Urgent advice needed re: lodger

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Mojisola wrote: »

I agree. If I was the mother, that's what I would do.

Indeed - and, if I were the mother, then I would be mortified my son had treated one of my oldest friends this way and he would be getting a "right lecture" that he had no right to put my friendships at risk like that.

Smodlet

Were I the mother, he would have been brought up knowing better! Had he still behaved like this, I would have sold whatever belongings he had left in my house to cover the debt.

djdust

Person_one wrote: »

I don't understand, why didn't you just give him his stuff back?

Because, as I explained yesterday, I wasn't sure how to proceed and wanted to speak to his mum first.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

If she's that old a friend, I'd expect her to pay this and then get the money from him herself!

Well she didn't offer to pay herself and said he's a grown man now and it's nothing really to do with her and all she can do is nag him at her end. I can kinda see her point.

anselld

djdust wrote: »

Well she didn't offer to pay herself and said he's a grown man now and it's nothing really to do with her and all she can do is nag him at her end. I can kinda see her point.

+1 she should definitely pay. You are being soft again and she is taking the P nearly as much as the son.

Wouldn't you pay if things were the other way round?

Smodlet

If that is her attitude, no wonder his is as it is. If parents abdicate responsibility for their children, those children become parents who abdicate responsibility.... and the decent people left in the world have to suffer for it.

missbiggles1

djdust wrote: »

Because, as I explained yesterday, I wasn't sure how to proceed and wanted to speak to his mum first.


Well she didn't offer to pay herself and said he's a grown man now and it's nothing really to do with her and all she can do is nag him at her end. I can kinda see her point.

Not what I'd call a friend - much less an old friend!

Pixie5740

Why do you think he was lodging with you instead of staying with his mum....because she knows what a !!!!less little !!!! he is. Just because he is her son does not make her responsible for his debts and bills so I understand where she is coming from.

Person_one

djdust wrote: »

Because, as I explained yesterday, I wasn't sure how to proceed and wanted to speak to his mum first.

Sorry, but you know its his stuff, and you know its illegal for you to hang onto it if he wants it back.

You were in and he was there ready to take it, you really should have just handed it over instead of playing silly bu**ers hiding behind the curtains.

djdust

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Why do you think he was lodging with you instead of staying with his mum....because she knows what a !!!!less little !!!! he is.

Actually he was lodging with me because it had something to do with the fact that if he was living at home just before going to Uni he got a smaller grant or less preferential treatment for something or other. Not entirely sure what, he never really explained. Anyone got any idea what it could be..?

Pixie5740

djdust wrote: »

Actually he was lodging with me because it had something to do with the fact that if he was living at home just before going to Uni he got a smaller grant or less preferential treatment for something or other. Not entirely sure what, he never really explained. Anyone got any idea what it could be..?

How far do you live from his mother, in the same town? Is he going to university in that town and does he intend to live with his mother during his studies?