Love Partner to bits,more than anything else, but not sexually compatiable

.j.e.j

fuzzyduck22 wrote: »

You've been together 1.5 years but haven't had sex in 18 months...???? How do you know you aren't compatible?

:rotfl: the story is starting to fall apart a bit, isn't it..

Peter333

fuzzyduck22 wrote: »

You've been together 1.5 years but haven't had sex in 18 months...???? How do you know you aren't compatible?

.j.e.j wrote: »

:rotfl: the story is starting to fall apart a bit, isn't it..

Why didn't I notice that?!!! :rotfl:

Ames

I think they mean they haven't had penetrative sex in eighteen months, not that they haven't done anything.

The problem seems to be with one act that his partner wants but he doesn't like, or perhaps can't physically manage.

OP, have you sat down with your partner and talked about the act, why you don't like or want it? I'm not asking you to explain on here, but is it because of a bad experience in the past, or have you tried with your partner and still don't like it? These are things you need to be talking to him about.

missbiggles1

Ames wrote: »

I think they mean they haven't had penetrative sex in eighteen months, not that they haven't done anything.

The problem seems to be with one act that his partner wants but he doesn't like, or perhaps can't physically manage.

OP, have you sat down with your partner and talked about the act, why you don't like or want it? I'm not asking you to explain on here, but is it because of a bad experience in the past, or have you tried with your partner and still don't like it? These are things you need to be talking to him about.

But he does say they haven't had sex, not specifically penetrative sex.

Hard_Up_Hester

My ex-husband was desperate to go wife swapping, he was most upset when he realised that he would be swapping a chubby 50 year old for a different chubby 50 year old and not a beautiful 20 year old.
He also wasn't prepared for how jealous it made him, he originally thought it was the old car keys in a bowl, and that whoever got our keys would sit it out rather than have sex with me.
We'd been married 25 years, we didn't make it to 26!

Ames

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But he does say they haven't had sex, not specifically penetrative sex.

He also says 'we are not having 0/no sex at all', as well as 'He wants to do things I just don't like. What's odd is that although he wants to do things that most people would consider normal (we're !!!!!exual), I'm not comfortable with one thing in particular'

Which I read as they're doing some things, but not full penetrative sex.

It is a bit confusing. I do think though that some posters have (as happens a lot on this forum) been a bit quick to assume it's a wind up, given that the OP's been registered for a few years.

Justwe03

Lots of relationships and marriages work having 3rd or more parties involved, without developing feelings.

If there is something your partner needs to be sexually satisfied and you cannot offer that (for whatever reason it doesn't matter) or vice versa and you are both okay with the reality of it, then there's no reason it can't work or any reason it should cause an issue.

It's highly unlikely someone can be everything to another and it's quite a high pedestal to put them on to expect it.

Mupette

trip trap trip trap

fizz

Mupette wrote: »

trip trap trip trap

I second:beer:

fizz.x

Peter333

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

My ex-husband was desperate to go wife swapping, he was most upset when he realised that he would be swapping a chubby 50 year old for a different chubby 50 year old and not a beautiful 20 year old.
He also wasn't prepared for how jealous it made him, he originally thought it was the old car keys in a bowl, and that whoever got our keys would sit it out rather than have sex with me.
We'd been married 25 years, we didn't make it to 26!

:eek: :rotfl: :T

That's the funniest thing I've read on here for days! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

And why did he think that someone would rather sit it out, than have sex with you? :huh: Did he think you were that unappealing?! And DID the man who got you 'sit it out?' I am guessing not.