large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

onlyroz

Oh dear we're at bible quotes now.

So back to the topic. My mum is looking after my kids on Thursday due to the Easter holidays. She'll be bringing them to meet me for lunch. So:

a) Who should pay for the kids' lunches, mum or me?
b) Should we split the bill equally or should the kids' portion of the bill be less? (They will most likely have something like a McDs Happy Meal whereas I'll probably go to the noodle bar).
c) Should I be concerned if somebody decided they want a cake or ice cream afterwards but I don't fancy one? Will my "po-faced" expression as they eat it spoil their enjoyment?
d) Would I horrify everyone if I shared a spring roll with my daughter and used my fingers to split it in two?

seven-day-weekend

The Bible quote was for Torry's benefit it will mean something to nher.

You should pay for yourself andf your kids, AND your mum for looking after them.

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The Bible quote was for Torry's benefit it will mean something to nher.

You should pay for yourself andf your kids, AND your mum for looking after them.

But what if mum insists on going to a fancy place at £30 a head whereas I'd prefer a takeaway from a market stall. Should I still pay for her when she suggested the lunch in the first place?

duchy

onlyroz wrote: »

Oh dear we're at bible quotes now.

So back to the topic. My mum is looking after my kids on Thursday due to the Easter holidays. She'll be bringing them to meet me for lunch. So:

a) Who should pay for the kids' lunches, mum or me?
b) Should we split the bill equally or should the kids' portion of the bill be less? (They will most likely have something like a McDs Happy Meal whereas I'll probably go to the noodle bar).
c) Should I be concerned if somebody decided they want a cake or ice cream afterwards but I don't fancy one? Will my "po-faced" expression as they eat it spoil their enjoyment?
d) Would I horrify everyone if I shared a spring roll with my daughter and used my fingers to split it in two?

Just deduct it from the kids' pocket money

duchy

Domayne wrote: »

I know you fancy yourself as a Miss Marple type I've seen many of your posts where you 'read between the lines' and believe me if I had a problem I'd have no troubles admitting it. I said I HARDLY DRINK ANYMORE. The last time I even had a drink was at new year so....assume what you want about me I really don't care, I was giving an example to Torry that because of some behaviour I've had IN THE PAST we would no longer be friends anymore, despite the fact that one facet of your personality doesn't sum up the whole.
I never said my mum passed out in gardens and didn't have a job either! She was hardly sleeping on park benches nursing her bottle of Jack! Although one time she did fall asleep with the chip fryer on and almost burned the kitchen down and once she stuck her head in the oven not realising it was on and set her hair on fire judge away!

What on earth are you on about ?


You are right about one thing though- People are judged on what they post - Hardly surprising when you think about it logically.
If you genuinely care about what complete strangers who you will never meet think of you then it's probably better not to post anything personal.

(incidentally we're away this weekend visiting and tending the grave of my fiance's ex partner who died a horrible death through liver failure in her early forties due to her alcoholism so you're not the only one with war stories . I could tell stories just as bad - maybe worse but ultimately the saddest thing about alcoholism is the damage the sickness does to those who love the alcoholic )

SingleSue

I was once so drunk I had to be taken home in a Safeway shopping trolley...some evil begger had spiked the (supposedly non alcoholic) punch with vodka at a BBQ, vodka doesn't like me especially if I have had any other alcohol. I only had the one glass of punch but can't for the life of me remember anything else from the evening until I was being oiked out of the trolley on a roundabout as my trolley pushing companions were more than a little tipsy too :rotfl:

The night did not end well, I fell down the stairs backwards trying to stroke the cat at the top of the stairs and damaged my neck.

moneyistooshorttomention

onlyroz wrote: »

Oh dear we're at bible quotes now.

So back to the topic. My mum is looking after my kids on Thursday due to the Easter holidays. She'll be bringing them to meet me for lunch. So:

a) Who should pay for the kids' lunches, mum or me?
b) Should we split the bill equally or should the kids' portion of the bill be less? (They will most likely have something like a McDs Happy Meal whereas I'll probably go to the noodle bar).
c) Should I be concerned if somebody decided they want a cake or ice cream afterwards but I don't fancy one? Will my "po-faced" expression as they eat it spoil their enjoyment?
d) Would I horrify everyone if I shared a spring roll with my daughter and used my fingers to split it in two?

