Trying To Concieve

shelly

butterfly72 wrote: »

Well, we are still trying but not that often!! The OH is away but we managed to do it on CD9. I don't have a clue when I ovulate, although I did get a couple of twinges down there on CD11 and 12 but I suspect that CD9 is a bit too early in anycase?? My cycle is usually 28-30 as days. I really should find out when I ovulate!:o

grandslamgirl kindly gave me this link for working out when you ovulate http://www.ovulation-calendar.net/



Good Luck

mum2one

I read the last few pages of this thread with tears in my eyes, tears of joy for people expecting, congratulations, and tears of sadness for those on the ttc roller coaster.

All I can say is good luck to one and all and I wish you all the best, sometimes it just happens, I got told in my early 20s that it would be inlikely that I would concieve, as I had a couple of miscarriages, and other health issues. It was weird, as my boyfriend at the time would of done anything to be a dad, but sadly it wasnt to be, we split up after 2 yrs, not from not getting pregnant, we grew apart and there we were.

I since went on and had another 3 miscarriages, I felt like that the world was against me and I was being punished for the way I had been, (I had irresponsible and reckless times when I was younger), then back in 98 and again in 2000, i had car accidents, after the 2nd one I got told it would be unlikely that my body would cope with a pregnancy, by this time I was nearly 30 single, from 98 to 2001, I threw myself into work and holidays they were my life time, in 2001 I went to Mexico, had already got my plans for 2002, kenya in March, move to Devon new start, had a 7mth job lined up, then Goa end Nov, when the season had finished, and children were a distant dream

I had treatment for precancerous cells in 2000, not a gd yr!

I met my ex in Nov 01, he had been previuosly married, told me straight away that he had been married 10 yrs and had no children, they presumed he was seedless, I was overweight, so chances of conception pretty much zero, so to be honest we were not always 100% careful, mid jan 02, the gp thought I had a kidney infection, as my previous history and time of month was so all over the place, pregnancy test, we both laughed at, come back in a week if your still suffering, look into admitting you to hospital.

Week later, I was still double upped in pain, was early for the docs so stopped to do some shopping, ended up buying a pregnancy test, went to Mcdonalds, nearest loo, oh my god the test turned positive, did the 2nd one straight away, even after seeing the gp, he did a test, I still did 2 more. I was on tender hooks, my life turned upside down, my partner left when I was 7 mhs gone, kenya and goa are distant dreams, but I now have the most beautiful daughter, she'll be 6 in September, afraid my back didnt come of it very well, my daughter calls my crutched charlie 1 and charlie 2. I know that I could never risk a 2nd child, but after babbling on for an eternity, (sorry), just wanted to say miracles do happen x

waddy80

Just found out that another friend of mine is pregnant. So that's 2 with children recently, and 6 that are pregnant, with 1 due to drop any minute.

I am thrilled for the most recent friend, especially as she has been trying for 2 years. Very rarely has periods, and has various problems, she truely thought it wouldn't happen. So it's another hopefull story.

However, and bare with me as I know this has been discussed before, I'm finding it really hard to hide my jealousy. I wish I was a better person, but my stomach virtually sank when she told me.

We've only properly been trying for 4 months, and probably need to 'try' (if you know what I mean) a bit more often, but I soooo want it to be me. It's strange, as I had none of this baby fever 12 months ago, but now it's all I think about. It sort of crept up on me and then BOOM!

I think the only thing I can do is be straight with my friend and tell her how I feel, so that I can be there for her in my way.

I've got another 10 days until AF is due (ish) so I'm gonna hope for a BFP!

shelly

waddy80 wrote: »

I think the only thing I can do is be straight with my friend and tell her how I feel, so that I can be there for her in my way.

I know what you mean and how you feel as we have been TTC for 4 years but honestly, I wouldn't tell any friend of mine that her news made me feel bad in any way. I know you are thrilled for her but you also feel bad as your stomach virtually sank when she told you. I wouldn't want her to look back at this precious time and think about it making me sad.

