large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

Why a person chooses to eat out, and how much they choose to eat should be entirely irrelevant to their fellow diners.


I am glad that SDW's friend wasn't made to feel uncomfortable - but from some people's responses on here it seems likely that SDW's friend would have been made to feel thoroughly miserable if eating out with many people who have posted on this thread.


It saddens me to think that somebody would be made to feel unwelcome because they chose to eat different amounts from the rest of the group. It also makes me quite angry that there are people on this thread who think that those who want to eat less would be better off just staying at home.

She would not have been going out for a meal with anyone else. I'm sure most anorexics would not do so by choice.

As for 'those who eat less should stay at home' - all I've personally said is those people who don't seem to like eating out would be better off staying at home.

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

She would not have been going out for a meal with anyone else. I'm sure most anorexics would not do so by choice.

As for 'those who eat less should stay at home' - all I've personally said is those people who don't seem to like eating out would be better off staying at home.

I wouldn't like to comment on whether anorexics would choose to go out for a meal. However, I do know people with other medical conditions that reduces their appetite, and it saddens me that some people would exclude them from a group invite purely because they want to eat less.


As for your second comment, I don't think you've said anything on this thread about making light-eaters feel unwelcome.

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

I wouldn't like to comment on whether anorexics would choose to go out for a meal. However, I do know people with other medical conditions that reduces their appetite, and it saddens me that some people would exclude them from a group invite purely because they want to eat less.


As for your second comment, I don't think you've said anything on this thread about making light-eaters feel unwelcome.

I haven't, but I do know what people mean. You do occasionally get the po-faced aesthete who would like us all to live on seaweed and mineral supplements making everyone feel like the 'greedy oiks' PN mentioned earlier.

I don't think they would be welcome anywhere!!:rotfl::rotfl:

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I haven't, but I do know what people mean. You do occasionally get the po-faced aesthete who would like us all to live on seaweed and mineral supplements making everyone feel like the 'greedy oiks' PN mentioned earlier.

I don't think they would be welcome anywhere!!:rotfl::rotfl:

I am sure that there are people like this, and I wouldn't want to go out for dinner with them either. But the reason they're unwelcome is because they're not nice people, not because they choose to eat less.


In general I don't think a person should have to justify why they want to eat more or less than other people. If you do have a medical condition, or an eating disorder, or are struggling for money, what business is it of your fellow diners? As long as you can pay for what you eat why should it matter?

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

I am sure that there are people like this, and I wouldn't want to go out for dinner with them either. But the reason they're unwelcome is because they're not nice people, not because they choose to eat less.


In general I don't think a person should have to justify why they want to eat more or less than other people. If you do have a medical condition, or an eating disorder, or are struggling for money, what business is it of your fellow diners? As long as you can pay for what you eat why should it matter?

Not necessarily, they could just be very strict vegans They tend to preach rather a lot.

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Not necessarily, they could just be very strict vegans They tend to preach rather a lot.

Anybody who tried to preach about their dietary foibles during dinner would be unwelcome in most social situations. We should be free to make our own moral judgements over what we choose to eat - and the time to discuss the merits of animal welfare legislation, or the pros and cons of various slaughter techniques, or the carcinogenic properties of red meat, is not when I'm about to tuck into a juicy steak.

Ames

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Saw a Chocolate Cake in a Mug mug when on the Lakeland website, same range as the Porridge mug!

Still unsure what to make of it tbh!

I've got one but I haven't tried it yet because I'm not a fan of chocolate cake. I assumed it would be easy to alter the recipe to make it carrot cake or some other kind, but it doesn't seem to be. I have seen cake in a mug recipe books so I might try getting one at some point.

I've got the muffin in a mug too, which is when I learnt that 'a pinch of salt' is not the same as 'a grind of rock salt'. I've been meaning to try it again but not really felt the desire for muffin for a while.

Georgiegirl256

Ames wrote: »

I've got one but I haven't tried it yet because I'm not a fan of chocolate cake. I assumed it would be easy to alter the recipe to make it carrot cake or some other kind, but it doesn't seem to be. I have seen cake in a mug recipe books so I might try getting one at some point.

I've got the muffin in a mug too, which is when I learnt that 'a pinch of salt' is not the same as 'a grind of rock salt'. I've been meaning to try it again but not really felt the desire for muffin for a while.

I would try it, but I can just imagine DH asking for one all the time if it was tasty, and he really does need to lose weight as it is.

fed_up_and_stressed

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

She would not have been going out for a meal with anyone else. I'm sure most anorexics would not do so by choice.

As for 'those who eat less should stay at home' - all I've personally said is those people who don't seem to like eating out would be better off staying at home.

Actually I was medically borderline anorexic bmi over 2.5 stone lighter than the lowest healthy weight for my height, (now recovered) and it used to amuse me when going out for meals. I used to adore going to the local carvery and piling my plate sky high much to the astonishment of other dinners.... And yes i'd scoff the lot. What wasn't seen though was that made me feel like i'd eaten for the rest of the week so lived on black coffee and cigarettes to compensate.

AubreyMac

onlyroz wrote: »

So now you're saying that people with eating disorders shouldn't eat out either?


The impression I'm getting from several posters on this thread is that anybody with any special requirements are viewed to be awkward party-poopers who would be better off staying at home lest they ruin the fun for everybody else. I don't understand why anybody has to justify at all why they want to eat less than others - whether they're short of money, have a medical condition, or an eating disorder, or just aren't that hungry, why should they be subject to a grilling over their different eating habits, and why should they be made to feel like they are "ruining" the experience for others if they order a different amount of food?

Those without any dietary restrictions have more (and better I think) options when eating out.


One of my friends is a very strict vegetarian and whenever we eat out, we almost always have to go a restaurant suitable for her, never really the other way round. As she puts it, most meat eating restaurants will only have chips or a salad available for veggies. When someone is unwilling to compromise and it becomes one sided almost all the time, it does get annoying.