Change back to maiden name without consent

Valli

peachyprice wrote: »

That must depend on the council, my CT bill is still in my first married name because they won't change it without a copy of the decree absolute, which I have lost.

Bet they would if you refused to pay it!

I sent a name change instruction to Severn Trent Water (a good while back, admittedly) along with a cheque for the payment in my new name. So they banked the cheque but stuck it in some suspense account because 'the names don't match' and then sent me a red reminder for the unpaid bill!

I was really shirty with them because they had had the information about the name change at the same time!

lazer

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

They are not just her children - they are their children


Different perspective on the same issue


I can't imagine why a man who isn't married to the mother would give their children the mother's name


The child is the child of both parents and both should have an equal say in the child's name.

General_Grant

jjj1980 wrote: »

Wow, I stand corrected! For all others reading, extract from the links:

"Whose permission do I need?
If you are married, you need the written consent of your husband or wife."

No way would I have been asking my then-husband if I would have wanted to change my name whilst still married. You may be married to them but they don't bloody own you!

I haven't clicked through to read the other web pages but, for those who are writing about women not being their husbands' chattels, I have noted that the statement about needing written permission for a name change works both ways, not just a woman requiring a man's permission.

However, I fail to see why "permission" is required. After all there are some children going to school now who have surnames which are not the same as their mother or the person who is bringing them up as their father.

ETA: I now see my original point has already been covered by others. Those posts were on a following page which I hadn't noticed.

Mrs_Ryan

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Unless you've done the double barrelling by deed poll, surely your family name is your only legal name?

The double barrelling was indeed done by deed poll. My benefit claims and bank accounts are in my legal name, as is my tuition fee loan and Disabled Student's Allowance. However the university are aware of the situation and are fine with it.

fierystormcloud

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

Really?! I think the vast majority of unmarried women give the baby the man's name. I think I have only known one woman, out of a couple of dozen, who didn't give the baby the man's name. I even know several women who weren't in a relationship with the man when they had the baby, who gave the baby the man's name.

Not sure why the man's name is given to the baby. Whether the couple plan to eventually get married, or whether the woman hopes that the man will marry them; I'm not sure.

lazer wrote: »

They are not just her children - they are their children

Different perspective on the same issue

I can't imagine why a man who isn't married to the mother would give their children the mother's name.

The child is the child of both parents and both should have an equal say in the child's name.

Good point. :T

Re, the original post, I didn't think a woman needed permission to change back to her maiden name from ANYone. Indeed, I know several women who changed back when the kids were grown, and they got permission from no-one. So that is news to me for sure.

Mojisola

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Re, the original post, I didn't think a woman needed permission to change back to her maiden name from ANYone. Indeed, I know several women who changed back when the kids were grown, and they got permission from no-one. So that is news to me for sure.

You don't need anyone's permission to change your name.

If you are married or in a civil partnership AND want to change your name to something different to your maiden name or your married name AND you want to have the change officially 'enrolled', then you need permission from your spouse/partner.

missbiggles1

peachyprice wrote: »

It's probably more common that the children having the mother's name.

Yes, that's what I would expect or for them to all have the same name however informally. It seems odd the other way round.

onomatopoeia99

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

My employer's children have his name, but he is not married to their mother though they have been together for decades. The children are mid 20s, so this is hardly a new thing.

fierystormcloud

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Yes, that's what I would expect or for them to all have the same name however informally. It seems odd the other way round.

Nah, it's definitely more common for children to have the father's name even when the mother and father are not married.

Funnily enough, I know several families where the mother and father never married, the children had the father's name, the parents split when the children were young, and when they hit 18, the children changed their name to the mother's name.

missbiggles1

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Nah, it's definitely more common for children to have the father's name even when the mother and father are not married.

Funnily enough, I know several families where the mother and father never married, the children had the father's name, the parents split when the children were young, and when they hit 18, the children changed their name to the mother's name.

Perhaps a regional thing - I've only come across it rarely.