Under investigation for improper conduct. Should I resign?

motorguy

Pandamonium80 wrote: »

Hi,

Today I was suspended from work (with pay). The reason for the suspension being an investigation by head office due to a report of improper conduct.

My manager has been suspended along with me. I'm not going to lie, the report is true. We have been having an affair for years and my manager has been giving me an advantage over my peers. Promotion, overtime, business trips.

We've been taking the !!!!. Should I resign to save the embarrassment?

I would resign if i were you.

Damage limitation.

There will be no further investigation against you if you resign with immediate effect and an employer wont (usually) record that an investigation was started - in fact they cant.

If there is a gap in your employment history go along the lines of you were starting a business working with a relative and he pulled out at the last minute.

If they sack you due to gross misconduct you'll never be able to get a reference from them.

Tiddlywinks

motorguy wrote: »

I would resign if i were you.

Damage limitation.

There will be no further investigation against you if you resign with immediate effect and an employer wont (usually) record that an investigation was started - in fact they cant.

If there is a gap in your employment history go along the lines of you were starting a business working with a relative and he pulled out at the last minute.

If they sack you due to gross misconduct you'll never be able to get a reference from them.

Where do you get this stuff from?

If you resign whilst under investigation then that is a fact.

Facts can be included in work references.

So, it can and very probably will be mentioned.

motorguy

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Where do you get this stuff from?

If you resign whilst under investigation then that is a fact.

Facts can be included in work references.

So, it can and very probably will be mentioned.

Some companies might mention it on a reference letter, a lot wont as there was no proven outcome and that puts them on dodgy ground.

Likewise the O/P could negotiate with their employer to say they will resign and go now, on the agreement that there is nothing put on their employment record.

Certainly better taking that chance than getting sacked for gross misconduct.

sangie595

bugslet wrote: »

Sorry, is it holiday time?

Exactly my thought. And the answer is, it still is here. I'm rather hoping it's a wind up, because it is rather harder to imagine that anyone would pay £50k to someone this stupid.

Guest101

motorguy wrote: »

Some companies might mention it on a reference letter, a lot wont as there was no proven outcome and that puts them on dodgy ground.

Likewise the O/P could negotiate with their employer to say they will resign and go now, on the agreement that there is nothing put on their employment record.

Certainly better taking that chance than getting sacked for gross misconduct.

The company will want to make an example so others don't think they're and easy target.

FBaby

Assuming this is real, what if you resign, lose the good job, when the result of the investigation is that she did wrong, not you and they would have kept you, albeit a slap on the wrist? After all, from a professional perspective, unless your contract/work policies say that no relationship are allowed, you didn't do anything wrong, you did what your manager asked you to do.

She on the other hand....has been a complete idiot. If she is your manager, she must be on serious money and she without acted very unprofessional. She is the one who should be resigning asap...and then try to explain that one to her husband!

motorguy

Guest101 wrote: »

The company will want to make an example so others don't think they're and easy target.

A lot of companies wont want the hassle / time taken for a full investigation and disciplinary which is distracting for the rest of the workforce, particularly if theres managers who should have known or should have done something.

Depends on the company - still, better to resign and cut your loses than face a full investigation and disciplinary and most like be sacked anyway.

Sounds too much like a wind up anyway - rather than be quite pleased with myself and unrepentant i'd be gutted at losing the £50K job.

xapprenticex

I have no respect for cheaters who have affairs so I hope the both of you get what you deserve and ive not even touched on the misconduct at work. Hope the husband finds out too.

dacouch

Banged to rights

stator

Might be best to negotiate a good exit with a reference.