large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

onlyroz

PasturesNew wrote: »

Yes, sticky toffee pudding & custard -v- a bit of lettuce with some goop on it ... no contest.

Only a bunch of psychos would choose a starter over a dessert ....

The point is that why should people be forced to conform? I sometimes might go for the starter and sometimes for the pud, or sometimes I'll just want the main. I don't want to be told what I should be eating or have it implied that I'm ruining the meal for my fellow diners unless I order the same as them.

Georgiegirl256

A Murder Mystery wouldn't be my kind of thing either if I had to be one of the actors in it. If it was one of those weekends away in a hotel where there are professional actors and you have to solve it, then maybe, but not in someone's house I don't think.

seven-day-weekend

PasturesNew wrote: »

They're just selfish then, if there's room. Of course, the catering requirements could dictate it. Were they cooking the meal themselves? Or did they buy in a "package" where they're charged per head? You'd be counted/charged as a head if it were an outside catering firm organising it.

Or, maybe they just don't like you.[/QUOTE]

We have been friends with the couple who were running for forty years, my husband has been friends with the man for even longer.

seven-day-weekend

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

A Murder Mystery wouldn't be my kind of thing either if I had to be one of the actors in it. If it was one of those weekends away in a hotel where there are professional actors and you have to solve it, then maybe, but not in someone's house I don't think.

Yes, this was in a private house with family and friends, ten people (twelve if we'd been there), and you all had to dress up and be a character in the script.

I think it is this sort of thing : http://www.playingwithmurder.com/blog/host-murder-mystery-party

Georgiegirl256

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Yes, this was in a private house with family and friends, ten people (twelve if we'd been there), and you all had to dress up and be a character in the script.

Wouldn't be my idea of a fun night out ether.

Person_one

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Yes, this was in a private house with family and friends, ten people (twelve if we'd been there), and you all had to dress up and be a character in the script.

I hoped that sort of thing had died a death years ago!

Most people only went to them begrudgingly I think, and it's not really a comparable situation to a meal at a restaurant, at all.

seven-day-weekend

Person_one wrote: »

I hoped that sort of thing had died a death years ago!

Most people only went to them begrudgingly I think, and it's not really a comparable situation to a meal at a restaurant, at all.

You think not?

Pollycat

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I find that sad that (say for example I was a friend of yours) I'd be excluded from the nights out because I fancied a pudding instead of a starter.

Personally I don't choose my friends by their dietary requirements or choices.

I occasionally take my li'l sis and her 2 kids out for a meal.

I would like a starter but I know the kids wouldn't be bothered so I don't have one. I'd hate to be sat there eating whilst they're fidgeting waiting or their food.
The portion sizes are very generous so after I've had my main course I couldn't eat a pudding even if I liked desserts (I don't).
But I know my sis and the kids like them so I encourage them to have whatever they fancy and I'm more than happy just sitting, finishing my wine & letting my dinner digest.

I pay the whole bill and the tip - my treat.

missbiggles1

onlyroz wrote: »

Still not got an answer for why your meal would be ruined if I ate a different number of courses to you? Didn't think so.

As I said earlier (perhaps you missed it?) several people gave explanations many pages back. I'm afraid it isn't our fault that you couldn't understand them.:D

seven-day-weekend

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well, it sounds like at least one of them doesn't like at least one of you.

People who like people welcome their presence, even if it's not for "the full experience" as they'd envisaged it.

They're not that into you.... it would appear.

They did not say I wasn't welcome, I was always welcome, but the hostess was trying so hard to fit me into a role that I would find acceptable, that it became apparent that someone just watching would spoil her experience. And seeing as she was organising it, I felt it appropriate to decline rather than be the party pooper.

I actually find what you have said rather insulting. But perhaps that is your attempt at humour?