants today, gave them a tidy up and washed the leaves. They look better already and I'll give them all a feed next week when I do the outside planters and boxes.


I'm right up-to-date with the WM/TD, fold and PA. There's a little ironing but I'll leave it for a couple of weeks until I sort out stuff to pack for our holibobs.



Hope you all have a great Thursday
Lx

Narc0lepsy

Not a hugely productive day fly-wise.
Saw a student for a couple of hours at uni.
Got laptop stroppiness sorted out by IT dept (who, worryingly, had to search on Google for a solution)
Brought in dry washing
Finally got round to checking vaccination record (yes I know I'm complacent owing to fairly frequent hols) and - eek - some were out of date. Luckily the nurse had a cancellation for today, so I scooted down and now have 2 sore arms.
Went through the rest of my "check before holiday" list in case anything else vital had been overlooked.
Planted out some late leeks; I'd been doing rain dances to make their transition from module to clay soil easier, but no sign of any.
Watered greenhouse and baskets.
Picked more French beans.
Went through the one pile of letters/leaflets/general toot which I'd cleared from the kitchen yesterday. Recycled lots.

Very tempted to go to the Bird Fair at Rutland at the weekend. But if I go, will be very tempted by all the sales stands and holiday adverts.....had been looking for new binoculars and possibly camera, but unless you buy on line it is hard to find a good range to compare - and I wouldn't get those sort of things without holding them first.

Valli

A good start to the day and then I started thinking. Went to Morrisons and sobbed on two people..not strangers but long time acquaintances.
Need to do things for work, but concentrating is hard BUT my online friends (you) and my RL friends are awesome; the support I am getting is nothing short of incredible; this is giving me the strength to be a support for my mum (in between sobbing, obviously) and my sister, who is facing this all with such bravery she too should have a gold medal. Some people have said they don't know what to say - just acknowledging that is a plus, i find. I would be interested to know if others feel the same too.

ionafan

Valli wrote: »

Some people have said they don't know what to say - just acknowledging that is a plus, i find. I would be interested to know if others feel the same too.

Valli, many years ago when my youngest son was seriously ill, the most supportive comment that I had was from my elderly maiden aunt, who wrote to me, "I have never been a mother, so I cannot possibly understand what you are going through, and I don't know what to say to you, but I'm here if you need me and I love you all." I still remember the relief of knowing that, whatever she herself was feeling, my aunt respected the uniqueness of my relationship with my son, and I did not have to try to deal with her feelings as well as my own. And yes, like you, I cried buckets too - it's because we love them xxx

(((Hugs))) spoons and sticks to all, as needed. May whatever flying you do today be a positive help in your life.

I'm going to clear my desk... again

bossymoo

Oh absolutely Valli it's times like these you truly find who your friends are. I've lost some friends, couple friends that just couldn't cope with what happened (so they avoided us/me - must have been nice to be able to walk away from it, eh?) and some silly women seem to think that being widowed means I want to steal their husband <rollseyes>. Even my brother commented afterwards that he didn't think his children would notice (when SIL was supposed to be going on an extended work trip) if their mother wasn't there. !!!!!!.

On the other hand, I also have friends and family who are not afraid to talk about DH, they don't pretend he never existed and although sometimes the words are a little clumsy, it's plain to see the care and concern behind them. Even if they have no words, just being there means an awful lot.

MIL called me from Asda last week, crying. She'd bumped into a lady who's (adult) son she knew was seriously ill. She said she saw "that look" and knew the worst had happened. Part of her wanted to run away, but having been avoided herself, she went over to talk, give a hug and so on. It did affect her, but as she said, her pain is nothing as raw as that lady's pain, and she knew the value of what she could give.


I'll stop prattling on now, and just add that I hope today bring something positive xxx

atypicalblonde

Good Morning all

We are still in sunny Wales but the forecast is set to change tomorrow. DH has had to go back to work so it's just me and the small people - not as much of a break as we had hoped, but it's a nice change all the same.

Valli - my heart goes out to you my lovely. Be kind to yourself, cry buckets when you need to and remember we are all here for you xx

Plasterer is at ours whilst we are away - he has warned it might be "a bit messy" when we return - I think that is tradesman speak for "it'll be a total dump but I'll have done what I was paid to do so I'm not bothered". We shall see.

Bossy - I hope DS feels brighter today and is able to articulate some of his feelings. And well done to DD x

Lynne - the only way I could motivate my DH to sort something like that would be with the promise of his favourite meal (whether homemade, takeaway or meal out) and a couple of his favourite beers when he's done! xx

I'm off for a cuppa then will make our pack-ups for the beach

Have lovely days all xx

Dizzy_Imp

Morning ladies. We are enroute to Legoland...joy... because it is Small's 5th birthday today! I can't believe my little man has grown so much So another naughty day of non-flying

Valli - my experience of people's reactions and knowing what to say is that those who knew and loved me just were there for me. I only had one silly woman say she knew how I must be feeling, when clearly she never would, and my immediate family were questioned about what had happened by people I wasn't close to. I asked my family to say to these curious folk that if they thought they were close enough to me to know all the gory details, then they should ask me for them themselves. No-one did. I've never felt awkward talking about my late first husband and still consider his family my family. Some of them came to my second wedding and I'm still Aunty Dizzy to all the kids, most of whom are taller than me now :rotfl:

I didn't get labelled a potential husband stealer like Bossy but several of my exH's mates tried it on with me, figuring I'd be "needing comforting" :eek:

My turn to drive, so catch up later x

ionafan

:bdaycake:
Happy 5th Birthday to Dizzy's Small - hope you all have a lovely day out (again!)

nicki_2

Morning all.

Yesterday I decided to return a faulty powerpack to the HomeB down the road for the walk, then made a spur of the moment decision and carried on to town since I was already half way there and needed one item from one shop. About 4 hours later I almost crawled back in the front door having spent most of that time playing p0k3mon and walking 8 miles I even ended up going to another branch of HomeB to buy suncream because I could feel my forehead starting to burn :eek: At least now I have one I can take out with me (in a plastic bag after DD's one burst all over hers) so I can reapply if it happens again. Thankfully I'm just very pink today and not burnt so it was worth it.

Todays plan is a couple of quick errands, including the weekly shop, locally with DD since she's needed for them, then get on with laundry. Forecast is rain from tomorrow so I'd like to get it all done before I have to use the drier again. Au de pooch is strong again in the livingroom so I need to mop the floor as well as de-stink the rug and sofas again. We've also gone from almost no hair on the floor to hair-dinosaurs again in the space of 24 hours! I swear they gather under the one sofa and then make a break for it trying to cover as much floor as possible in one go.

I need to write my shopping list so I best get moving. :wave: