Been given notice :-( help

Kim_kim

kimplus8 wrote: »

The eldest ones dad won't even pay csa at the moment so I doubt he will help me move and babies dad is back with his wife and playing happy families denying he's the father of my baby so no- I do t think I will be getting any help from either of them.
None of my kids are working as all aged 11 or under

kimplus8 wrote: »

I don't expect anyone to provide anything for my children, and I was once married and didn't claim anything at all, had a big house and was part of the 'wealthy' as you call it, at least I'm assuming by wealthy you mean those that are exempt from any form of state help.
Sadly due to domestic violence and assaults on my children I found myself without a home or life that I once had- things change. Maybe one of my kids will become an MP or a Doctor or a Fire- person but I can guarantee they will be brought up with good family morals and a strong work ethic.

Those two statements contradict each other.

NYM

kimplus8 wrote: »

Baby boy is here and well, I am totally in love- going home ASAP to meet his siblings. X with regards to the house, I'm viewing 2 properties this coming week and will be viewing houses every day if I can until I can fine someone to consider us.

Contgratuations!

pmlindyloo

kimplus8 wrote: »

Baby boy is here and well, I am totally in love- going home ASAP to meet his siblings. X with regards to the house, I'm viewing 2 properties this coming week and will be viewing houses every day if I can until I can fine someone to consider us.

Huge congratulations :beer:

Best of luck with the viewings.

FBaby

Congratulations, hope things work out for you.

marksoton

Get the CSA situation sorted asap.

If you get nowhere try https://www.nacsa.co.uk/

And stop having children with low life scum.

Lazarus_Blackstar

Amazing news Kimplus8, a big contratulations on your new little bundle!



Fingers crossed all works out for you re. the housing situation. Sending lots of luck.

Smodlet

marksoton wrote: »

Get the CSA situation sorted asap.

If you get nowhere try https://www.nacsa.co.uk/

And stop having children with low life scum.

So you are advising people who are owed money by their exes, who are already struggling financially, to pay some iffy-sounding bunch to chase payment they are due by law? Are the CSA not supposed to do that for free?

marksoton

Smodlet wrote: »

So you are advising people who are owed money by their exes, who are already struggling financially, to pay some iffy-sounding bunch to chase payment they are due by law? Are the CSA not supposed to do that for free?

NACSA are far from iffy, they were consultees over the current legislation and do wonderful work.

The CSA ( Now CMS) are shocking. An absolute disgrace as part of the DWP. That's why they're trying to now wring their hands by factoring everything out.

I'm sorry but you cannot have 8 children and not ensure there is financial provision from BOTH parents. It's utterly irresponsible.

Smodlet

OK, marksoton, it's just expecting people to pay for what the government should be doing that gave me pause.

I completely agree that men (and women) should pay for their children's support but, for as long as there are those who duck their responsibilities, which will be forever, there needs to be some provision to force them to pay, ideally without penalising the responsible parent. In practical terms, if someone refuses to pay for their child's upkeep, how is the one left holding the baby supposed to make them without official help? We differ in that I do not see why they should have to pay for this help while there is a government department in existence whose job it is to do so. If the CSA are useless, they should either be dissolved or given the teeth to be effective... imho, of course.

kimplus8

marksoton wrote: »

NACSA are far from iffy, they were consultees over the current legislation and do wonderful work.

The CSA ( Now CMS) are shocking. An absolute disgrace as part of the DWP. That's why they're trying to now wring their hands by factoring everything out.

I'm sorry but you cannot have 8 children and not ensure there is financial provision from BOTH parents. It's utterly irresponsible.

And how are you supposed to ensure that, anyone can split up??
I can't force them to pay any more than you can, when I met these men, ex husband and ex bf I didn't expect to be either on my own or chasing them for money, I have applied to the CSA, beyond that there is not a lot I can do and I'm certainly not going to be asking them in person to give them the satisfaction of seeing me have to ask over and over again.