large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

splishsplash

74jax wrote: »

Sorry I don't fully understand.

Host said everyone that's x amount, I 'think' it was £27 each but to be honest I don't really know. Ours was £10.95 each, rounded to 11 was £33, DD had a £6 starter and we all paid 2 for a tip. I paid 45 by card.

Really wasn't an issue.

I'm not sure what you mean I should offer? I just said it's ok well pay for our own it's only 45 for us three.

As per your last question, we all paid 2 each for a tip, so I don't know what you mean sorry.

I'm trying to decide if by your comment 'Simples' you're being disingenuous or you genuinely don't see the problem?

Pollycat

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Don't know if it's the pots you eat? But they're on offer at pound land at the moment 4 for £1. Got an email about it so don't know if it's just an online offer as some of theirs often are?

Thanks, it's the sachets in a box that I buy.
Usually £1 for a box of 10.

Cheapest I've seen was £1.49 for 18 (original flavour - 27gm) in Home Bargains.
I'm using the ginger curd in those.

Tesco are currently £3.99 for 22 (27gm), 10 (36gm) for £2.45 or buy 2 boxes of 10 for £4.00.

cbrown372

cadon wrote: »

I think we're at the point now where all this thread is proving is that many of us who post here would absolutely hate to eat out with each other!

Two weeks on and many posts, this is still the best post of the thread :T

Kim_kim

duchy wrote: »

I'm just wondering how bad the meal was to only warrent a £2 tip per person for a three course meal.

The tip is for the service not the food

Andypandyboy

onlyroz wrote: »

Are you being deliberately slow? The comparison is the hotel experience vs the restaurant experience.

1) The hotel experience: Two couples go on holiday together. They make separate room choices, and one chooses a luxury suite and the other chooses a small twin room. They spend a week at the hotel putting everything "on the tab", and both couples enjoy the communal facilities (pool, spa etc). At the end of the week the total bill comes to £1500. If they split the bill equally it would be £750 each, even though a fairer split might be £1000 and £500.

2) The restaurant experience: Two couples go out to dinner together. One couple eat three courses, drink a bottle of wine each, and have liqueur coffees at the end of the meal. The other couple have two courses and have soft drinks. The total bill comes to £150. If they split the bill equally it would be £75 each, even though a fairer split might be £150 and £50.

Please tell me why the two scenarios are so different from each other?

If they are so similar why don't people do it that way?

It is common practice to split the bill in a restaurant, it is not common practice to split hotel bills if one couple have a much superior room.

The scenarios described are at either end of the scale.

All those who want to pay for for exactly what they have eaten and not a cent more must have had a bad experience with unscrupulous people. I haven't ever had that so I am happy to split the bill as I think most people are inherently fair.

I have had the scenario where I haven't had a drink when out for dinner due to illness and both times someone has split the bill taking the wine out of the equation for me without a thought, even though I would have happily paid.

The people I choose to eat out with are fair and nice or I wouldn't be eating with them.

Kim_kim

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Even if the meal was as cheap as you think at £28 per head, £2 is less than 10%, which I think is really mean.

With the national minimum wage and the new living wage, tipping is becoming redundant.
It used to be to top up an unliveable wage.
Personally I detest tipping (& years ago I used to be a waitress on a terrible hourly rate).
Holidays & sick times your actual wage is below what you can live on, get a large party in who didn't tip (many cultures don't) that's that day wrote off.
Pay the staff a fair wage & add the extra costs to the food.
It's fairer & more transparent.

missbiggles1

duchy wrote: »

Why is it difficult to get your head around that concept? How can you tell anyway, they may just prefer to be frugal or put everything on creditcards or have an equity release in place. or be lottery winners who don't want the lifestyle (I met a couple of those at a lottery dinner/event- really modest, unassuming people you'd never dream were multimillionaires) You simply don't know. You might think you do but you are judging solely on appearence as most people think talking about money in any personal detail is vulgar and not dinner table conversation.

Lots of people are (asset rich cash poor).....and lots who are would rather die rather than admit it (perhaps something to remember next time you are seething over a friend "ruining" your meal by opting not to have a starter !)

If you know people, as I do, who live in large, expensive houses but openly say that they can't afford to do something cheap (like going for a coffee or a drink occasionally) you don't need to be Hercule Poirot to know that's their situation. It's an alien concept to me because I think life is for living and not for amassing wealth.

I'm very open about my financial affairs (as I often show on MSE) and I don't know how you can know people for years without having some idea of their general financial situation. It isn't uncommon for people to discuss their pension situation or to mention that they have shares, bonds etc (or that they don't!) - how they're going to manage if a husband dies or leaves them, whether they can afford to take early retirement or not.

If people discuss their lives and personal situations with their friends (as most people I know do) then money tends to come into it somewhere along the road.

missbiggles1

Kim_kim wrote: »

With the national minimum wage and the new living wage, tipping is becoming redundant.
It used to be to top up an unliveable wage.
Personally I detest tipping (& years ago I used to be a waitress on a terrible hourly rate).
Holidays & sick times your actual wage is below what you can live on, get a large party in who didn't tip (many cultures don't) that's that day wrote off.
Pay the staff a fair wage & add the extra costs to the food.
It's fairer & more transparent.

I agree but I don't think that we're there yet. Until we are, I'll carry on tipping.:)

onlyroz

Andypandyboy wrote: »

If they are so similar why don't people do it that way?

It is common practice to split the bill in a restaurant, it is not common practice to split hotel bills if one couple have a much superior room.
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That is exactly my point. If you can understand why I wouldn't want to subsidise your hotel room why can't you understand why I wouldn't want to subsidise your meal?

Andypandyboy

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've never been, but I think Taster Menus often tend to be special nights. You order well in advance and book in advance, they're a special night they put on say 2-3-4 times a year.

No, the taster menus are available every evening and run alongside the A La Carte menu in most restaurants. Each table chooses to dine from one menu or the other there is no crossing over.