Finding the dating game so harsh!

LifeToTheFull

If you're over 50 and in the south PM me!!!!

SailorSam

LifeToTheFull wrote: »

If you're over 50 and in the south PM me!!!!

Does it matter whether you're male or female, or will you take whatever comes along ?

NWOIHTS

poorlittlefish wrote: »

To cut a very long story short I met a guy on a dating site last year, we had a wonderful few months then he almost became a different person overnight and messed me about for another few months until I finally decided I was worth more than the crumbs he was feeding me and ended it.

I joined Match on friends' advice and rejoined PoF. I don't know what's happened to online dating over the past year but boy, am I finding it harsh this time around! Men I find attractive and make contact with rarely reply, which makes me feel a bit rubbish. The two that did reply both asked me on dates, but one stood me up and the other blocked me before we finalised arrangements. Guys who contact me either abruptly disappear (presumably because they've had a better offer) or provisionally arrange dates then also disappear or just block me!

For instance, last Friday I'd agreed to go on a date on the Sunday. I asked if he had any suggestions for where to meet and offered one of my own. I turned my phone on the next morning to find he'd blocked me. I could understand if I'd said something offensive or was coming on strong, but I hadn't!

Am I just having a run of exceptionally bad luck or do others have this kind of experience?!

Had a chick ask me to meet, arranged place, turned up, waited, waited, then eventually realised I'd been stood up. So I went back home, gave her an email she said oh I was working away and got caught up on the way home, I couldn't text as I'd left my phone a home (yeah right!) she said my phone number I emailed her wasn't working when she got back home to text, which is true, I'd mistakenly added another digit, however we agreed another date the next week, rinse and repeat, went there, waited and waited. By this time I had her text number.

Gave her a text and said I'm here are you not coming? She texted oh so sorry I am down in [town which I will not mention] tonight so sorreee!

I very quickly started typing out a text from hell, but then thought nah just leave it. I never bothered texting her again as if I did would prob end up with police at my door lol!

andrewm1981

Just thought I'd pop my head up on here to say I gave online dating a go. It was 6 years ago. Fast forward to now, been married a year, dated for 5 years before that and are very happy :-)

It can work, but as with most things the biggest challenges can give the biggest rewards :-)

Good luck!

JulieElizabeth

i long for the day that people actually talk to each other - what is will all this texting malarkey?

SailorSam

I thought women did better 'cos they had more choice ........... Isn't there always a lot more men on all these dating sites. But after reading this thread it seems we're all in the same boat.

onomatopoeia99

JulieElizabeth wrote: »

i long for the day that people actually talk to each other - what is will all this texting malarkey?

The appeal is the asynchronicity. You can still get a message to someone that is unable or unwilling to answer the telephone at that point. They don't have to be disturbed by the phone and interrupt what they are doing to answer you and possibly get dragged into a long conversation that they don't want at that moment. I treat the telephone as low down my list of priorities, answering is less important than watching something on the telly or reading a book, for example. but I might bash out a quick text.

[Deleted User]

I've been single for almost a year now and am enjoying the time to myself. I do wonder how easy it will be to meet a lady - especially with me being very carful with money.

would any ladies out there be happy to eat reduced price food everyday? How about going for a walk in the park rather than spending money on a dinner date? Any frugal ladies are welcome over here! :rotfl:

I think i'm too busy saving up for a house/retirement than looking for a partner. If the right person came along i would of course go for it.

I'm also against meeting people online or via apps - i don't think you can get your personality across online. Keep at it and don't let the few guys who mess you around get to you. I think most guys would see it as a game and wouldn't even think the person on the other side has feelings!

SailorSam

I think i've just found an alternative to Internet Dating.
Countryfile has just been on Bbc, were you watching it ?
There was a woman who was beachcoming along the banks of the Thames. She found some messages in bottles. One was frrom a young lad looking for ........ lurve ! He'd written his details and said if whoever found it wanted a date, then get in touch.
I'm going tomorrow to throw a bottle into the canal by me. It can't be any worse tham PoF.

caprikid1

I have been single on and off for a couple of years, certainly not gods gift and as a dad who has his children a lot with a busy job sometimes quite restrictive.


I tend to message quite a few people and if a conversation goes ok arrange to meet up.


Never been stood up, had two serious relationships (Now on the second) and made a few friends I am still in touch with.


I think in terms of men


1. Undateables
2. Married
3. Liars / Serial Daters
4. Decent - Won't be around for long.


A lot of women don't rush into meeting and have met a few that have not been on a date for 12 months.


Women
1. Inaccurate photos / description (Really whats the point).
2. Not seeking a relationship
3. Seriously fussy (1 date in 12 months).
4. Undatable - Crazy
5. Decent - Won't be around for long.


Don't take it serious, be sensible, stay safe and enjoy the richness that is meeting new people. I loved every moment of online dating.