Finding the dating game so harsh!

jamiehelsinki

prowla wrote: »

It is devilishly difficult meeting people and finding the right one is devilishlier more difficulter.

Finding someone who ticks all the boxes and for whom you tick all the boxes is really a challenge.

It depends how many boxes you want to tick though,

For me
Are they attractive, is there a spark, is there anything about them I couldn't cope with, if these three are there I would see where it goes.

SailorSam

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

It's a numbers game. Message 20. Get 4 replies. 2 fade away quickly. Meet 2. Hope one of them likes you.

That's exactly what they use to tell us when i had a go at selling double glazing.
Knock on 100 doors; give out 50 leaflets; you'll get back in 10 houses and get 3 sales. Easy peasy just knock on 100 houses a week and earn a great living...........
It didn't quite work though, it wasn't like that.

kingrulzuk

I have bunch of lovely staff working with me most of them are married, have partners or fancy other girls.
I have done this online dating thing and just waste of time
So how can a 32 year old guy get a date with a nice honest girl?

miss_independent

kingrulzuk wrote: »

I have bunch of lovely staff working with me most of them are married, have partners or fancy other girls.
I have done this online dating thing and just waste of time
So how can a 32 year old guy get a date with a nice honest girl?

I've been considering whether to post anything or not for a while now but given how persistent you have been over the past few days about trying to use MSE to find dates I feel obliged to write something to hopefully warn MSE users who might be vulnerable and taken in by you.

You've resurrected a few of my old posts about dating in the past, asking if I was still single or asking if you could meet women on MSE. I found it a bit strange and decided to ignore it, however at one point I looked at your previous posts. In one post on one a thread I had posted on you claimed you were single and had been for 8 years. Yet in one of your other posts on MSE you claimed to have an OH.

A quick google of your username shows up several online profiles, where "kingrulzuk" shows remarkable similarity and posting style to the information you post on here as well as being resident in Scotland, having links to Portugal etc. It would also seem that you recently married someone from either the Phillipines or India according to a few of these websites.

Here is just one example

http://www.expatforum.com/expats/britain-expat-forum-expats-living-uk/1007122-questions-about-spouse-visa.html


For the record, I didn't want to get involved but somewhere along the lines something isn't right and I don't want to see someone getting hurt or drawn in by your lies. Please stop.

JulieElizabeth

curiouser and curiouser :think:

SailorSam

Naughty naughty Kingrulzuk.
And here are we all talking about the potkies that people write about themselves on dating sites. And all the time it may be closer to home on here.
That's the trouble with the Internet there's always a paper trail you leave behind.

strawberries1

jamiehelsinki wrote: »

I'm just about single again after splitting with my wife. I think in general women are not used to rejection, it's usually the guy who makes the first move so faces rejection, women rarely have this problem, they get to do the rejecting. As a single guy I got used to it, it didn't bother me.

Last time I was single, i just seen it as a numbers game, if I asked 10 women out, a few would say yes, a few would say no.

I think everyone has a level looks wise though, when you have been single a while, you tend to know (I did as a guy anyway) who you have a chance with and who will give you a flat no, you always get the occasional person who wants to punch above their level though.

When your messaging men on the site are you being realistic with your expectations?
Would men of a similar standard looks wise approach you on a night out?

Do women often message men on there?
In my experience women might smile or make eye contact but very rarely made the first move.

Most men like the thrill of the chase, no chase makes it boring!

I might put a profile on there and see how I get on.

I agree with you Jamie.
I started online dating over a month now and have met with 2 guys one which said he liked me and wanted to see me more often. As we said our goodbyes at our last meeting he asked that I let him know when next I want to see him. I smiled and we parted. Over a week now he hasn't contacted me.
I feel a man should pursue a woman if he's interested in her instead of putting out a minimum risk and minimum effort approach.
I expect a man who's serious to message the woman, ask for dates do the pursuing. It helps to weed out the non serious ones. I don't think women should approach men but it appears things are getting blurred these days. I'm using Guardian Soulmates but might try match or eharmony when my subscription ends.

onomatopoeia99

strawberries1 wrote: »

As we said our goodbyes at our last meeting he asked that I let him know when next I want to see him. I smiled and we parted. Over a week now he hasn't contacted me.

He asked you to let him know when you wanted to see him next? If you want to see him again you should probably contact him then.


Not that I'm anyone to talk, since I can't even write a profile thingy about myself

tea_lover

strawberries1 wrote: »

I agree with you Jamie.
I started online dating over a month now and have met with 2 guys one which said he liked me and wanted to see me more often. As we said our goodbyes at our last meeting he asked that I let him know when next I want to see him. I smiled and we parted. Over a week now he hasn't contacted me.
I feel a man should pursue a woman if he's interested in her instead of putting out a minimum risk and minimum effort approach.
I expect a man who's serious to message the woman, ask for dates do the pursuing. It helps to weed out the non serious ones. I don't think women should approach men but it appears things are getting blurred these days. I'm using Guardian Soulmates but might try match or eharmony when my subscription ends.

Have you tried www.eighteenthcenturydating.com?

NoWayJose

Genuine question: Why exactly should women never approach a man?