large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

Peter333

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Exactly Peter.

Talking of Maccy D's, my husband will get a meal and I'll just get a burger as I don't want the whole chips or a drink. Then I'll just have a few chips.

Yep what's what we do (more or less...) My wife isn't a huge eater, and often doesn't want a whole of anything. On occasions, I will order a pack of 6 chicken nuggets and a large fries, and she will have about a third of the fries, and 2 nuggets, and then if she has a coffee and a donut, I will have half the donut and a few sips of her coffee.

As I said, it's called sharing, and it's what we - as a couple - like to do.

On occasions, we will have (for example) an Easter egg between us, (half each,) and she will give me half of her half - not because she doesn't want it, but because she knows I like it, and she wants me to have more of it, out of the kindness of her heart.

Then I will carry all the shopping bags while we're out, and let her use the umbrella if it rains, and suchlike... It's just nice to do nice things for each other and share stuff...

As I said, a relationship where 'THAT'S MINE AND YER NOT HAVING ANY!' is regularly uttered is not a relationship I would ever want to be in.

Sharing, and doing nice, kind things for each other is what keeps a relationship alive and fresh and good IMO.

mumps

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Well you'd be wrong in thinking that because A, I often don't want a whole drink, just literally a sip or two, and B, my husband is fine with it and he usually just tells me to have a drink of his as why waste money/drink when I don't really want a whole drink. If I wanted a drink for myself then I'd order one.

This is day time usually though as night time I would have an alcoholic drink.

As someone else said earlier, who knew it was such a minefield about eating out, getting judged for what you do or don't do! You can't do anything without some judgemental folk thinking you're either tight or depriving yourself!

I do usually have a drink in a restaurant but if we are say on holiday and he buys a can I will have a sip and that is enough for me.

I know it isn't good, I have to specifically make a huge effort to drink enough for at least 24 hrs before a blood test or it is hard to get my blood.

I too find it strange to think people might be judging me if I don't want a pudding or only have a small drink. I have a sweet tooth but usually prefer my own baking and although I love chocolate I don't like chocolate puddings.

We are going out for a meal tomorrow but no worries as we are paying. Hopefully that means they won't be judging.

Peter333

I agree mumps. It's very odd that someone judges someone for not having a starter or a pudding.

Says more about them really...

cbrown372

Peter333 wrote: »

I think it's terribly sad that someone feels like they can't go out for a meal without stuffing their faces with 3 courses and spending shed loads of money.

I have been out many a time to Wetherspoons with friends who have spent a fiver on their meal and a soft drink, and we have had a fabulous time.

I can't understand anyone who would say that you can't enjoy yourself without spending a lot of money. It's quite sad actually.

Peter333 wrote: »

I agree mumps. It's very odd that someone judges someone for not having a starter or a pudding.

Says more about them really...

Yet you are judging people in your previous post?

Posh restaurant or a Toby carvery I really couldn't care less where anyone else spends their money.

Person_one

onlyroz wrote: »

Well I had my lunch out with my kids and my parents. Mum and dad used some McDonalds vouchers. I sent my son off to subway with a fiver. My daughter and I shared a bowl of noodles (not sharing cutlery) and bag of Spring rolls. We shared a bottle of coke and my parents shared one of those huge buckets of Coke that McDs sell. And nobody fretted about what or how much anybody else was eating or drinking.

I went out for lunch today too. Several friends, plus two kids (not siblings).

We all ordered what we fancied, some had one course, some two, some ordered sides, some didn't, some had coffee, some had soft drinks.

At the end, everybody put in for what they and/or their child had, plus a bit extra, and the girl who served us had a pretty generous tip.

Its amazing how something so simple in real life can be so complicated in theory! :rotfl:

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

I went out for lunch today too. Several friends, plus two kids (not siblings).

We all ordered what we fancied, some had one course, some two, some ordered sides, some didn't, some had coffee, some had soft drinks.

At the end, everybody put in for what they and/or their child had, plus a bit extra, and the girl who served us had a pretty generous tip.

Its amazing how something so simple in real life can be so complicated in theory! :rotfl:

I think it's often simple within our own circles, it's only when strangers start comparing notes that it seems complicated.

Spendless

When you go for a meal you know the price of the dish you want to order as it's on the menu when you choose. It isn't difficult to add up in your head, to the nearest £1 or 50p if maths isn't your strong point.

I truly believe it is often drinks, alcoholic or soft ones that fudge the issue. Not every drink is listed and not many people look at the drinks menu, other than to decide which bottle of wine to go for.

On Sunday me and DH ordered a pint of coke each and a bag of crisps (bacon frazzles not gourmet kettle chips!). the price was IMO an extortionate £5.60. :eek: If we'd ordered the coke in a large group and not everyone gets a close look at the bill, I would have under guesstimated how much it had cost.

onlyroz

Person_one wrote: »

We all ordered what we fancied, some had one course, some two, some ordered sides, some didn't, some had coffee, some had soft drinks.

But surely those who had two courses had their meal spoiled by the "po-faced" expressions on the faces of those who only had one course?And didn't the ones who ordered sides also insist that everybody else order a side otherwise they wouldn't be getting into the spirit of the meal? And didn't the ones who ate the most whine about how the ones who ate less were being stingy for not splitting the bill equally?

seven-day-weekend

We share things too! We have shared a meal tonight, of course share things' to me that is different to saying you don't want antything and then having someone else's. Each to their own.

missbiggles1

onlyroz wrote: »

But surely those who had two courses had their meal spoiled by the "po-faced" expressions on the faces of those who only had one course?And didn't the ones who ordered sides also insist that everybody else order a side otherwise they wouldn't be getting into the spirit of the meal? And didn't the ones who ate the most whine about how the ones who ate less were being stingy for not splitting the bill equally?

I somehow think that we're talking about different experiences here, as comments about McDonalds and street food indicates.