Love Partner to bits,more than anything else, but not sexually compatiable

System

My ex had kinks that i wasn;t into. Towards the end of the relationship he pushed it a lot and i ended up doing things i wasn't comfortable with (including third parties) to try and save it. it safe to say, did not work out as he intended. We split up o=it long after.

I know its subjective but if your kinks (so to speak) do not match up, things probably will not work out. Bf now has very similar kinks to me and it works out really well, but i think thats because they are compatible.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

So what was the word that was censored in the OP?

NoWayJose

I was wondering that too!

Nick_C

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

So what was the word that was censored in the OP?

Homo-sexual

Detroit

Nick_C wrote: »

Homo-sexual

I thought it was heterosexual. Not many gay men would use the other term.

Nick_C

Detroit wrote: »

I thought it was heterosexual. Not many gay men would use the other term.

First five letters replaced by !!!!! so definitely not heterosexual. I often use the proper word to describe someone attracted exclusively to their own sex. It depends on the context and setting.

Sicard

awolo1 wrote: »

Hi
Firstly I am with somebody and have been for 1.5 years. Probably one of the longest relationships I've ever had. I love him, however - when it comes to between the sheets - we aren't compatible.

He wants to do things I just don't like. What's odd is that although he wants to do things that most people would consider normal (we're !!!!!exual), I'm not comfortable with one thing in particular

I am very open minded and would like to invite other people to have fun with, there would no feelings to them, but he could get what he wants and I could get what I want, between the three of us.

How we get to that is a different matter, but essentially, it could work for me and I'd be happy with that compromise.

Is that wrong - do people disagree? We're engaged and want to get married one way.

I've brought it up with him in the past and he has never given me a straight forward answer. He said he would think about it once., that was six months ago



Help needed! We are not having 0/no sex at all and this probably sounds horrid - but I'm desperate.

Thanks

Err, what happens after the wedding? Do the three of you go on the honeymoon?

Nick_C

Laurie_Sicard-Askey wrote: »

Err, what happens after the wedding? Do the three of you go on the honeymoon?

Why not, if that's what floats their boat.

You should see Design For Living. Very funny but thought provoking play.

But I think OP is thinking of random casual third parties rather than a menage à trois.

awolo1

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

My ex had kinks that i wasn;t into. Towards the end of the relationship he pushed it a lot and i ended up doing things i wasn't comfortable with (including third parties) to try and save it. it safe to say, did not work out as he intended. We split up o=it long after.

I know its subjective but if your kinks (so to speak) do not match up, things probably will not work out. Bf now has very similar kinks to me and it works out really well, but i think thats because they are compatible.

when you meet somebody, you don't know/ask those questions generally, it's taken a few months in after it started, to realize how we are with one another. I am not ending it over this. It's about trying to find a solution.

awolo1

Nick_C wrote: »

First five letters replaced by !!!!! so definitely not heterosexual. I often use the proper word to describe someone attracted exclusively to their own sex. It depends on the context and setting.

yes, we're gay.