would you send someone's present 2 months after their birthday?

penguingirl

Me and my 2 best friends are terrible for punctual presents! Seriously it can be months, but we don't mind (and it's become a running joke). Also one of my friends doesn't drive so even if you do see her it doesn't guarentee your present, for example it was my birthday in April, and I saw her in May but we were going on holiday so because she had suitcase etc she didn't bring my present. I'll get it eventually! It's sort of just become part of our friendship that when the 3 of us see each other (we live in different cities) there is always some kind of exchange.

Fosterdog

For an adult it doesn't matter at all, it could be seen as being more thoughtful by wanting to be with the person to physically give them the gift instead of posting it.

For a friend's birthday I have bought tickets for us both to go and see a show later in the year, I knew it was something she would love and that her OH had no interest in going but would have just so she could see it. Her birthday was a few weeks ago so I gave her a card with message to say I am whisking her away for the day later in the year where we can have a nice day out together in the city go for a meal and then off to the show.

Even though she didn't get the actual gift on her birthday she loves what I have arranged for us far more than anything I could have given her on the day and it gives her something to look forward to

peachyprice

I would far rather receive a present 2 months after my birthday in person from the gift giver so that that can share the enjoyment of me opening it than receiving it in the post.

Georgiegirl256

When you see the cost of postage nowadays, it actually makes sense. Anything over a certain weight or size has to go with parcel force and is £12 upwards.

Also, as others have said, it's much lovelier to get the gift in person anyhow.

Just be grateful that someone cares enough about you to buy you a gift.

TBagpuss

It wouldn't bother me at all, particularly if the delay was so it could be given in person.

My brother in law and I both have birthdays in October. We exchanged gifts last year we I saw them at Christmas.

pigpen

Dill wrote: »

I gave them a present.. at the end of May!

Just a general question, anyway. Yes the recipient is an adult. I don't think it would feel like a birthday present if it was 2 months late, presonally. 2 days, maybe, or 2 weeks at a push, but not two months!

my birthday is 26th december.. the day my family come round and we exchange christmas presents.. and my birthday presents.. these are all lost in the christmasness of it all so getting gifts 2 months or even 6 months late would be absolutely wonderful. I loathe my birthday.

if it was a child i would try to get it there on time... birthdays are exciting events to children and they look forward to them and presents are part of what make them special.. but I would think an adult would like the giver to be there and understands why they got it later.. that makes it more exciting imo.

*max*

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. In fact, I'd prefer it if it saves stupid postage costs. It still shows they thought of you. I can't believe an adult would take offense at that, really. So petty and uptight.

Peter333

There is no one-size-fits-all for this, and it's very unfair for someone to say it's petty and uptight or childish for someone to get offended!

Where do people get off insulting and berating people who think differently to them, and who feel differently to them? It's very rude. This is happening quite a bit on here just lately.

Upshot is; if it was my birthday - say on 15th August - and someone who lived far away informed me they were coming down to my village in mid September, and would give me my gift then; I would be OK with it. But if they didn't say anything, and just turned up with it a month late, (or 2 months late!) it would put me under the impression that they couldn't be bothered, and it was an afterthought.

Also, I have known several people in the past who continually give cards and gifts 2 to 6 weeks late; but when it's done to them, they kick off. So as long as the person in question - who brings the gifts 2 months late - is OK with *their* gifts being just as late, then fine. Send them late. If you don't like YOURS late, then don't send gifts to others late!

If it's someone who lives closeby, and the gift is a month or two late, then that's an insult, as there's no excuse. and I re-iterate, they better be OK with it, if people send their stuff late too.

Trina90

My birthday is in September and I often don't get my presents from my Aunts until the year after! Even if I see them a few times in between too. Does it bother me in the slightest? No. I personally wouldn't do that but I don't see why it matters if someone does. They are probably on the lookout for something that would suit and haven't found it yet.

Peter333

Trina90 wrote: »

My birthday is in September and I often don't get my presents from my Aunts until the year after! Even if I see them a few times in between too. Does it bother me in the slightest? No. I personally wouldn't do that but I don't see why it matters if someone does. They are probably on the lookout for something that would suit and haven't found it yet.

I think that's actually very unlikely. If they know when your birthday is, surely they would start looking sooner.

IMO, when it's someone who lives closeby, and they don't bother giving gifts on time, and they see you several times after your birthday, and they STILL don't get you anything, it's just rude and inconsiderate. I frankly wouldn't want it 2 months late. It's an insult and an afterthought.

And as I said, most people who DO send gifts late all the time, shout the loudest, and complain the most when someone does it to them.