large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

Andypandyboy

onlyroz wrote: »

Yes. Like the person who buys a half larger on their own round but asks for a triple whisky when it's somebody else's. Or the person who disappears early after accepting rounds from others so that they don't have to buy one at all. Utterly selfish, and don't tell me it doesn't happen - which is why we just buy our own drinks unless we're with people we know well.

So how often has that actually happened to you?

I can remember people from my youth who had that kind of habit but they were soon shown the error of their ways by the banter....

If it has happened a lot then I suggest you need to change your circle of "friends".

Andypandyboy

onlyroz wrote: »

While you might not personally think you've had a bad experience, I wonder how many of your acquaintances are quietly seething because they've been subsidising your meals for years? Do you know anyone who used to eat out with you but now politely declines or makes excuses not to?

As for the "reverse issue" with hotels, you'll have to explain yourself more clearly because I don't know what you're in about. For the record whenever I've been on holiday with others I just pay for my own stuff, whether that's accommodation, food or entertainment.

Haha let's get personal!

No, as I explained I usually eat less than others, as I don't often eat dessert.

Re read my comment the meaning is clear.....

seven-day-weekend

PasturesNew wrote: »

I was in a bar with a couple once.

My round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.
His round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.

Now it's my round again.... er ... how? How is it not her round? "Because he always buys the drinks and we do rounds".

!!

Especially as we were leaving after the 3rd one (I didn't want to be there for the 2nd to be honest, but men do like a drink or three when they're not driving don't they!)

The couple should buy two rounds to your one.

Having said that, you do seem to spend your time going out with people who eat and drink far more than you do and have a different attitude towards it than you.

missbiggles1

melanzana wrote: »

Rounds are the absolute way shirkers can get get a free night. Think about it.

First round you. Next X, Next Y, and the Z, or the miser !!!!s off to the loo or something. It's a model.

Where I am, rounds are rare. A pot is the norm.

My pubbing days are going back a bit (but wide ranging at the time:o)) but I don't remember ever having a kitty - it was always a round when out with 2 or 3 others and buying your own in bigger groups.

melanzana

PasturesNew wrote: »

I was in a bar with a couple once.

My round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.
His round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.

Now it's my round again.... er ... how? How is it not her round? "Because he always buys the drinks and we do rounds".

!!

Especially as we were leaving after the 3rd one (I didn't want to be there for the 2nd to be honest, but men do like a drink or three when they're not driving don't they!)

OMG yes!

Some couples think it's ok to buy one round between them, whereas everyone else, couple or not must buy their round. Mad!

That is why, as I mentioned earlier, when (on the rare occasions we do go to drinks as opposed to meals with friends), EVERYONE throws their tenner in.

Works great.

Andypandyboy

PasturesNew wrote: »

I was in a bar with a couple once.

My round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.
His round: half a coke, pint for him, soft drink for her.

Now it's my round again.... er ... how? How is it not her round? "Because he always buys the drinks and we do rounds".

!!

Especially as we were leaving after the 3rd one (I didn't want to be there for the 2nd to be honest, but men do like a drink or three when they're not driving don't they!)

Now, that is unfair, in that situation they should have bought two rounds to your one, or actually just bought you a coke for goodness sake.

onlyroz

Andypandyboy wrote: »

So how often has that actually happened to you?

I can remember people from my youth who had that kind of habit but they were soon shown the error of their ways by the banter....

If it has happened a lot then I suggest you need to change your circle of "friends".

Not in recent years because I don't do rounds anymore - I prefer to drink at my own pace. But yes, in years gone by I've seen exactly this behaviour on a number of occasions.

I know a work collegue who would turn up to everybody's "leaving do" regardless of how well he knew the person, just so he could neck a few free drinks. When arranging social events we would email each other the details rather than talk about it openly just so we wouldn't have to invite him - because he would always be the one freeloading off everyone else.

We have "friends" that we won't eat out with anymore due to their huge appetites and unwillingness to pay their fair share of what they've eaten.

In my experience the selfish !!!!!!!!!!s tend to find that their invites rapidly dry up - presumably they are blissfully unaware of the impact of their actions.

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The couple should buy two rounds to your one.

Having said that, you do seem to spend your time going out with people who eat and drink far more than you do and have a different attitude towards it than you.

This shouldn't be a problem if people pay their own way. I don't care if my dining companions want to eat more or less than me as long as we all pay our fair share.

melanzana

missbiggles1 wrote: »

My pubbing days are going back a bit (but wide ranging at the time:o)) but I don't remember ever having a kitty - it was always a round when out with 2 or 3 others and buying your own in bigger groups.

We call it the pot, because (some) men have an aversion to it being called a "kitty", Tell me about it!

But once the ladies called it "the pot" it seems to have worked fine.

And I agree with you, rounds were the norm. But not anymore for us anyway. Unless we are with say another couple only.

Anymore than that and its "the pot".

OMG I should be so embarrassed, but I am not. It takes a while for the male members of the group to realise that couples = 2, and in the interests of equality EVERYONE should contribute!

It is such a first world problem though isn't it?, but very entertaining just the same. :T

Andypandyboy

onlyroz wrote: »

We have "friends" that we won't eat out with anymore due to their huge appetites and unwillingness to pay their fair share of what they've eaten.

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You must just be unlucky then;)

Everyone has the odd freeloading colleague but surely no one would keep a "friend" like that?