Trying To Concieve

Js_Other_Half

FairyElephant wrote: »

'Morning all!

Well, now I am officially PUPO! (Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise!!!!!).

One out of three of the frozen Embies thawed succesfully and was implanted on Sat at midday.

Start eating the fresh pineapple now then!

Fingers firmly crossed:beer:

FairyElephant_2

Sunny_Saver wrote: »

Hello

Someone told me that it was really expensive to have IVF treatment even on NHS. Is this true please?

Thanks!

Hi Sunny,
IVF on the NHS is dependant on where you live and your circumstances. Many PCT's seem to use all the excuses they can to make you pay for it!
We didn't qualify because my DH had children from a previous marriage, even though I have never had any myself.
If you have to pay, it depends on what you need - sometimes you can get some tests done on the NHS, which helps to keep the costs down.

Eg costs where I go:
Initital consultationfor assisted conception £210
Diagnostic scan £120
Semen analysys £135
Basic set of blood tests £380
IVF procedure £2635
ICSI procedure £3510
HFEA licence fee ££105
Drugs - as required but ranges from £450 to £1350

There are loads of other things like assisted hatching, embryo freezing, I could go on & on - but that gives you some idea!

Hope this helps,

FE

FairyElephant_2

jiblets1 wrote: »

Fairy Elephant what wonderful news for you!

If you don't mind me asking, what sort of time scale have you had? (when did you start ttc, when did you get referred for further testing....)

Hi Jiblets!

this is gonna be a long one - but you did ask - LOL!

We started TTC 4 years ago - I was 35 & DH 44, so time a bit against us, but second marriages for us both. DH had a vasectomy reversal.

I fought with Dr's for ages for tests as I was sure something not right after about 8 months TTC, but they kept fobbing me off. Evetually I got blood tests done after about a year - only because I took a copy of the NICE guidelines with me and made such a fuss!
We were not eligable for NHS fertility treatment as DH has kids from his previous marriage, so as we are paying, the referral didn't take too long! We got our 1st appt in about 1 month from the letter from the GP - mind you I was on the phone to clinic & faxing copies of letters here there & everywhere!

We discovered I have PCOS - the GP should have been able to diagnose this ages ago from my sysmptoms....but didn't. We tried Metformin and then Clomid, both to no avail - about 3 cycles on each to my memory.
Then discovered DH had developed antisperm antibodies (although his SA was fine at first after the reversal) so it's ICSI or nothing...

We had our first ICsI cycle Oct/Nov last year. It worked! But we were devastated to find it was ectopic at 10 wks so had to have Methotrexate to bring on M/C. Very miserable Xmas & NY in & out of hospital.

Would have tried FET (frozen embryo transfer - we had 3 embies 'spare' from the ICSI cycle) cycle in April, but I discovered breast lumps, so put on hold.

After all-clear in June we would have tried again last cycle - but I didn't OV!

So this cycle we were all prepared to start the meds at CD 19 to have a 'controlled cycle' - but I OV'd naturally on CD15!

So that's the abridged version of our 'TTC Rollercoaster Ride' as we call it. It's been darn tough, and we fall off every so often, but we pick ourselves up, write another cheque, and climb back on - what else can you do?

Thank goodness for generous Mum and understanding bank managers!

FE

jiblets1

Wow FE, you've been pushing hard on this for a while then. Well done you! And thanks for sharing...

Icklebeans

Hello,

We are in our first month of trying to conceive. I posted here earlier in the month totally convinced I had conceived. Did a test on Sat, early due to first month and being really excited etc. It was day 24 and over the past 7 months my cycle has been 25 to 29 days and I have been able to regularlary check when I have been ovulating via the mucus levels.Had cramps too which pointed towards implantation.

Negative. Husbands birthday too plus we were going camping. We still went a way and had a good time.

But, just feel incredibley disappointed. Ok, bit naive to think it could happen first time (BTW no AF yet, still waiting for it to arrive, today is day 26). Hubby and I have planned everything and have lead our lives just how we wanted it. I have held out at work ( been there 6.5 years, loved it, now hate it) and so disappointed that there wasn't a positive sign as the time is so right for us.

