Do you send cards for anniversaries?

frogwoman

Alikay wrote: »

Only for Silver, Ruby and Gold generally. Apart from my parents (when Dad was alive) who got a card every year because they were Jehovah's Witnesses. JW's for some reason, make a big deal of wedding anniversaries...probably because they don't do Christmas, Birthdays, Easter, Mothers/Fathers day!

I think people are now fed up with the myriad of cards available for every occasion. My husband and I have always exchanged cards in 43 years of marriage. But it's funny you should have mentioned JWs because the only other card we received this year was from our JW friends. Our daughter never sends, our parents and siblings are all deceased. Birthdays are a different matter, of course.

silvercar

I add wedding anniversaries to the birthday book. Would always send a card to close family and friends.

We keep cards on display for a month.

The closer the giver to the birthday person/ couple the more central the card is displayed.

Me, OH and 2 kids, roughly evenly spaced during the year. When there is a trivial and random decision to be made in the house, the person who has most recently had a birthday has casting vote.

lulu_92

catkins wrote: »

Why does it matter that they got married before you knew them? Do you not send birthday cards to people that were born before you knew them?

Of course I do, the two aren't comparable IMO. Everyone has a birthday, not everyone has an anniversary. I think an anniversary is a personal celebration anyway. You are married because you both decided to get hitched, it's not down to any one else's input.

Mojisola wrote: »

Unless her OH would like to send his parents a card but lulu has decided he shouldn't?

How mean do you think I am? Maybe I worded it wrong. She always expects cards for these occasions. I said to OH I found it weird, and I think he did end up sending her a card, but to me it felt forced. I would never make my kids feel like they *have* to send me a card for any reason, but I would also never expect them to send us anniversary cards.
And for the record I have never stopped OH from sending cards if he wants to, that is plain immature and I don't care about the issue enough to even consider doing so. If he wants to send his parents a card, so be it. It's not my job to sort it, just like it's not his job to sort out things for my parents. It just so happens we both feel anniversary cards for other people are a bit weird.

catkins

lulu_92 wrote: »

Of course I do, the two aren't comparable IMO. Everyone has a birthday, not everyone has an anniversary. I think an anniversary is a personal celebration anyway. You are married because you both decided to get hitched, it's not down to any one else's input.

It just so happens we both feel anniversary cards for other people are a bit weird.

I don't see how a birthday and a wedding anniversary are not comparable. In our house they are both celebrated in the same way - cards, presents, meal out, probably a day out or a night away.

Surely also a birth is only down to the parents' "input" as you phrase it? So shouldn't it, by that logic, be only parents and children that send each other birthday cards?

Maybe not everyone has an anniversary although plenty of people do. Almost everyone I know is married and not just living together.

If you feel giving anniversary cards to other people is weird that is your view and you don't send cards which is fine but lots of people do send cards as proven by this poll. Personally I would find it rude if I didn't send cards at least to my parents and siblings on their anniversary

lulu_92

catkins wrote: »

I don't see how a birthday and a wedding anniversary are not comparable. In our house they are both celebrated in the same way - cards, presents, meal out, probably a day out or a night away.

Surely also a birth is only down to the parents' "input" as you phrase it? So shouldn't it, by that logic, be only parents and children that send each other birthday cards?

Maybe not everyone has an anniversary although plenty of people do. Almost everyone I know is married and not just living together.

If you feel giving anniversary cards to other people is weird that is your view and you don't send cards which is fine but lots of people do send cards as proven by this poll. Personally I would find it rude if I didn't send cards at least to my parents and siblings on their anniversary

And that's it, everyone is different. My parents don't expect cards from anyone but each other and they would find it bizarre if I sent them one. I will send a text to my mum wishing her a happy anniversary, and OH will to his mum. The only reason this year was odd was because in the five years that OH and I have been together he has never (that I am aware of) sent his parents a card, so I wasn't sure why suddenly it was an issue. It wasn't a milestone anniversary either.

You send cards? Great, keep doing it. You don't send cards? Great, don't send them. As long as you don't feel forced to send one and it is actually because you want to, I don't see the issue, but for me personally I wouldn't choose to for reasons I've stated.

catkins

lulu_92 wrote: »

And that's it, everyone is different. My parents don't expect cards from anyone but each other and they would find it bizarre if I sent them one. I will send a text to my mum wishing her a happy anniversary, and OH will to his mum. The only reason this year was odd was because in the five years that OH and I have been together he has never (that I am aware of) sent his parents a card, so I wasn't sure why suddenly it was an issue. It wasn't a milestone anniversary either.

You send cards? Great, keep doing it. You don't send cards? Great, don't send them. As long as you don't feel forced to send one and it is actually because you want to, I don't see the issue, but for me personally I wouldn't choose to for reasons I've stated.

Just out of interest have you or would you send your parents a card for the 25th, 30th etc? Surely those ones are worth celebrating?

I can't remember how old I was when I started buying my parents an anniversary card (possibly when I started work at 17) but I wonder what made me start (certainly no pressure from my parents) and made others not bother

lulu_92

I probably will. I should have specified I will do things for milestone anniversaries.

Lily-Rose_3

lulu_92 wrote: »

And that's it, everyone is different. My parents don't expect cards from anyone but each other and they would find it bizarre if I sent them one. I will send a text to my mum wishing her a happy anniversary, and OH will to his mum. The only reason this year was odd was because in the five years that OH and I have been together he has never (that I am aware of) sent his parents a card, so I wasn't sure why suddenly it was an issue. It wasn't a milestone anniversary either.

You send cards? Great, keep doing it. You don't send cards? Great, don't send them. As long as you don't feel forced to send one and it is actually because you want to, I don't see the issue, but for me personally I wouldn't choose to for reasons I've stated.

I find it more than likely that the reason your parents would find it bizarre if you sent a card, is because you never send them one. It's probably not because they don't want one.

I don't see why would anyone think it bizarre, if their adult daughter sent them an anniversary card. :huh:

Pollycat

My friend that I mention in my post #81 sent me a 'sorry that your pet has died'.
Might sound crazy but she knew how hard it hit me & she & her OH were the ones who heard about his antics - he was a monster but I loved him.
I couldn't imagine anyone else sending me a card in the same circumstances but I did appreciate it very much.

Do people send condolence cards to friends/family on a death?

Lily-Rose_3

Pollycat wrote: »

My friend that I mention in my post #81 sent me a 'sorry that your pet has died'.
Might sound crazy but she knew how hard it hit me & she & her OH were the ones who heard about his antics - he was a monster but I loved him.
I couldn't imagine anyone else sending me a card in the same circumstances but I did appreciate it very much.

Do people send condolence cards to friends/family on a death?

Oh gosh yes! I have sent many sympathy cards to people. My daughter's friend's dad died 2 years ago - she was 17 and he was only 39. His death hit her like a meteorite! I sent a handmade sympathy card to her and her mother, and they said it was one of the sweetest things they had ever received. 2 years on, the card is in a frame in the dining room.

Also, sending a card for the death of a pet isn't common I don't think, but it's very sweet.