Do you send cards for anniversaries?

Person_one

Inspired by another thread, do you send cards to other couples (not to your own spouse!) on their wedding anniversary?

Some think its completely strange and that anniversaries are for the couple themselves and nobody else needs to remember or recognise them. Others give cards/gifts on 'milestone' anniversaries such as 25, 40, 50 etc, others only if they are invited to a party or celebration, others give a card to parents/siblings but not extended family or friends...

So...let's see what the majority view actually is!

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I'm going for "Yes, send a card, but only to family"

It's my 8th wedding anniversary tomorrow.. any ideas for a present!!?

Oh I'm screwed. At least I've got the card already, and flowers can be sorted in the morning.

I've got a few months to plan before her birthday; and I'm going to get some figurines made of the kids (https://www.asda-photo.co.uk/bookings/asda-3dme-a-miniature-3d-figure-from-asda-photo)

thriftylass

ringo_24601 wrote: »

I'm going for "Yes, send a card, but only to family"

It's my 8th wedding anniversary tomorrow.. any ideas for a present!!?

Oh I'm screwed. At least I've got the card already, and flowers can be sorted in the morning.

I got married two years ago. So last year was our 1st (paper) anniversary and I made some origami paper flowers for DH. I'll continue that theme I think as there is no point in a proper gift I prefer sth thoughtful like that. So this year will be our cotton anniversary.

The 8th is bronze.

Alikay

Only for Silver, Ruby and Gold generally. Apart from my parents (when Dad was alive) who got a card every year because they were Jehovah's Witnesses. JW's for some reason, make a big deal of wedding anniversaries...probably because they don't do Christmas, Birthdays, Easter, Mothers/Fathers day!

Tammykitty

I send a card to my parents most years.


My parents and My in laws send us anniversary cards and/or gifts


I would also bring a card or gift if their is a celebration.


You should be able to choose more than one option in the poll

Person_one

Tammykitty wrote: »

I send a card to my parents most years.


My parents and My in laws send us anniversary cards and/or gifts


I would also bring a card or gift if their is a celebration.


You should be able to choose more than one option in the poll

Being able to choose multiple options means you don't get as clear a picture of what is the 'norm' as one person could be represented 6 times and others only once.

Just choose the option that's closest to your opinion and explain in the comments if there's more you want to add, as you have!

PasturesNew

I only sent two, ever. Parents' 50th, I was staying with them at the time. Sibling's 40th as it occurred at a particularly distressing family time when we were in almost daily contact, so seemed 'appropriate' to mark it at the time.

I don't expect now to ever send another anniversary card, to anybody, ever.

There have never been any parties, or celebrations, of wedding anniversaries for anybody in my direct or indirect family that I am aware of.

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thriftylass wrote: »

I got married two years ago. So last year was our 1st (paper) anniversary and I made some origami paper flowers for DH. I'll continue that theme I think as there is no point in a proper gift I prefer sth thoughtful like that. So this year will be our cotton anniversary.

The 8th is bronze.

Yep, I know about the bronze

I was considering: https://www.amazon.co.uk/ENTWINED-Bronzed-Sculpture-Engagement-Anniversary/dp/B00BBFOIBK/

or https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bronze-Wedding-Anniversary-Hers-Coasters/dp/B01D35CEFM/ (little naff)

or https://www.amazon.co.uk/Leyu-Fashion-Engraved-Filigree-Necklace/dp/B00PNE85B4

I think the necklace is my favourite, and i could find some photos to pop in it. It's a bit cheap though.

I am so bad at picking presents

onlyroz

This is a small point of contention in our family. I don't see the need to remember anybody else's anniversary other than my own. My parents rarely remember their own anniversary let alone anybody else's. However, my sister-in-law and her family send cards for the most minor of events to all and sundry, and seemed to expect us to remember their anniversary, send a card at Easter etc etc.


I suppose I might note a milestone anniversary if it was important to the person involved. But my parents have been married 46 years and I don't remember them ever even mentioning their wedding anniversary (and I think my dad in particular would have to scratch his head to remember the date). We went out for a family meal a few months back and my aunt piped up "Oh and by the way it's your parents' wedding anniversary today". She was the only one who knew this at the entire table.

lisa110rry

We are a very small family. Only one of two nieces and our son are married. There are two widows and one unmarried niece. Son and daughter in law live in Dubai where it's really difficult to send post, but they get a greeting by phone. Our niece and nephew get a card.

And my husband and I have been exchanging anniversary cards with each other for 38 years now... 2017 marks our ruby wedding and we're planning a major holiday, though in the summer, not in December!

onlyroz

lisa110rry wrote: »

And my husband and I have been exchanging anniversary cards with each other for 38 years now... 2017 marks our ruby wedding and we're planning a major holiday, though in the summer, not in December!

You see to me a card is something you send in the post to somebody that you're not going to see in person on their birthday/Christmas etc. I wouldn't give a card to somebody that I was actually going to see unless I was giving money as a gift and needed something to put the money inside. I certainly would never get my husband any kind of card and I wouldn't want or expect one in return.