How much rent should my parents charge me?

Thunderbird4

Detroit wrote: »

Thunderbird, from the responses you've made to people who don't share your views, and the comments you've made about your family life: 'you've worked hard to provide for your family' 'the' wife has brought up your son, 'you'll leave them provided for' etc, you comes across to me as an old fashioned patriarchal type of person, with a high regard for his own opinion, and not much tolerance of views that opose your own.

I would imagine you consider yourself the head of your household.

People with this trait frequently struggle to allow their adult children to be independent, as this erodes their importance within the family as the source of all material wealth and comfort.

By continuing to support adult children beyond the point of necessity, allowing no financial contribution other than their own, they retain their status and self worth.

While this meets the need of the parent, it doesn't allow the child to assume the responsibility of an adult, keeping them in a state of perpetual subordination to the parent.

Obviously, I don't know you, and could have made completely inappropriate judgements about you and your motives.
As the parents accused of trying to justify profiteering will no doubt agree, that happens sometimes.

Oh the irony...

You say I don't have much tolerance for people who don't share my views and then post a long rant about how I am wrong for not charging my son rent.

So to sum up your view, because I don't charge my son rent he is in a state of perpetual subordination to me. :rotfl::rotfl:

I do love how you parents who like to make money out of their children try and pour scorn on parents (and their children) who don't see it necessary to charge them rent to enable them to save quicker for a deposit.

I don't charge my son rent and despite what you (and some of the unpleasant people on this forum may think) this hasn't lead to the rearing of a selfish parasite who i keep repressed under my authoritarian heel.

You people make me laugh

Detroit

That's not a rant, it was three paragraphs couched in general terms about a trait found in some parents, how it manifests, and the possible effect on the child.
The point was a broader one than that of merely charging rent.
If it doesn't apply to you, then 'cool'.

Admittedly, the initial paragraph did make some judgments about you, but these were based on your remarks and attitude to others.

As I haven't at any point said I am a parent, who does or doesn't charge rent, nor have I said anything that could be considered unpleasant ill asume the final paragraphs are not addressed to me.

Marvel1

Not sure if helpful or not, I live on my own and oven has broke. I had to use my parents electric oven this morning for about 30 mins and again tomorrow morning for 30 mins. I give her £10 for the electric use.

The only thing I cannot understand is the anxiety side of it and moving to a new country.

Thunderbird4

Detroit wrote: »

As I haven't at any point said I am a parent, who does or doesn't charge rent, nor have I said anything that could be considered unpleasant ill asume the final paragraphs are not addressed to me.

Yeah you would assume wrong

suki1964

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

I imagine those having such a strong reaction to the profiting comments are those who are in fact profiting

Oh wait it's not called profiting is it? It's teaching your children to manage money.....

Well guess what?

I have my mum live with us. She has three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a sitting room for her own use. How she uses those bedrooms is !!!! all to do with me

How much do I "charge" her? Half the rates and half the heating oil

Not even a third of her old rates bill

She gets fed FOC 6 days a week. Electic, free. Coal and logs, Free

So ok mum ain't my child, she's an adult. But it's the same thing

No way am I profiteering

I find your post most offensive

Mum could move into a 3 bedroom house. She's have the mortgage /rates to pay. All the heating. The electic. The maintenance and the food.

Our daughter and kids can move in next week, and guess what? Household bills will still be split


Yes I guess I could manage without mum paying her 'share' but why should I? If she weren't here I'd have a lovely two bedroom flat or house and my own bills would be halved

suki1964

SailorSam wrote: »

Yea Gods, i would never have believed such a simple thread could have kept going as long as it has.

You obviously never took part in the bill sharing restaurant bill thread?

Went on for weeks

Thunderbird4

suki1964 wrote: »

Well guess what?

I have my mum live with us. She has three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a sitting room for her own use. How she uses those bedrooms is !!!! all to do with me

How much do I "charge" her? Half the rates and half the heating oil

Not even a third of her old rates bill

She gets fed FOC 6 days a week. Electic, free. Coal and logs, Free

So ok mum ain't my child, she's an adult. But it's the same thing

No way am I profiteering

I find your post most offensive

Mum could move into a 3 bedroom house. She's have the mortgage /rates to pay. All the heating. The electic. The maintenance and the food.

Our daughter and kids can move in next week, and guess what? Household bills will still be split


Yes I guess I could manage without mum paying her 'share' but why should I? If she weren't here I'd have a lovely two bedroom flat or house and my own bills would be halved

Why have you given your mum three bedrooms in your house?

That seems a bit weird?

Detroit

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Yeah you would assume wrong

My apologies. I thought whether I should be addressed as if I were a parent or not would be a matter on which I didn't have to defer to your opinion.
However, you know best.

suki1964

Detroit wrote: »

That's not a rant, it was three paragraphs couched in general terms about a trait found in some parents, how it manifests, and the possible effect on the child.
The point was a broader one than that of merely charging rent.
If it doesn't apply to you, then 'cool'.

Admittedly, the initial paragraph did make some judgments about you, but these were based on your remarks and attitude to others.

As I haven't at any point said I am a parent, who does or doesn't charge rent, nor have I said anything that could be considered unpleasant ill asume the final paragraphs are not addressed to me.

Yet you charge your wife rent and then give her pocket money

Thunderbird4

Detroit wrote: »

My apologies. I thought whether I should be addressed as if I were a parent or not would be a matter on which I didn't have to defer to your opinion.
However, you know best.

Yes I do. Thank you for agreeing.

The last paragraph didn't reference being a parent and was directly addressed to you. I would suggest you read it again