Been given notice :-( help

Smodlet

Kim, babes, come on over to your diary, please. Stop watching this thread for more horrible posts. I have quite a deal of good, useful info from, of all people, G_M, copied from another thread where he/she was helpful and objective. If you like, I will post it there, or here, or nowhere, let me know.

Lazarus_Blackstar

Smodlet wrote: »

Yeah, pity it's far too late for that on this thread. I expect nothing better of most but G_M's attitude has really shocked me. It is completely at odds with most of his/her other posts I have seen. Usually, G_M is very helpful.

Hang in there, Kim.

kimplus8 wrote: »

THIS.
I was surprised too as G_M was very helpful to me on another thread.
I'm really disappointed that the number of children I have would determine whether I am considered worthy of someone's time- :(sigh.

For some reason some people seem to think if you've got a lot of children you are automatically a sponging scratter who pops kids out for fun.
That makes me so mad!
It's no-one elses business how many children you have and how you provide for them. None at all.
You sound like a good loving mother who is concerned about having a roof over your children's heads. And rightly so.

I don't have any advice Kimplus8 but I wish you the very best of luck with this situation & hope you manage to get sorted asap.
It must be worrying when you also have another due any day.
Keep us posted.

sniggings

kimplus8 wrote: »

I guess I thought once you were served with notice they would have a duty rather than it costing the money and time of going to court etc.
I'm not being ungrateful, I'm just curious as to why they don't house once they know someone is going to be made homeless rather than when they actually are.

to answer your question.

There are millions on the waiting list, if all you had to do was get some random landlord to say they're kicking you out, and that got you a council property them the system would grind to a halt.

Sad to say they make it as hard as possible so only those with a very real need will go the full process.

sniggings

Bossypants wrote: »

But council accommodation is for those who need it, i.e. those who can't find their own for whatever reason. If OP winds up falling into that category then fair enough, but I would have thought she should at least try to help herself before expecting the council to do it, no?

Your premiss that council housing is a last resort is not imo right.

If the OP qualifies for CH then why can she not choose that route first, if it will give her a better standard of life.
Why does private have to be the first choice here?
I'm not saying she should not help herself, but why do you consider going the council route first is wrong?

kimplus8

sniggings wrote: »

Your premiss that council housing is a last resort is not imo right.

If the OP qualifies for CH then why can she not choose that route first, if it will give her a better standard of life.
Why does private have to be the first choice here?
I'm not saying she should not help herself, but why do you consider going the council route first is wrong?

I guess its the stigma that goes with it all.
large family, single parent, council house, the assumption that I'm on state unemployment benefits (which I am not).
I guess people feel I don't deserve it so why should I get it, TBH this is the reason I don't want a council property, Ild rather people didn't assume I had my kids to get a house. LOL
Its a sad but true reality.

Smodlet

sniggings wrote: »

Your premiss that council housing is a last resort is not imo right.

If the OP qualifies for CH then why can she not choose that route first, if it will give her a better standard of life.
Why does private have to be the first choice here?
I'm not saying she should not help herself, but why do you consider going the council route first is wrong?

Seriously? Get a clue, sniggings. It is exactly as has been described. There just plain is not enough social housing to go around and by that I mean Local Authority/Housing Association properties, not housing for people claiming benefits. Don't you watch documentaries? There are people being kicked out of their homes as we type! They need help now, tonight! Kim has a roof over her head at least until November. It must be so nice to have such a privileged life you have no idea what real life is like. If there were a choice to have council housing, there would be no private LLs! No-one in their right mind would choose to rent privately if they could get a council place. Do you think they grow on trees? Most of them have waiting lists of years, many of decades!

And it's premise, not premiss.

Jon_B_2

Lazarus_Blackstar wrote: »

For some reason some people seem to think if you've got a lot of children you are automatically a sponging scratter who pops kids out for fun.

Mum of 8 starts thread asking if council can put family up after being served section 21.

#justsaying

Smodlet

#ifyoucan'tsayanythingnicedon'tsayanythingatall. And try reading. No section 21.

fairy_lights

Jon_B wrote: »

Mum of 8 starts thread asking if council can put family up after being served section 21.

#justsaying

I think it's more like 'mum of 8 gets given notice, sensibly starts exploring her options'.

Rain_Shadow

Lazarus_Blackstar wrote: »

For some reason some people seem to think if you've got a lot of children you are automatically a sponging scratter who pops kids out for fun.
That makes me so mad!
It's no-one elses business how many children you have and how you provide for them. None at all.
You sound like a good loving mother who is concerned about having a roof over your children's heads. And rightly so.

I don't have any advice Kimplus8 but I wish you the very best of luck with this situation & hope you manage to get sorted asap.
It must be worrying when you also have another due any day.
Keep us posted.

Well it is oft repeated that only the very wealthy or the very poor can afford lots of children in this country.

I agree that it is no one else's business how many children someone has. Nor is it anyone's business how they provide for them. However, it is someone else's business how other people are expected to provide for them.