How much rent should my parents charge me?

Peter333

d70cw6 wrote: »

typical entitled special snowflake millennial.

fairy_lights wrote: »

she's 35...

Exactly Fairy Lights!

To generalise like this is extremely unfair and wrong. I know at least half a dozen 20-25 year olds, who started work at 18, or left uni at 21, and still live with their parents, who pay £300-£400 a month board money out of £800-£1000 salary.

They are happy to pay it, they are grateful to have around £500-£600 surplus income a month, and some of them run their own car too.

Not ALL 'millennials' are spoilt-rotten snowflakes, and not all 30 and 40 somethings are hardworking industrious people, or high flyers on great salaries. I know a few boomerang offspring who came back to their parents in their 30s, after a failed relationship, and are still there, (two to three years later!) grumbling because their parents expect board money off them. And some of them don't even lift a finger to help in the house, and expect their elderly parents to wait on them hand and foot!

Being a 'snowflake' isn't age related!

silvercar

Mojisola wrote: »

And doesn't even start to compensate the parents for the loss of their privacy and the effect on their lives of having someone else in the house most of the time.

Different decision. More of a yes/ no view. Either the parents agree that their child can move back home or they don't. Given that they are not going to profit out of the arrangement, it's not about the money, it is merely whether they will allow family to be at home or not.

d70cw6

fairy_lights wrote: »

she's 35...

that doesn't make it better, my freaky looking friend.

cyantist

Peter333 wrote: »

Exactly Fairy Lights!

To generalise like this is extremely unfair and wrong. I know at least half a dozen 20-25 year olds, who started work at 18, or left uni at 21, and still live with their parents, who pay £300-£400 a month board money out of £800-£1000 salary.

If those parents rented out that room, including bills, how much would they get for it? We've rented out rooms for anything from £275 to £550 including all bills, depending on size of room and house location. I think people should pay their way but it's not fair for parents to charge them more than the going rate.

Some I knew a couple of years back was having to pay £175 a week to his mum to live in an awful rundown house on a terrible estate. At this point I was paying less than that to live in a lovely shared house in a really posh part of the city. I asked him why he didn’t move out and save money but his mum said she couldn’t afford everything without his contributions.

pollypenny

Sorry, but the OP and her AE, sound like spongers to me.

She was working from home, part time, and we, the tax payers were making up her wage. Now she's throwing her toys out of the pram because her parents want a reasonable contribution from an adult living in the house.

As for anxiety, she'll have one heck of a shock if she ever moves to the USA.

silvercar

cyantist wrote: »

If those parents rented out that room, including bills, how much would they get for it? We've rented out rooms for anything from £275 to £550 including all bills, depending on size of room and house location. I think people should pay their way but it's not fair for parents to charge them more than the going rate.

Big difference between opening your home to a family member and renting a room to a complete stranger. The majority of people wouldn't rent out a room to an unknown.

cyantist

Definitely silvercar. It's (usually) much better and safer to rent to a family member, and as such, the price charged should reflect that. So if you could rent a room out to a stranger and get £300 a month, I don't think it's fair to expect you child to pay that or more

Mojisola

silvercar wrote: »

Different decision. More of a yes/ no view. Either the parents agree that their child can move back home or they don't.

Given that they are not going to profit out of the arrangement, it's not about the money, it is merely whether they will allow family to be at home or not.

It could be. The parents might chose to have the occasional weekend away so that they can be alone for a change.

A bit extra 'keep' on top of the actual costs could pay for that.

pollypenny

silvercar wrote: »

Different decision. More of a yes/ no view. Either the parents agree that their child can move back home or they don't. Given that they are not going to profit out of the arrangement, it's not about the money, it is merely whether they will allow family to be at home or not.

It's also about whether an adult of 35 should be expected to pay her own way or expect pensioner parents to support her.

silvercar

pollypenny wrote: »

It's also about whether an adult of 35 should be expected to pay her own way or expect pensioner parents to support her.

If they are not losing financially from doing so, why wouldn't parents with room not allow their offspring to return home in a non-profit scenario. Ok they lose some privacy, but this is their offspring. If you can't manage with minor inconvenience to help out your own family, what sort of person are you?