Adult sharing inappropriate content

settlerofcatan

k3lvc wrote: »

No justification for the fathers actions from me - it's wrong on so many levels but Mother seems to absolved herself of all responsibility in providing pre-teen son with a platform on which this can happen and not apparently seeing any issue with this (nor stopping it)


Views/anger etc between estranged Parents will always be there in todays society - maybe having the balls to challenge the Father and discussing the rights/wrongs rather than running to Police/Social Services and expecting them to pick up the pieces of a broken relationship would be more worthwhile

I don't think it should be my responsibility to explain to a fully grown adult that it's wrong to share !!!!!! with children. There were other children involved in this chat too.

Nothing to do with a 'broken relationship'. We've been divorced for a decade.

Guest101

pollypenny wrote: »

What a creep this guy is!

I would t let him near my sons, even though they are his sons, too. Let him go to court and explain his dirty dealings to a judge!

Yes punish the children for this....

Guest101

settlerofcatan wrote: »

I don't think it should be my responsibility to explain to a fully grown adult that it's wrong to share !!!!!! with children. There were other children involved in this chat too.

Nothing to do with a 'broken relationship'. We've been divorced for a decade.

Clearly it is otherwise you'd have a healthy relationship where you could just tell him you aren't happy instead of wasting taxpayers money

k3lvc

settlerofcatan wrote: »

I don't think it should be my responsibility to explain to a fully grown adult that it's wrong to share !!!!!! with children. There were other children involved in this chat too.

Nothing to do with a 'broken relationship'. We've been divorced for a decade.

So you've no joint responsibility ? Instead you absolve this to others to fix issues around the son you both created. As far as I'm concerned until you've

a) stopped his social media accounts that he's not old enough for

b) sat down with Father and son and discussed the issue face to face as grown ups

then you're wasting our time here.

I'm clear that from what you've said the Fathers behaviour is inappropriate but it's not up to anyone else other than you to sort this out - only if there is absolute evidence of illegality within a 'family' unit should the Police have to be involved

skint_chick

It seems like there's a whole other issue here in that Sam's dad has been teasing and bullying him about another issue as well as the inappropriate for his age content. Surely you should be dealing with that as well? It's not appropriate for anyone to be teased or bullied, especially not by a parent who should have more emotional maturity to know that is not acceptable.




I would have thought you should have a conversation directly with his father about the situation in general, not just the images. Why is he bullying a child? And why is it being allowed to continue? Maybe it is more appropriate for contact with their father to happen in a different situation than currently until the father can change his behaviour? By allowing this to continue when you are aware of it you are reinforcing in Sam's mind that it is acceptable for his dad to make fun of him and bully him.

settlerofcatan

It's not 'issues around a son we've both created' it's an adult sharing !!!!!! with a bunch of children.

I don't know any of the other children or how safe they are.

You shouldn't have to tell an adult 'don't show hardcore !!!!!! to a twelve year old'.

Guest101

settlerofcatan wrote: »

It's not 'issues around a son we've both created' it's an adult sharing !!!!!! with a bunch of children.

I don't know any of the other children or how safe they are.

You shouldn't have to tell an adult 'don't show hardcore !!!!!! to a twelve year old'.

Well the police have put your mind at ease now, all those children are safe and well.


Equally you shouldn't have to tell an adult - don't let your child use inappropriate social media... should you?

missbiggles1

pollypenny wrote: »

What a creep this guy is!

I would t let him near my sons, even though they are his sons, too. Let him go to court and explain his dirty dealings to a judge!

Agreed - this doesn't sound that far away from grooming.:(

settlerofcatan

skint_chick wrote: »

It seems like there's a whole other issue here in that Sam's dad has been teasing and bullying him about another issue as well as the inappropriate for his age content. Surely you should be dealing with that as well? It's not appropriate for anyone to be teased or bullied, especially not by a parent who should have more emotional maturity to know that is not acceptable.




I would have thought you should have a conversation directly with his father about the situation in general, not just the images. Why is he bullying a child? And why is it being allowed to continue? Maybe it is more appropriate for contact with their father to happen in a different situation than currently until the father can change his behaviour? By allowing this to continue when you are aware of it you are reinforcing in Sam's mind that it is acceptable for his dad to make fun of him and bully him.

I've tried to talk to him about the bullying. I don't think he sees it or cares. He's never listened to anything I've got to say, to be honest, and he always thinks he's right. So instead we've concentrated on trying to boost Sam's confidence and sense of self. And I've always felt that, on balance, it's best for him to visit his dad and build a relationship with him.

missbiggles1

Guest101 wrote: »

Clearly it is otherwise you'd have a healthy relationship where you could just tell him you aren't happy instead of wasting taxpayers money

But it isn't just the OP's son who's involved, there are other children at risk here.