Changing Name By Deed Poll questions (merged)

nickyhutch

It's a deed poll, i changed mine years ago. I'd recommend doing it formally, though. As a child my mum changed mine without the deed poll and it caused difficulty later when getting driving licences and passports etc, always having to explain why my birth certificate wan't the same as my current name.

Also, if you do get married again, your son might not want your new husband's name. I'm geting re-married at some point and wouldn't dream of asking my son to change his name. I'm not changing mine, either, though, because my OH's ex had the same first name as me!

Mumstheword

astonsmummy wrote:

Hi
I i want us to have the same surname but dont want him to have mine

Any reason? That sounds like the best option really, especially as he's only 2 so wont be writing yet, or at school. He probabaly wont be aware of what his surname is or means just yet, so now would be a great time to change:)

astonsmummy

I just dont want us having different surnames, and i like his dad more than mine and i would not want to curse my son by giving him my name, i want it to die out like it should.
Maybe it would be easier to change both our names to my mums.

astonsmummy

Mumstheword wrote:

Any reason? That sounds like the best option really, especially as he's only 2 so wont be writing yet, or at school. He probabaly wont be aware of what his surname is or means just yet, so now would be a great time to change:)

because i dont want him having the same surname as my so called father, i want him to have nothing to do with him.

jellybean0k

My partner and I recently went to a solicitor to about getting my daughters name changed, expecting all kinds of complications, but, as I wasn't married to my ex, I can change my daughters name to whatever I want to, it's entirely up to me - bit ot I know, but there you go

Smashing

astonsmummy wrote:

because i dont want him having the same surname as my so called father, i want him to have nothing to do with him.

So instead you want you and your son to have the surname of a man you
a) Don't like
b) Never see

?

Your original surname has the connotations you choose to attatch to it. What better than to 'reclaim' your original name and build your own family and attatching your own meaning to it?
Having the same name as your father does not mean your son has to have anything to do with him if you choose for him not to.

Mumstheword

astonsmummy wrote:

Maybe it would be easier to change both our names to my mums.

Sounds like a nice idea:)

Janepig

astonsmummy wrote:

I just dont want us having different surnames, and i like his dad more than mine and i would not want to curse my son by giving him my name, i want it to die out like it should.
Maybe it would be easier to change both our names to my mums.

This sounds like the best idea AM. It sounds a little bit to me like your keen to change your name anyway (knowing how you feel about the "sperm donor"!!) so changing to your mum's name might be nice. And please don't give up hope of finding a worthy partner - I know you're still feeling bad having just dumped a useless @rsehole but the right man is out there just waiting for you to find him.

Jxx

astonsmummy

Smashing wrote:

So instead you want you and your son to have the surname of a man you
a) Don't like
b) Never see

?

Your original surname has the connotations you choose to attatch to it. What better than to 'reclaim' your original name and build your own family and attatching your own meaning to it?
Having the same name as your father does not mean your son has to have anything to do with him if you choose for him not to.

he already has HIS dads surname so i wouldn't of been chnaging his, and you seriously wouldnt understand the reasons why i dont want my name carried on through my son, it's alot more complicated than it seems, it's me who wants the name change and thought it would be the best decision to take my sons name.
I've decided to change both ours to my mums by deed pole it will just be easier.

astonsmummy

Janepig wrote:

This sounds like the best idea AM. It sounds a little bit to me like your keen to change your name anyway (knowing how you feel about the "sperm donor"!!) so changing to your mum's name might be nice. And please don't give up hope of finding a worthy partner - I know you're still feeling bad having just dumped a useless @rsehole but the right man is out there just waiting for you to find him.

Jxx

Thnx hun, i'm sure there is someone ou there but at the moment i just gonna concentrate on the boy and trying to sort my life out!:j