"My wedding present to my wife was a lovely new kitchen"

zagfles

Callie22 wrote: »

I don't particularly want to get married but if OH offered to do the kitchen as a wedding gift then I'd be up the aisle quicker than a Z-list celebrity with a contract with 'Hello' magazine

I don't think this thread is going the way the OP intended :rotfl:

Marvel1

When I see posts from people of "what can I buy my partner for birthday/Xmas/". The answers are normally "you know what your partner likes we don't". This is excatly the same, he knows what the Wife would like.

pigpen

If rather have a new front door and a downstairs toilet .. But a kitchen would be good too..

toniq

I think it's a lovely gift, I'd be made up if I had been gifted a new kitchen!

Instead my hubby has given me the budget to get a conservatory of my choice as my wedding present!!

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Mojisola

toniq wrote: »

I think it's a lovely gift, I'd be made up if I had been gifted a new kitchen!

Instead my hubby has given me the budget to get a conservatory of my choice as my wedding present!!

So why don't you use the money to get the kitchen you want?

Andypandyboy

I assume that those who give or pay for items such as kitchens or conservatories for their partners all have separate finances? We have always had had a joint pot out of which everything is bought so that circumstance wouldn't arise for us.

Mojisola

Andypandyboy wrote: »

I assume that those who give or pay for items such as kitchens or conservatories for their partners all have separate finances? We have always had had a joint pot out of which everything is bought so that circumstance wouldn't arise for us.

Same here. We also both share the decisions about major expenditures like this.

zagfles

Andypandyboy wrote: »

I assume that those who give or pay for items such as kitchens or conservatories for their partners all have separate finances? We have always had had a joint pot out of which everything is bought so that circumstance wouldn't arise for us.

Nope - we have totally joint finances, in spirit if not always technically, but we have "bought" each other "presents" including a kitchen, other home improvments, a car, holidays etc, ie stuff for both of us but where one of us has wanted it far more than the other.

Basically an agreement that we'll spend joint money on something one of us wants but the other doesn't! Might not fit some peoples' idea of a "present", but we really don't care, works for us!

Andypandyboy

zagfles wrote: »

Nope - we have totally joint finances, in spirit if not always technically, but we have "bought" each other "presents" including a kitchen, other home improvments, a car, holidays etc, ie stuff for both of us but where one of us has wanted it far more than the other.

Basically an agreement that we'll spend joint money on something one of us wants but the other doesn't! Might not fit some peoples' idea of a "present", but we really don't care, works for us!

What does that actually mean though? Are all your accounts joint and able to be accessed by both parties independently? If not, I wouldn't consider that a "technicality":D

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I'm a bit barmy, I'd love a new kitchen but obviously have a gender free warped brain, I'd have an orgasm over some top knotch DIY tool as well.

I'd like a flash ring, but if it was a choice between a kitchen or a tool or a ring (that knowing me I'd lose), the ring would be last on the list.

Obviously if the partner was someone who'd take offense at being given a kitchen, I'd hope the other partner would realise this before the ceremony lol.

I LOVE the comment about the xbox room decoration and being rather glad his wife didn't think about splitting up when she did it lol. Now that's right.