Is it me ?

piglet74

He sounds so immature I am not sure I would be bothered trying to make this work.

You sound more like his mum and babysitter rolled into one!

Laconic

Your situation sounds very tough right now. If a relationship isn't working for both then it doesn't work. I suppose the critical point is does he take your concerns seriously?

I think you should have a read of this and see if any of it is relevant to you. It's by a divorcee who saw the light too late.
https://mustbethistalltoride.com/an-open-letter-to-!!!!!!-husbands/

If any of that link feels salient, then think long and hard about the state of your relationship. Thankfully, you're not married and hopefully, you don't have any joint assets. Your trust, esteem, dignity and self-respect are precious things -- don't squander them on someone who doesn't value you.

gwynlas

Yes, you got yourself into this situation without considering the consequences e.g. moving to his area giving yourself a longer commute etc.
Now you need to improve things by problem solving together!!!
You say you like housework but would you rather have cuddles with him and employ a cleaner? Or would you prefer him to buy the services of a prostitute?
Can you share the dog walking with him either getting up early thus giving you longer in bed or by doing the late walk whilst you get ready for cuddles?
You can both load and empty dish washer as needed, I can generally empty ours in ad break.
Get a take away mid week so that you don't have to cook.
Stop allowing chores to intrude too much on weekends.
Look at what would make your life easier to make time for each other otherwise you are going to get bitter and resentfull whilst he'll believe you have gone off him, start watching !!!!!! on his Pc and taking care of himself.

paddy's_mum

I could put up with the unequal sharing of the chores. I could put up with the commuting. I could put up with the juvenile games playing.

I could NOT put up with the petulant and sulky demands for sex on demand.

This man is bullying you and for your own wellbeing, it needs to stop.

You call him your boyfriend but this is not what friends, of whatever level, do to one another.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

So, let's get this straight, you provide:

-breakfast in bed
-sex on demand
-housework
-dog walking

And you moved into his place so as to offer these free services more efficiently?

consumers_revenge

Print this out and leave it on xbox








NO HELPY ??
NO POKEY !!

paddy's_mum

Laconic wrote: »

I think you should have a read of this and see if any of it is relevant to you. It's by a divorcee who saw the light too late.
https://mustbethistalltoride.com/an-open-letter-to-!!!!!!-husbands/

Wow! :T That is a powerful read. Thank you so much for posting it.

arbrighton

Jamiehelsinki wrote: »

I think sex is an issue in most relationships where the guy wants it more and the woman doesn't realise what a big deal it is until it's to late.
My general opinion of women and sex is that they use it to get men into a serious relationship and then turn the tap off when they think they have him tied up.
The amount of escorts operating in every town tells you how many men are probably sneaking about having it elsewhere!
I don't think it's just you but be careful not to punish him for other areas by taking intimacy out of the marriage, it seems to be a common tactic used by a lot of women.

Load of misogynist generalisation.

Your opinion and probably bears no relation to reality. Sounds more like you are bitter as this is your personal experience

It isn't always women that want sex less than their partner you know

Angry_Bear

.j.e.j wrote: »

Surprisingly, a lot of gamers are actually getting on a bit! :rotfl:
It's not just youths and teens, - a lot of men in their 40s and 50s spend hours playing computer games when they get in from work.

And women - at least the ones who aren't using up all their available free time looking after a man who doesn't seem capable of looking after himself .

SuzieSue

Show him this thread. I think/hope that he does not realize that it is him that is the problem.

However, what did concern me was that he blames you when you have your period. Is he really that selfish?