How much rent should my parents charge me?

missbiggles1

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Can you provide evidence or a source for the word "most". I suspect that is absolute garbage and again just a way to salve your conscience to justify profiting from your own child.

It proves itself. If they're happy to be parasites, it shows they weren't well brought up.:D

Thunderbird4

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It proves itself. If they're happy to be parasites, it shows they weren't well brought up.:D

Well argued..... To be honest it sounds like you just resent people who prefer to not make money from their children. If you have children did you have them sewing footballs from age 4 to make them pay their way?

At what point do you suggest I should have started taking money off him? When he was 12 and earning £8 a week delivering newspapers. Should I have taken £2 a week off him so he can learn the value of money :rotfl:

Pollycat

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

it sounds like you have a bit of family resentment here. Which to be honest is perfectly understandable as I don't really understand a parent who treats their three children differently.

No, no resentment at all. :rotfl:
Just stating a fact.
The reason for treating us all differently was purely financial.
As they got older they had more disposable income so didn't need to take so much money from the younger children.
I find that perfectly understandable - hence the zero resentment.

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Again though I find it slightly ridiculous to say that your sisters aren't as money savvy as yourself because your mum decided not to charge them rent.

Find it as ridiculous as you wish.

Thunderbird4

Pollycat wrote: »

No, no resentment at all. :rotfl:
Just stating a fact.
The reason for treating us all differently was purely financial.
As they got older they had more disposable income so didn't need to take so much money from the younger children.
I find that perfectly understandable - hence the zero resentment.


Find it as ridiculous as you wish.

So you're criticising me for doing what your parents did?

They decided they didn't need to take any money from your younger sister as they were financially comfortable which is the same approach I have taken with my son.

Have you told your parents that they were bad parents?

AylesburyDuck

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Most well brought up young adults would be ashamed to cadge off their parents, even if the parents were to allow it.

How utterly small minded that you have to insult others with a different opinion.:(:(

Pollycat

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Cool.

So because I decide to not personally financially profit from my son living in his family home then he isn't a self-respecting adult.

As a matter of interest should I also be charging the wife and dog?

Your son may be much more grateful to you for allowing him to live with you with no financial contribution than the OP appears to be.

SparklyB wrote: »

This extra money was going to go to my parents in rent as my Mum wants me to start paying something. This is understandable but where I have the problem is how much I should pay. She thinks I should pay them £50 a week, which I know isn't a lot but it will now be nearly half my monthly wage.

it's worth mentioning that my Mum is retired and my Dad is coming up to retirement in August and currently works part time. They don't have a mortgage as they paid it off a while ago and they have pensions and savings. My Mum has always panicked about money (which she has passed onto me) and is worrying about how much they'll have. She say's they can't keep supporting me. I take a bit of offence to that since I actually don't take anything from them, apart from living in the house which they both had agreed I could do because of my current situation. I don't borrow money from them, they're not paying for anything of mine.

I - and the majority of other posters - think she has a massive self-entitled attitude, which I find quite shocking.

How would you feel if you were retired with a husband coming up to retirement, concerns about money and a 35 year old child living with you who feels offended because you've asked for a contribution to the household?

warby68

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

I have taken steps to provide for my family if anything happens to me.

It always makes me laugh the way people justify charging their own children rent. Your argument appears to be if I don't charge him say £250 a month he will become a layabout who won't have any money or job and then when I die will find himself homeless.

Thankfully he has been raised well (admittedly that's mainly down to his mother) and his whole future won't be destroyed by me not profiting off him. He has a good job as a teacher and will soon be able to afford his own house and be able to leave the nest (which will be a very sad day for me).

Heck, you're chippy!

Not my argument at all, I don't really have an argument - my point was just that this thread is about a completely different set of circumstances than yours, that's all

The OP is the dependant 35y old with worried parents I refer to NOT your future son

Pollycat

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

So you're criticising me for doing what your parents did?

They decided they didn't need to take any money from your younger sister as they were financially comfortable which is the same approach I have taken with my son.

Have you told your parents that they were bad parents?

Please point out where I have criticised you.

My post #194 was a statement of fact about my own personal experience.

Why would I tell my parents they were 'bad parents'?
What part of this are you having difficuly understanding?

Pollycat wrote: »

No, no resentment at all. :rotfl:
Just stating a fact.
The reason for treating us all differently was purely financial.
As they got older they had more disposable income so didn't need to take so much money from the younger children.
I find that perfectly understandable - hence the zero resentment.

Actually, I would love to tell my Dad he was a great parent.
Sadly, he's not here to hear it.

And in none of your posts on this thread have you said that you were financially comfortable so was in a position to allow your adult child to live with you with zero financial contribution.

In fact, if anything, this implies the opposite:

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

I don't charge my 24 year old son rent.

I worked hard to provide a home for my family. I earn my money by working not by charging my children.

Some people like to profit from their children and I respect their right to do so. It's just not how I want to live.

Thunderbird4

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Pollycat wrote: »

And in none of your posts on this thread have you said that you were financially comfortable so was in a position to allow your adult child to live with you with zero financial contribution.

In fact, if anything, this implies the opposite:

Yes you're right saying I have a job does imply that I'm not financially comfortable:wall:

Mojisola

Mojisola wrote: »

If he paid the extra that the bills cost because he also lives at the house, you wouldn't be making any money - he would be covering his own living expenses which any self-respecting adult would expect to do.

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

So because I decide to not personally financially profit from my son living in his family home then he isn't a self-respecting adult.

If an extra adult in the household covers the extra that their presence adds to the bills, no-one if profiting from that payment.

If they don't pay, they are costing the other people in the household money.

Why would a responsible adult, especially one who is earning, want other people to pay their living costs?