Change back to maiden name without consent

AnotherJoe

Valli wrote: »

I just reverted to my maiden name, showed no evidence and wrote a letter to relevant people saying that I was changing from Mrs. x to Miss Y and signed both signatures.
Permission? Really? This is the 21st century, women (in this country) are no longer goods and chattels!

You are making a kneejerk reaction here because in the statements referred to about name change, note that it says you must have your husband or wife's permission. Whilst I find this bizarre, there's no discrimination going on.

Anyway this doesn't apply to the OPs situation of reverting to maiden name.

pigpen

doggydogdog wrote: »

Thanks, the bank have said i need to take in birth cert and old passport but all my bank statements are in my married name so i dont really have anything that proves my address. I offered my passport to my university and they said they needed divorce certs! I will be stunned if i can change my bank etc and not school records!!

I embarked on my HNC after he left in a bid to better myself and i really dont want his name on it. It was nothing to do with him and i haven't done it as a down trodden 'smith' i've done it as a proud 'jones' rising from the ashes!!.

Ring the council.. they will change the council tax bill without question and the utilities most can be changed online.. I changed my gas and electric online just by logging into my account. They rang to check it was me and not a new account holder but accepted it without any documentation.

As for uni/college .. I didn't take anything there either.. I changed my name on their system so post was addressed to the other name and they didn't even argue when it came to certificates.

If all else fails.. open a new very basic bank account with your maiden name and use that statement and account details as 'proof' of address etc.

I have never had a passport or driving license so that isn't necessary.

pigpen

AnotherJoe wrote: »

You are making a kneejerk reaction here because in the statements referred to about name change, note that it says you must have your husband or wife's permission. Whilst I find this bizarre, there's no discrimination going on.

Anyway this doesn't apply to the OPs situation of reverting to maiden name.

And that info is wrong.. My friend changed her name to something completely random after a drunken night out.. she didn't even know she had done it until the paperwork of name change arrived!

She didn't provide any info.. just logged in, paid the however much and did it... it was rather amusing that she had no idea she had even done it!

missbiggles1

theoretica wrote: »

The issue may be presenting it as a 'change of name' and the university has policies for that. It might be worth asking if they can run it through as correcting a clerical error - same result, maybe less red tape in the way.

Which is why the OP should emphasise that she isn't changing her name.

Valli

AnotherJoe wrote: »

You are making a kneejerk reaction here because in the statements referred to about name change, note that it says you must have your husband or wife's permission. Whilst I find this bizarre, there's no discrimination going on.

Anyway this doesn't apply to the OPs situation of reverting to maiden name.

I didn't say there was discrimination, I just find it bizarre that an adult would need the permission of another adult!

And should the name change be deemed necessary for the wellbeing and safety of the person changing their name then it seems incredible to me that permission would need to be sought!

missbiggles1

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

This is why the name that will be on my degree certificate is my family name, not the combination of mine and my partners name double barrelled that I officially use. The name that will be on my degree certificate is not my 'legal' name but it's the name I want on there.

Unless you've done the double barrelling by deed poll, surely your family name is your only legal name?

missbiggles1

Valli wrote: »

Not so much keen in my case, I just thought it made sense for us all to have the same surname, plus I had no particular desire to keep the name of my birth father.

Many don't marry at all, so lots of the children with whom I work have a different surname frim their mothers, yet it is their mothers with whom I tend to deal!

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

Valli

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

If they all live in the same house it's quite common. I can think of at least 6 families (connected with where I work) where the father and children have the same surname but the mother has a different surname. I once inadvertently called a mother by her child's (and partner's) surname and she was not best pleased!

It also simplifies things if the couple do eventually marry, as has also happened.

peachyprice

pigpen wrote: »

Ring the council.. they will change the council tax bill without question

That must depend on the council, my CT bill is still in my first married name because they won't change it without a copy of the decree absolute, which I have lost.

peachyprice

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I can't imagine why a woman who isn't married to the father would give her children the father's name - I don't think I've come across that before.

It's probably more common that the children having the mother's name.