NSPCC report

Gigervamp

Why did the police still believe that the neighbour made a mistake, after OP showed them the certificate proving that her child wasn't even there at the time the neighbour said she saw this "incident"? Doesn't make sense.

OP, it sounds like the police are fobbing you off. Hope the crime commissioner helps.

I also agree with you about letting them in. If you'd been obstructive, it wouldn't have looked very good. Mind you, I would've asked them not to wake the children and offered another time when they could speak to the children.

Hope you get this sorted out, it must be a nightmare for you.

Guest101

Gigervamp wrote: »

Why did the police still believe that the neighbour made a mistake, after OP showed them the certificate proving that her child wasn't even there at the time the neighbour said she saw this "incident"? Doesn't make sense.

OP, it sounds like the police are fobbing you off. Hope the crime commissioner helps.

I also agree with you about letting them in. If you'd been obstructive, it wouldn't have looked very good. Mind you, I would've asked them not to wake the children and offered another time when they could speak to the children.

Hope you get this sorted out, it must be a nightmare for you.

Realistically there are no consequences to 'not looking very good', it's not a crime and you aren't going to prison for it.


The police were there to carry out a welfare check, which is fair enough. However before letting them in, find out what it's all about, record it if necessary and certainly make a complaint afterwards.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I showed the police the certificate etc first so they knew DD wasn't at home. They said they still needed to see her, I asked 'what now?!' And they said 'immediately'

They woke DD up and told her who they was, and asked her questions they then woke my youngest up, checked her too

I'm not a 'guilty until proven innocent' - quite the opposite, but I've never had the police knock on the door unless I've called them so thought it was best to do what they said

I realise they were following up the report but I told them there was a history of things happening so they did know there were other issues to be considered

Guest101

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

I showed the police the certificate etc first so they knew DD wasn't at home. They said they still needed to see her, I asked 'what now?!' And they said 'immediately'

They woke DD up and told her who they was, and asked her questions they then woke my youngest up, checked her too

I'm not a 'guilty until proven innocent' - quite the opposite, but I've never had the police knock on the door unless I've called them so thought it was best to do what they said

I realise they were following up the report but I told them there was a history of things happening so they did know there were other issues to be considered

Strangers are in your home. I wouldn't be so eager to help personally.

duchy

Guest101 wrote: »

Strangers are in your home. I wouldn't be so eager to help personally.

Most people aren't as paranoid as you though.

If the OP wants the police to support her in an anti harassment order (which although not essential is useful to have when applying) and has nothing to hide- what would the point be in obstructing them rather than helpfully showing them the allegations were complete BS ?

swingaloo

Nothing worse than malicious people out to cause trouble for you. If you are not used to the police knocking on your door at all times most people would let them in. Especially if you have nothing to hide.

They knocked on my door at 3.45am and I went down and let them in, they were looking for someone in the village with the same surname as us who had battered his wife and done a runner and they wanted to know if we were related and if so had he by any chance come to us to hide. (we were not).

Why does Guest insist on belittling and patronising so many posters on here with the red writing and sarcasm underneath every sentence. Its not helpful to the posters at all.

meritaten

Mimi - you were absolutely right to co-operate with the police. But, if it does happen again I would not let them wake up a sleeping child - jeez I think I would freak out if woken by the police in the middle of the night and interrogated!
Just say politely that they can peek in on her - but not wake her. You provided enough evidence she wasn't even there at the time in question!

I have been wondering how you can help her with this experience, perhaps if the local PCSO popped in to see her and have a chat - just generally asking about how she felt and to explain they have to check on children, but were sorry they scared her? perhaps the new Police commissioner could arrange this?
I would just keep reassuring her that she had done nothing wrong and the police were just being careful to make sure she was alright.
as for the neighbour you have been having trouble with.........I have said before 'You are just TOO nice'!
Knock on her door and say 'If you EVER make a malicious report about me again - I will beat you to a pulp'! then walk off. Don't look back, just stalk off in high dudgeon - violence seems to be the only language she understands.

theoretica

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

I'm not 100% what people will "see" on the report - I would assume it would say "false" report somewhere. I just think, as it was a completely false thing, it shouldn't be there at all. I see what you're saying though.

If there was no record of this malicious report then you would not have it to refer to if whoever it was tries again. Surely you want a 'not again' response rather than starting over from the beginning?

You know your children best, but do you think there is a way the police could help make her feel happier? An invitation to the police station or explanation from them or something? This is something they might be able to work with you on, if you ask. Or possibly for the whole Brownie troup if you think that would go down better.

Gigervamp

meritaten wrote: »

Knock on her door and say 'If you EVER make a malicious report about me again - I will beat you to a pulp'! then walk off. Don't look back, just stalk off in high dudgeon - violence seems to be the only language she understands.

I don't think that would be wise. If this woman has already involved the police, I wouldn't put it past her to tell them that Mimi's assaulted her.

She will realise that Mimi is a decent person, unlike her, so won't believe a threat like that. Besides, you shouldn't make threats that you're not going to follow up.

Person_one

meritaten wrote: »

Knock on her door and say 'If you EVER make a malicious report about me again - I will beat you to a pulp'! then walk off. Don't look back, just stalk off in high dudgeon - violence seems to be the only language she understands.

So that she can make another complaint to the police, and this time it would actually be true?

OP, I think you're doing everything right. Keep that cool head, it can only work in your favour long term.