I know it is daft. I know there are lots of people who have been trying for years - we just never know if/when it is going to happen do we?

Just want to air my frustration as it is our first time and not experienced these emotions before.

ClaireLR

FE - so glad that everythings gone well so far for you, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed as well as everything else, keep us updated wont you!! Hope it doesn't drive you to crazy waiting, try and keep busy and maybe have a little pamper time as often as poss to keep the stress levels down! I do hope everything goes well for you this time, Judging from that last post you certainly deserve it!!!

Awwww Icklebeans, it's my first month TTC to, I know exactly how you're feeling - I also realise that lots of people TTC for years and years before it happens - but I don't want to wait!!! However - I've got PCOS and so I know I'm in this for the long haul. BUT, since I've come to that conclusion I feel so much better and more patient and relaxed - something which of course is very important when TTC!! Sooooo, try and chill a little, I know it's not easy (believe me I know) but it will happen for you sooner or later!! If you ever want to talk (or moan) feel free to PM me - we can be impatient together :rotfl:

Babydust and glue to all

ginvzt

Icklebeans wrote: »

But, just feel incredibley disappointed. Ok, bit naive to think it could happen first time (BTW no AF yet, still waiting for it to arrive, today is day 26). Hubby and I have planned everything and have lead our lives just how we wanted it. I have held out at work ( been there 6.5 years, loved it, now hate it) and so disappointed that there wasn't a positive sign as the time is so right for us.

I know it is daft. I know there are lots of people who have been trying for years - we just never know if/when it is going to happen do we?

Just want to air my frustration as it is our first time and not experienced these emotions before.

I know what you mean... I hate my new job and just want to get my 9 months off!!!! I do through ups and downs - this is 11th month ttc (well, we had a 2 month break this spring). I hope it happens soon as it is getting harder with every cycle. My friends have babies already and friends from OH side seems to have hit that time as well and there is a never ending line of new mums and mums-to-be... And I so wish to be one of them... A couple whose wedding we attended last year, after we were already ttc are hving a baby girl next month and other friends got lucky (after a long battle, fair enough) got pg the month we started ttc and already have 1 month old baby (our godson!!!). Ech, I so want to get positive soon!!!

jiblets1

Icklebeans wrote: »

I know it is daft. I know there are lots of people who have been trying for years - we just never know if/when it is going to happen do we?

Just want to air my frustration as it is our first time and not experienced these emotions before.

Hi Icklebeans. Not got a lot of advice really, you'll find your own way to deal with the frustration each month. I will say, however, that I definately found the first few months of ttc the hardest psychologically. Then I found my way of coping. For me it's to pay attention to the dates of ovulation, but not to look to closely to my predicted AF date. That way it's not until a couple of days before my AF that I start to wonder if I'm due, and that way the amount of time I've got to stress is reduced. Things are a lot easier now, and most months I don't have any freak outs (though I definately did at first!).

Good luck with it all.:D

Icklebeans

Thanks guys for the replies. I know I am not alone in all this.

I have been reading on here for months to see what other people are going through in preparation for when the time came for us but it just doesn't prepare you for that disappointment.

nikkinoo_3

ginvzt wrote: »

...there is a never ending line of new mums and mums-to-be... And I so wish to be one of them... A couple whose wedding we attended last year, after we were already ttc are hving a baby girl next month and other friends got lucky (after a long battle, fair enough) got pg the month we started ttc and already have 1 month old baby (our godson!!!). Ech, I so want to get positive soon!!!

I so know how you feel. I'm genuinely delighted for any friends who conceive, but so desparately want to be joining them. I got quite down a couple of months ago when yet another friend announced her good news - I can't help but measure our time of trying by the number of babies who are conceived AND born during that time.

Best of luck FairyElephant, and thanks for sharing your inspiring story. It puts the sad times into perspective yet goes to show that there is hope for us all.

A good ole sprinkling of baby dust to everyone... xx