Buying grand mother's house

penguingirl

Really sorry to hear this, hope you find a solution that works for you all.

I appreciate you may be less concerned about the original question now, but could you not just move in with her (maybe initially as a trial period) and keep it a money- free arrangement? You'd still have your house (maybe rent it out if it becomes long term) and she'd have hers, but you'd get to provide care/ company from here which is what your intention seems to be. The idea of buying it just seems a bit unnecessary.

xylophone

Is Grandma capable of granting PoA? It would be sensible to sort this out.

It sounds as if she may have had a "mini stroke" (TIA)?

These can re occur - an old friend who died in her 99th year (and lived alone until she was 96) had a few of them.

It may be (if your grandma will accept it), that a live in carer can be organised?

Otherwise it may be necessary to accept that she will need to go into care - the worry is that she has another stroke and a fall and cannot get to the phone.

An alarm round the neck device is useful, but not when the owner takes it off and leaves it sitting in the fruit bowl.....

Even when worn, the owner may be too confused to remember to press the button.

It will probably be some weeks before any decision needs to be made but it might be as well to begin looking into matters.

A relative's relative ( now 94) has now been nearly three years in care after insisting on staying in her own home alone and that after a broken hip, a broken left wrist, knee surgery, cataract surgery...

Eventually a fall that caused a right wrist fracture required eight weeks in rehab and a decision to sell the house - her relative who lived over 60 miles away was glad to be relieved of the constant worry as to whether she had fallen/ dropped a pan and scalded herself/fallen on the stairs/ slipped on the step that led to the downstairs loo etc etc

elsien

If your grandmother is well enough, a letter authorising you/your wife to speak to financial institutions on her behalf would allow them to share information that may otherwise be difficult due to data protection.
A third party bank mandate would allow you to pay bills from her account but she must have capacity in order to set this up. It may do as a temporary measure if she's not got the level of understanding needed for the POA.

Kynthia

I'm sorry to hear that. See how it goes with the carers and regular visits but be prepared by looking into retirement flats and care homes. That way if it doesn't work out you'll be more ready to move to the alternative. You aren't a prisoner in a care home and it's not like hospital either, your family can still take you on trips and home for lunch. My nan went into them twice and had a lovely garden room and all her stuff there to make it feel like her room at home. She'd then keep chocolates and booze in her cupboard and treat herself to both each night.