Trying To Concieve

chickpea

There are forums out there that are geared to the folks that have been trying longer...I find these most helpful. I agree that it's two different things - there is a big difference between TTC - and T - and failing - TC! It's fun for about a year, then it's sobering, and a souce of concern in the second year - thereafter it's relentlessly depressing.

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My favourite forum is currently a small one, belonging to a national newspaper, which I'm probably not allowed to name. The fact it's small means personal attention! If you have been trying for a while, do check out some other forums, where there's lots of detailed advice.

maggiemaybe

Yep - after 4 years it becomes soul destroying....especially when you've just come back from the docs having been told that you've hit early menopause rather than pregnancy! Somehow I suspected the hot flushes weren't the sign I wanted.

Sorry if I sound miserable but am just sitting here crying like a fool. Haven't broken the news to OH yet - he's desperate for kids. I even got it into my head half an hour ago that he would ditch me for someone who can give him kids!

All I can say is if you've thought about it, don't leave it too long or you may find you run out of time like me.

All the best xx

My_Fathers_Daughter

Oh maggiemaybe - I don't know what to say except I am so, so, very sorry.
My thoughts are with you.

kathy72

So sorry to read your news maggiemaybe. I don't really know what to say...

Thinking of you...

Kathy x

angelfairy

Oh maggiemaybe, i am sorry for your post.

My thoughts are with you xxx

jillie1974

oh maggie thats so sad!
cant imagine what you may be feeling now or going through....

xredwebx

So sorry to read your post Maggiemaybe, all I can offer is hugs. Lots of love xxx

icka

Hey Ladies,
I really hope you don't mind me joining. Just had such a bad day today and searched the site hoping against all hope someone would be in the same boat. I have literally tears of joy and sadness in my eyes that there are others out there.

I'm so sorry for saying I am happy you are in the same boat as me. Because I would not wish this on my worst enemy. I just mean I'm glad I have someone who can understand.

well I was 30 in Feb and have realistically been trying if I am honest since I was 20. Not with same Bf but on and off. I am one of those girls who was born to be a mum. Its so sad as many of my friends who are not maternal at all have conceived by accident and it just makes me so sad.

My current OH and I have been together for almost a year and we have been trying for 8 months,

I have had a cyst removed in Feb and have had a few before that.

My cycle is not regular and my last period was 1st of June.

Anyway im going to try my best to read through the thread gradually as there is so much. I'm also going to try to stop crying today and realise that "God does not hate me and its obviously not the right time for me". Im not a bible basher in any make shape or form, but I find myself praying for a baby more and more.

Thank you for listening

icka

xx

jiblets1

Maggiemaybe. Best of luck that you can come to terms with this. I hope that if you decide this is still what you want that there are options available to you.

I'm sure your OH loves you dearly - you wouldn't be with him otherwise. Give him a chance to have a bit of a flip out, then you can get through this together.

Hugs to you.
xxx

jiblets1

Hi icka. Yes, there are a load of us in this together. We help each other through some tough times. I certainly feel very touched by the helpful, symathetic comments I receive here. Feel free to share as much or as little as you wish and we'll offer whatever advice we can.

My OH and I have been trying for 10 months, the first time for both of us. For us, we can hardly wait for the 12 month marker so we can get in to the doctor and start checking if anything's wrong. I think my OH in particular will relax once a lot when it's proven (presuming it will be) that he's got no problems down there.

Hope you're feeling better.