Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

slothsocks

Aw Dot, it's so hard. There's so much pressure on both partners to do it at the right time that it really does put a strain on the relationship, which makes things even harder. It's a vicious cycle. Previously we've just tried to bd every other day rather than putting too much emphasis on the 'right time' but I appreciate it can be difficult to find the energy sometimes.

Sounds like you've timed things well Zeni. Fingers crossed this is it for you!

CD13 here. I really thought I O'd yesterday but no temp rise yet so I'm a bit confused. It could be the drugs though. Might need to bd again today but not sure we'll be up to three in a row.Hope we haven't mistimed it.

Dot.1991

Totally agree that it is a vicious cycle.

I think every other day might be a bit much for him, might suggest every few days after Christmas and see what he thinks to that. Maybe if it's not happened by then he will see that unfortunately there is a need to try and control things a bit more if he's not up for doing it so much! I know he does really want children, I've just overwhelmed him too much by going crazy.

Feeling much better today, I've got a week off work so going to try and fill it with doing some nice things that will take my mind off it.

Hope you haven't mistimed and that your OH is up for 3rd day in a row! Itl all be worth it in the end xx

Zeni

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Zeni

I'm usually quite like you dot, hubbies job knackers him out so weeknights are usually out the window as he falls asleep minute he hits the pillow... so quite happy we managed to get those two in! Got everything crossed.

LavenderBee

Hi all


I don't know if it's any help to those confused about their ovulation dates, but I would starting ovulating around CD6-7. I didn't have the ClearBlue thingy, just dip stick tests, and I kept an eye on the strength of the result. It would peak and then peter out within 7 days of AF ending. Bit disconcerting as I've not come across that before, but it might be leftover from my pre-laparoscopy days when I had a 14 day cycle :O


Anyway, I ended up giving the daily stick monitoring a miss last month, I did one when I had OV symptoms (CD7, dark old line!) and that was it, in the month I conceived. It's tricky, there's pressure all round when you monitor lots (taking photographs of different coloured lines, writing down every symptom); but equally it's good to know *something* because if you conceive, you need some info for dates. For pressurised OHs maybe it would help to explain that it's not just about turning them into a performing monkey at that time of the month, but it helps inform any conception that does happen?


I am still loitering here because I am still struggling with the concept that this could actually work unfortunately!


Dot, we tried just "not trying not to" at first too, once you get a certain way into that you start worrying, I do know how you feel. I often wonder, when people are making inappropriate comments about if/when I'm having children just how many of them managed to conceive within a month... not many I bet! It's pretty normal to still be waiting at this stage, just frustrating.

Zeni

Oh I didn't even think about it in regards to the conception time etc Lavender. I hope your well hun

FreddieFrugal

Hi all,

It can be difficult BDing when you're feeling the need to do it at particular times. Especially if you're lacking time and energy.

Last week was tricky as neither us felt particularly well. OH had a lot of late evenings as she has to bring work home with her. It takes ridiculously long to tidy/clean up at the end of the day with a LO.

It's definitely more difficult this time around then it was at first.

I think we probably missed it this month. As the last time was probably 4 or 5 days before, although we did manage yesterday which could have been 1 DPO. But not certain.


Just try not to stress about it. The right month will happen eventually!

Dot.1991

Hi Lavender, Hope you are feeling good I'm glad you are loitering I know I've only just started trying, I guess I had in my mind when we first decided to start trying that maybe by Christmas that I would be (why do we always plan things around Christmas?!) chances are slim now but I do know that it's very normal and just takes time, unfortunately I'm just quite impatient!

I'm a big believer that something hasn't happened for a reason and this does give me some comfort, I just need to keep reminding myself of it xx

LavenderBee

:wave: Hi everyone!

That's my philosophy too, Dot. I relax a lot leaving things to fate. Can I make you feel better about the Christmas thing? I made gallons of Christmas booze (not all for me, some for gatherings, giftings etc). I won't be able to touch a blinking drop! Even my festive baked goods have rum in and I was so pleased with myself for getting ahead of time :xmassmile

My understanding from other women is that they always disagree with the dates the Drs and sonographers decide on anyway, but my view is they have a degree and I don't so I wouldn't be minded to argue in that position! In the meantime it is helpful, though not essential, for GPs, people that make appointments etc. I could also tell my OV based on symptoms alone, dipping sticks in wee only confirmed it, but I know not everyone has really obvious signals.

In terms of regularity, DH is away all week every week, getting home on Friday afternoon. I do wonder how much of an effect that had, but we don't struggle to make up for lost time and I appear to have always been in a fertile period over the weekends thankfully. Absence makes the heart grow fonder perhaps

slothsocks

I don't think you need to know when you O for calculating your dates. They just go off the date of your last AF, even though that can be pretty inaccurate, then correct it at the 12w scan, so I wouldn't worry about it from that perspective Babies never turn up at the 'right' time anyway!

I really admire those who can just let go and leaving things to fate. I'm way too uptight and I worry that my fate is that this will never happen for us. I tend to go the other way and have to feel like I'm doing something. I guess we've just got to cope however we can with these feelings of desperation.

I had a bit of a temp rise this morning, so I'm feeling more positive that I did O on Sunday. Although it was a bit of a bad night so could possibly be a random raised temp. Hopefully tomorrow's temp will confirm either way.