Love Partner to bits,more than anything else, but not sexually compatiable

.j.e.j

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Pollycat

awolo1 wrote: »

Hi
Firstly I am with somebody and have been for 1.5 years. Probably one of the longest relationships I've ever had. I love him, however - when it comes to between the sheets - we aren't compatible.

He wants to do things I just don't like. What's odd is that although he wants to do things that most people would consider normal (we're !!!!!exual), I'm not comfortable with one thing in particular

I am very open minded and would like to invite other people to have fun with, there would no feelings to them, but he could get what he wants and I could get what I want, between the three of us.

How we get to that is a different matter, but essentially, it could work for me and I'd be happy with that compromise.

Is that wrong - do people disagree? We're engaged and want to get married one way.

I've brought it up with him in the past and he has never given me a straight forward answer. He said he would think about it once., that was six months ago



Help needed! We are not having 0/no sex at all and this probably sounds horrid - but I'm desperate.

Thanks

You need to sit your partner down and discuss it with him.
Tell him he's had 6 months to think about the issues in your relationship and your proposed solution of inviting a 3rd party into it and ask what he thinks now.

You say you don't need sex to be happy but does he?

You also say he's wrapped round your little finger so you need to be careful you don't coerce him into agreeing to your proposal as that may eventually lead to resentment against you.

Nick_C

.j.e.j wrote: »

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Well it was getting a little graphic. Suspect OP has removed some of his own posts.

New readers will certainly not be getting the full picture, and should move on.

Pollycat

Nick_C wrote: »

Well it was getting a little graphic. Suspect OP has removed some of his own posts.

New readers will certainly not be getting the full picture, and should move on.

You've got me wondering what I've missed now.

.j.e.j

The 'thing that gay men do to other gay men' had become a source of trauma, even injury, to the OP.. but the partner still liked doing it.

Not an easy problem to solve if one likes something and the other really really does not.



(PS will delete this post, if it's not acceptable!)

Nick_C

.j.e.j wrote: »

The 'thing that gay men do to other gay men'

And that straight men do (to) with straight women.

I have very open straight friends, and things that would have been regarded as homo-sexual acts 40 years ago are now mainstream and popular with many heterosexuals..

.j.e.j

well, better not get too x-rated, or the posts will start to disappear again.

k3lvc

OP - I knew I recalled this from the past - is this the same partner ?


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5375086

missbiggles1

k3lvc wrote: »

OP - I knew I recalled this from the past - is this the same partner ?


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5375086

Or even the one from an earlier thread.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5167252

.j.e.j

k3lvc wrote: »

OP - I knew I recalled this from the past - is this the same partner ?


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5375086

Blimey, that one needs some popcorn!