Do you send cards for anniversaries?

Pollycat

I send anniversary cards to our closest friends every year and buy a small gift.

To our other friends in our social circle I'd send cards on milestone years only.

TBagpuss

tea_lover wrote: »

I celebrated my divorce and would have thought any cards were great! It was a long time ago and they didn't seem to exist back then.

I think divorce cards are very much a 'know your audience' thing.

In relation to the original anniversay card question, I don't really fit any of the options in the poll.

I don't fele that thye are an 'of course' thing, but I do send cards to some pople - for instance, so farthis year I have sent anniversary cards to my paretns, and to my best friend. I will probably send one o my sister and her husband, if I remember.

But for all of them, it's a case of 'if I happen to remember' rather than anythign else. I love getting 'proper' post in general (personal letters and cards) and so make an effort to send them to others.

I would normally only send an anniversary card where there was a specifc reason - for exampkle, one of my aunts is organising a general family party later this year. Although the main reason for the party is just to get eveyone together, it is also partly because they have their their 40th Anniversarythis year, one person has their 60th borhtday and two people have their 70th, so it is celebbrating all of those things. I'll send them a card becuase the anniversary has ben brought to my attention and becaue they are hostingthe party. I probably wouldn't if it weren't or the party.

SingleSue

I not only give a card to my parents on their anniversary, I also treat them to a gift or a meal out or something (talking of which, any ideas for a 56th wedding anniversary present? Got until next weekend!)

My parents give anniversary cards to their children, not me of course as I am now divorced alongside a small gift.

balletshoes

peachyprice wrote: »

I voted 'only for milestones' but that would then be further restricted to only parents milestones or only if invited to a do.

I would never send to aunts, uncles, siblings, friends unless they were having a big celebration and neither would I expect them to send to me, which they don't, so it's all good here, no histrionics over forgotten cards in my family.

yes, this is me too (I voted "only if invited to a do") - I didn't send anniversary cards to my parents at all, they didn't have any parties to celebrate them.

Georgiegirl256

TBagpuss wrote: »

I think divorce cards are very much a 'know your audience' thing.

Exactly! You've got to know a person very well, and know that they would be ok with it.

lulu_92

MIL got annoyed with us because we didn't send her an anniversary card.

I think it's weird when people send couples cards. I will say "Happy Anniversary" if I see them and/or I remember, but I wouldn't send a card, especially if the wedding was before I met them or before I was born, which was the case with the in-laws as they married 10 years before I was born and 28 years before I met their son!

catkins

lulu_92 wrote: »

MIL got annoyed with us because we didn't send her an anniversary card.

I think it's weird when people send couples cards. I will say "Happy Anniversary" if I see them and/or I remember, but I wouldn't send a card, especially if the wedding was before I met them or before I was born, which was the case with the in-laws as they married 10 years before I was born and 28 years before I met their son!

Why does it matter that they got married before you knew them? Do you not send birthday cards to people that were born before you knew them?

Mojisola

lulu_92 wrote: »

MIL got annoyed with us because we didn't send her an anniversary card.

I think it's weird when people send couples cards. I will say "Happy Anniversary" if I see them and/or I remember, but I wouldn't send a card, especially if the wedding was before I met them or before I was born, which was the case with the in-laws as they married 10 years before I was born and 28 years before I met their son!

If it upsets his mother not to receive a card, why doesn't their son send them one?

Why is it your decision?

peachyprice

Mojisola wrote: »

If it upsets his mother not to receive a card, why doesn't their son send them one?

Why is it your decision?

That then goes straight back to only sending a card because you feel you have to, not because you want to.

It's plain wrong to make someone feel they HAVE to send a card.

Pollycat

catkins wrote: »

Why does it matter that they got married before you knew them? Do you not send birthday cards to people that were born before you knew them?

I agree with this ^^^

The friends that I send an anniversary card to were married before we met them but to me it's the relationship we have now that matters, not the one that existed (or didn't) when they got married.