Personally - I'd regard it as my mother had done me the favour of looking after my children and therefore up to me to pay for lunch for everyone.

Obviously - if she was determined to do the full ration of "being a doting grandma" for the day and insist on paying some/all of the bill herself - then whatcanyado and accept gracefully.

duchy

SingleSue wrote: »

I was once so drunk I had to be taken home in a Safeway shopping trolley...some evil begger had spiked the (supposedly non alcoholic) punch with vodka at a BBQ, vodka doesn't like me especially if I have had any other alcohol. I only had the one glass of punch but can't for the life of me remember anything else from the evening until I was being oiked out of the trolley on a roundabout as my trolley pushing companions were more than a little tipsy too :rotfl:

The night did not end well, I fell down the stairs backwards trying to stroke the cat at the top of the stairs and damaged my neck.

I once went out for a night out after having some holiday vaccinations done.(apparently they react badly with booze) It's the only time I've ever suffered a complete memory blank (apparently I had a VERY good time !) and I really didn't like the feeling. If I'm going to behave badly after a few drinks I prefer to remember what I've done for myself (to this day I don't know if my friends were exaggerating what I did to wind me up or not )

I genuinely couldn't deal with memory blackouts many heavy drinkers experience regularly . It would do my head in.

Domayne

duchy wrote: »

What on earth are you on about ?


You are right about one thing though- People are judged on what they post - Hardly surprising when you think about it logically.
If you genuinely care about what complete strangers who you will never meet think of you then it's probably better not to post anything personal.

(incidentally we're away this weekend visiting and tending the grave of my fiance's ex partner who died a horrible death through liver failure in her early forties due to her alcoholism so you're not the only one with war stories . I could tell stories just as bad - maybe worse but ultimately the saddest thing about alcoholism is the damage the sickness does to those who love the alcoholic )

I don't care what random strangers that I will never meet think of me. But I care that random strangers put words into my virtual mouth that I never said and read between lines that are not there. Like you said we are virtual strangers so what reason do I have to 'make up stories' or pretend I'm something I'm not?
Why would anyone care here if I was an alcoholic? They wouldn't so what would I gain from denying it?
With your 'read between the lines' comment you was suggesting I'm some sort of secret alcoholic when I'm not, like I told you the last time I had a drink was new year. I was never an 'alcoholic' anyway, I liked a drink a bit too much and did stupid things - there is a difference. And believe me, between my mum and step dad I'm well aware of the physical and mental problems that alcohol can cause for the alcoholic and the people around them!

TBagpuss

duchy wrote: »

I once went out for a night out after having some holiday vaccinations done.(apparently they react badly with booze) It's the only time I've ever suffered a complete memory blank (apparently I had a VERY good time !) and I really didn't like the feeling. If I'm going to behave badly after a few drinks I prefer to remember what I've done for myself (to this day I don't know if my friends were exaggerating what I did to wind me up or not )

I genuinely couldn't deal with memory blackouts many heavy drinkers experience regularly . It would do my head in.

Nor me. I've been very drunk a couple of times in my life (once through not realisiing that people were putting vodka in my beers, once through being 21!)

But I've never ended up passing out or in someone's garden or a police cell.

Partly because the group of friends I was part of looked out for one another. You don't end up lying in someone's front garden blacked out because your mates make sure you get home (or to someone's home, anyway) safely.

So for me, the other side of the 'wouldn't want to stay friends with someone who gets so drunk they end up in a police cell' would be 'would I want to stay friends with someone who abandoned me when I'd drunk too much, so that I ended up in someone's garden or a police cell?'

I've had situations where a fun night out ended because someone drank too much and needed to be looked after, (although never, I'm thankful to say, to the extent of incontinence!). In the groups of friends I've been a part of, you look out for each other, (and the culprit gets a earful when they are sober enough).

However, I don't recall there being anyone who was doing it on a regular basis, it was different people on different ocassions. (all during my student years, I uess a lot of people finding out the hard way what their capacity was!)

I've never been part of group where someone who was drunk would just be left to fend for themselves.

If someone I knew was getting passing out drunk / arrested / when I wasn't with them I wouldn't automatically end the friendship but I might well chose not to go out with them in situations where there was likely to be drinking, if they were unwilling or unable to limit their intake.


I don't find the 'why do people do it' question particualrly difficult - after all, alcohol notoriously clouds one's judgment!