The way I cope when a friend tells me she is expecting is to have a huge grin on my face and say "Oh thats fantastic news and I am so envious of you!"

Its up to you, this is just my 2p worth

Good Luck

shelly

osian wrote: »

Oh - something else to think about which may or may not be helpful. I recently went for my 12 week scan, and the sonographer told me I have a tilted womb. I googled it, and about 20% of women have this. I read that if you do have a tilted womb, it may be best to 'do it' from behind and lay on your stomach afterwards, if trying to concieve. I had been lifting my legs up onto the wall, I guess that made it more difficult! So, if you have been trying for a while, maybe try this way to cover all angles. I had no idea I had this.

Good luck! x

A quick question about this advice. Do you just lay flat on your tummy and thats it or do you put a pillow under your nether regions to tilt you even more?

Thanks

rottiemiss

hey all

This will be our 1st month ttc . Trying not to get too obsessed about it but it seems to be all we talk about when we're alone. We haven't told any family, I have an extremely fertile sister and everyone assumes I'll find it just as easy to conceive as all 4 times she did.

It's nice to have somewher to come on here to find your not alone!!

xx

osian

shelly wrote: »

A quick question about this advice. Do you just lay flat on your tummy and thats it or do you put a pillow under your nether regions to tilt you even more?

Thanks

Hi Shelly,

From what I read, people just lie flat on their stomach, but depending on the degree of tilt (i.e if it is very tilted) it may be best to raise the pelvic area with pillows or go on hands and knees with the bum in the air. Then again, I have also read that it doesn't really matter, that the sperm will find their way regardless.

It is just strange, but after my miscarriage I tried to concieve for 7 months and always put my legs up in the air for 20-30 mins, with no success. The month I did concieve, I wasn't really trying as I was so sick of it all and just lay on the sofa afterwards watching telly. I think when I first concieved (with the pregnancy that miscarried) I just lay flat too, as at that time we were not really trying that hard.

It could have some relevance, or maybe I was just more relaxed - I am not sure.

xxx

miss_pink

Hi everyone, congrats to startingttc:j and good luck to everyone waiting for their BFP
(waddy80 know exactly how you are feeling:grouphug: have a hug)

My AF was due yesterday 16/Th but nothing... not even the dull sore tummy pains or sore boobs. I don't want to get my hopes up as the last time I was late and tested I started to get stomach cramps as soon as the "not pregnant" words appeared and AF followed 20 mins later.

Any idea when I should test? :think:

TIA

x

waddy80

shelly wrote: »

I know what you mean and how you feel as we have been TTC for 4 years but honestly, I wouldn't tell any friend of mine that her news made me feel bad in any way. I know you are thrilled for her but you also feel bad as your stomach virtually sank when she told you. I wouldn't want her to look back at this precious time and think about it making me sad.

The way I cope when a friend tells me she is expecting is to have a huge grin on my face and say "Oh thats fantastic news and I am so envious of you!"

Its up to you, this is just my 2p worth

Good Luck

Thanks shelly, I still think I will tell her how I feel, that's the sort of relationship we have, but with other friends I probably wouldn't.

Anyway i'm feeling much better now, which could have soething to do with a couple of pints in the local!

mum2one

waddy80 wrote: »

Thanks shelly, I still think I will tell her how I feel, that's the sort of relationship we have, but with other friends I probably wouldn't.

Anyway i'm feeling much better now, which could have soething to do with a couple of pints in the local!

I would just say have another think before you tell her how you feel, I it sounds silly coming from someone who has a child, even if you are very closefriends, pregnancy and hormones dont always mix, and although in ur heart of hearts you are only being honest, it may be misread.

I know where your coming from, as now I know that I cant have any more chldren, and eben when friends are having their 1st, or 2nd that pang still hurts, and Ihave shed a tear or two, I feel like Im being selfish and should be over themoon with my daughter, which of course I am, but there will always be that little gap.

Why cant they produce a pill which makes us come outwith right words that the person wants to hear not what we want to say.

x