Urgent advice needed re: lodger

Guest101

summerholiday wrote: »

My thoughts:

Take a deep breathe. Say to yourself: I am strong and in charge of what happens under my roof!

Get your priorities right and grow some backbone here! No more understanding - its his story - right?

And his story is of no further interest to you - you now judge and jury.

1) Retain any further post addressed to him. - Theft.

2) Write and let him know that you are prepared to shop him to the university if he does not pay you the outstanding monies. That should bring him down to earth. - Blackmail.

3) Write that should he not pay you the outstanding monies in one lump sum within 5 working days that you will take the matter further to the small claims court and mean it ! (Get papers ready to do so in the meanwhile). - Write a proper letter before action instead.

4) Do not return his goods until the debt is paid - (put them in the attic for safe keeping - do not tell him this). - Cheaper to get a court order for return of goods than to pay up



5) Is he really selling his guitar I doubt it. - Why doubt it?

Really the question is, are you prepared to take control here.

Proper advice - don't take this posters advice! It's shortsighted and likely to get you in trouble

CharlieRabbit01

with regards to the student loan, (if that was his reason for moving out) I expect he was claiming for the "living away from home" rate which is higher than the "living at home" rate, I very much doubt he could claim for estrangement/independence on this short space in time as he'd have a hard job proving it.

The university may or may not do anything about it as it is an SLC (student loan company) issue. if they find he has claimed falsely they will ask for the money back or potentially not give him as much in his next installment as a way to claim it back.

djdust

Ok, he's coming round tonight and arranging to meet his EBay buyers to sell his goods. I've just asked him how much he's going to be paying me tonight and what his plans are to pay back the rest of £450. His reply:

Well it's gone into my PayPal so has to go through my account. I'm selling a star trek dvd tonight (already has a bid) so once the PayPal goes through and is in my account I'll have enough to cover it. I'm hoping by Saturday. PayPal say it takes between 0-5 days and I haven't got the ones from Tues yet. The payment is still pending on my account atm

Funny thing is, when I transfer funds from my PayPal to my bank account, it's instant...

david1951

Personally I would stop worrying about what he is selling on Ebay and hiding in your own house and let him collect his stuff. When he comes I would give him a letter before action with a list of payments made and rent owing. I'd also send a copy of the letter first class with a certificate of posting to him at his mother's address.

After a week I'd open a claim. Despite the mother washing her hands of her son she might pressure him to pay up or settle it herself so he is not saddled with a CCJ.

If you want your money back, do this.

Trixi

djdust wrote: »

Ok, he's coming round tonight and arranging to meet his EBay buyers to sell his goods. I've just asked him how much he's going to be paying me tonight and what his plans are to pay back the rest of £450. His reply:

Funny thing is, when I transfer funds from my PayPal to my bank account, it's instant...

If he has a new account then it might be held for a few days so this isn't completely unbelievable.

djdust

Trixi wrote: »

If he has a new account then it might be held for a few days so this isn't completely unbelievable.

He's been on Ebay for years. I doubt his PayPal is new.

moneyistooshorttomention

Then hang onto his stuff for a while longer yet.

If you've made an arrangement to be there for him to "come round tonight" - then find an "unexpected emergency" coming up and you have to ring and cancel after all.

He's just lied to you - yet again.

djdust

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Then hang onto his stuff for a while longer yet. If you've made an arrangement to be there for him to "come round tonight" - then find an "unexpected emergency" coming up and you have to ring and cancel after all.

There's no point in doing that, it would just inflame the situation more, !!!! off his buyers and mean he'd be even more broke than he already is. As has been stated multiple times on here now, I can't hold his stuff to ransom and have no desire to anyway.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

He's just lied to you - yet again.

More than likely. He's here now, skulking away upstairs waiting for the buyer to arrive. Hasn't said one word to me of course.

moneyistooshorttomention

Can you arrange for the buyer to hand the money direct to you?

summerholiday

I hope this a genuine buyer or is it a friend of his with whom he has arranged a transaction only for your benefit but in actual fact will reverse the payment once he leaves your home ?