Under investigation for improper conduct. Should I resign?

Pandamonium80

I have to address the elephant in the room. A wind up and trolling? Trolling is that serious these days you can be prosecuted for trolling. Trolling is malicious communications. Causing people serious distress by harassing them online. This situation is solely about me and the investigation with my employer over my misconduct. If you believe my online communications about myself is trolling. Feel free to report me for trolling myself to the relevant authorities instead of disrupting me from gaining the information I am seeking.

Pandamonium80

I'm a bit sozzled at the moment. Please forgive me if I have missed a question. I will not relinquish my job title or details pertaining to my employer. That will remain strictly confidential.

In my honest opinion, I believe my promotion was justified. The affair was on full throttle at the time of my promotion. Although I did deserve it without shagging her. Overtime is a different matter. We would speed through the workload and spend the rest of the time shagging.

She has a little boy with her husband. He's seven now I think. He knows me. The affair was not excluded from the marital home.

What I think is best will be to offer my resignation with the hope of a neutral reference. I have spoken with her this evening. She plans to fight it. I don't know if she will speak about the affair. She has more to lose if he finds out.

Sorry for not including the names of who those replies are to. I'm too !!!!ed to keep clicking back and forth to find out.

Pandamonium80

With overtime. Only hours worked were added. We did not include sexy time as working. I was chosen ahead of my peers for that purpose. She was wrong with the way this affair was conducted. If we just stuck with meeting in a layby like at the start of the affair none of this would've happened. It's all her fault when I think about it.

Pandamonium80

@Fbaby Nice name by the way. I missed your question. I don't have my contract to hand but there is something specific about relationships with a colleague in there. I can't recall what it is right now. I will update you later.

sangie595

Pandamonium80 wrote: »

She was wrong with the way this affair was conducted. If we just stuck with meeting in a layby like at the start of the affair none of this would've happened. It's all her fault when I think about it.

If this isn't a wind-up then you are really a miserable excuse for a human being. You had every chance to not have an affair with her, not take the promotion, not do the overtime, and not do anything else. It only requires a short to letter word - "No". You are entirely as culpable as her. And I do so hope that she is in a union and has decent representation, because given you are content to throw her to the wolves, you have no idea what someone like me could make of this.

So while we are in fantasy land, how about "He just kept on at me, lots of flirting, being nice, you know, and I gave in once. From then on he had his claws in to me and I didn't know how to get out of it. He blackmailed me into continuing by threatening to tell the employer and my husband. He blackmailed me into everything. I just couldn't get away". After all, if you are happy to let her go down, why shouldn't she take you with her? Trust me, with a bit of work this version will be very believable. That is, assuming it isn't true in the first place. After all, if your posts are to be believed, there isn't a lot of evidence that you are better than this.

bugslet

Pandamonium80 wrote: »

. It's all her fault when I think about it.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Even all this is true, no it isn't all her fault. You could have tried the word no. Go on, try it out. Comes in handy sometimes:rotfl:

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Pandamonium80 wrote: »

Hi,

Today I was suspended from work (with pay). The reason for the suspension being an investigation by head office due to a report of improper conduct.

My manager has been suspended along with me. I'm not going to lie, the report is true. We have been having an affair for years and my manager has been giving me an advantage over my peers. Promotion, overtime, business trips.

We've been taking the !!!!. Should I resign to save the embarrassment?

I reckon someone's been taking the !!!!.

marcarm

Actually I agree, it is all her fault.

Op, you should contact the police as you have clearly been sexually assaulted. You have had no input into this at all And have been taken advantage of.

Disclaimer, I don't actually think that, the op is as culpable as the manager and I think he is scum for doing what he has done, especially now we know there is a kid involved but to sit there and not feel any guilt and think you are blameless, well words fail me.

If the 80 in your username refers to your year of birth then you need to grow up real fast and learn some morals.

And that is why I'm calling wind up, surely no one, not even nowadays is that self centred and oblivious to everything going on around them to think they have no blame in a situation like this? And if it is true, then that poor kid who now has a broken family just because you don't have the morality or self control to keep your !!!! in your pants. But that is what it's like today, actions without thinking of the consequences or how it will affect anyone else.

Guest101

Pandamonium80 wrote: »

I have to address the elephant in the room. A wind up and trolling? Trolling is that serious these days you can be prosecuted for trolling. Trolling is malicious communications. Causing people serious distress by harassing them online. This situation is solely about me and the investigation with my employer over my misconduct. If you believe my online communications about myself is trolling. Feel free to report me for trolling myself to the relevant authorities instead of disrupting me from gaining the information I am seeking.

Given what you think the law is, we can discount any legal aspect to your career....

RuthnJasper

Looks like someone had a little bit too much White Lightning.


God, I hope this is a wind-up. It's seriously unfunny.