"My wedding present to my wife was a lovely new kitchen"

missbiggles1

Andypandyboy wrote: »

You can count me in this group I am afraid. We like to move with the times and an Avocado suite was hideous at the time and it has certainly been bettered by the fittings available today.

I suppose it is like fashion, would you wear a shell suit or hotpants today regardless of how well they had worn?

Surely that's a question of choice though? The other poster specifically said "really need to be changed" - I'd hope we all appreciate the difference between wants and needs.

Andypandyboy

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Surely that's a question of choice though? The other poster specifically said "really need to be changed" - I'd hope we all appreciate the difference between wants and needs.

I think need is often subjective though. I would think it needed to be changed, and as I would have the money to do that in a new property, that is what I would do. However, if the money wasn't there I would have to put up with it, but it would remain something I thought needed doing rather than something I wanted to do and it may well take precedence over other things which I could more easily live with.

theoretica

Andypandyboy wrote: »

I think need is often subjective though. I would think it needed to be changed, and as I would have the money to do that in a new property, that is what I would do. However, if the money wasn't there I would have to put up with it, but it would remain something I thought needed doing rather than something I wanted to do and it may well take precedence over other things which I could more easily live with.

And what if your partner's list was in a very different order?

missbiggles1

Andypandyboy wrote: »

I think need is often subjective though. I would think it needed to be changed, and as I would have the money to do that in a new property, that is what I would do. However, if the money wasn't there I would have to put up with it, but it would remain something I thought needed doing rather than something I wanted to do and it may well take precedence over other things which I could more easily live with.

I would certainly want it to be changed but I'd know that this was my personal preference and nowhere near a need.

pigpen

avogadro wrote: »

I suppose you could compare it to a wife buying her husband a nice garden shed.

My OH would love me forever and be a slave for a month.. It is a very nice shed though.. Is it on your 'want' list?

Andypandyboy

theoretica wrote: »

And what if your partner's list was in a very different order?

Then we would discuss it and draw up a list of priorities that we were both happy with.

duchy

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Then we would discuss it and draw up a list of priorities that we were both happy with.

It seems that to some allowing a partners preference to come higher up the list is a gift they give them.

As for gender and DIY in my job I often need to get customers to unscrew their phone socket ......women in general especially younger women tend to know where the screwdrivers are and get on with it .....whilst men need to ask where it is and moan and groan about doing it.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

Happy Birthday Wifey!

For your present I've had the gutters cleaned and paid for it out of my own account rather than the joint one.

Many happy returns! Love n snuggles from Hubbiekins x

duchy

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

Happy Birthday Wifey!

For your present I've had the gutters cleaned and paid for it out of my own account rather than the joint one.

Many happy returns! Love n snuggles from Hubbiekins x

Dinner for Hubikins tonight is cold shoulder and tongue pie then

zagfles

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

Happy Birthday Wifey!

For your present I've had the gutters cleaned and paid for it out of my own account rather than the joint one.

Many happy returns! Love n snuggles from Hubbiekins x

An ex gf of mine got me a car cleaning kit for my birthday! Unfortunately we split up a few weeks before her birthday - I was so looking forwards to getting her a presentation pack of Pledge :rotfl: