"My wedding present to my wife was a lovely new kitchen"

spadoosh

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Home improvements are joint issues they are not gifts. Nor do they last forever, in 15 years time that gift will be no more, whereas a piece of jewellry (not costing anywhere near the price of a kitchen) will always be a reminder of the day. Then do the kitchen with the remainder.

Gifts dont last forever nor do marriages, nor do people.

A ring would be pointless if she doesnt wear them, like the style or has a plethora of them already.

Anyway if you dont think its a gift, how about you just dont go buying kitchens for people and let the people who do think its a good gift crack on with it. Why question their marriage because it doesnt fit with your 'norms'.

missbiggles1

Is it normal to give your new spouse a present of any sort anyway?

spadoosh

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Is it normal to give your new spouse a present of any sort anyway?

Does it have to be?

Gloomendoom

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Home improvements are joint issues they are not gifts. Nor do they last forever, in 15 years time that gift will be no more, whereas a piece of jewellry (not costing anywhere near the price of a kitchen) will always be a reminder of the day. Then do the kitchen with the remainder.

Since when did wedding gifts have to last forever?

We got some boxes of chocolates. They didn't last long.

GlasweJen

A kitchen! Lol I think I'm missing out on something here

Out,_Vile_Jelly

spadoosh wrote: »

Anyway if you dont think its a gift, how about you just dont go buying kitchens for people and let the people who do think its a good gift crack on with it. Why question their marriage because it doesnt fit with your 'norms'.

Because it's funny, with the bit about pots and pans showing bordering on parody.

marleyboy

It would be just my luck to upgrade the kitchen only for it to look hideous, not to mention the inclusion of a pink bathroom surprise when she went upstairs....................She HATES pink

Spendless

So what?? My MIL only likes practical presents. She considers gifts that are 'luxuries' to be a waste of money.

zagfles

spadoosh wrote: »

Castration for the assumption of sexism.


My fiancee would love a kitchen as a wedding gift. Mainly because its far down the list of jobs to do but one she can see and enjoy the most.

Do you not think that the guy would know what his OH might want or would like?

Or is it because its a bloke buying a women a present that everyone thinks he didnt think about it and thought the easiest/best option was to buy a kitchen? Man sexism that!

You're new here aren't you

Incidentally my fiancee likes to buy me power tools for my birthdays and christmas. She seems to think that becuase i use them there is a desire for them too, so when i say i need a new sander or need a chop saw she actually hears, i would like, when the reality is its needed (or extremely helpful) to do a job that i dont want to do that shes is wanting me to do.

Grounds for divorce that. Or even extreme domestic violence. Oh hang on, you're a bloke aren't you.

My wife really wants a kitchen for her birthday - but I'm not daft - no way I'm falling for that. It might be late and when I complain about it a load of petty judgemental trolls might criticise my present choice. She'll get jewellery and perfume, the usual tat. Safe bet. And a lot cheaper :money:

missbiggles1

spadoosh wrote: »

Does it have to be?

No, of course not but, if it isn't, then a kitchen is more than most people get so it's a bonus.

I think you just give each other a ring and that's it.