Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

codemonkey

I'm resigning this afternoon. So nervous! Wish me luck!

heartbreak_star

Aw Calley you are definitely being a silly sausage *hugs*

MU, hope you managed to get an appointment!

Good luck Code! Rooting for you!

HBS x

calleyw

codemonkey wrote: »

I'm resigning this afternoon. So nervous! Wish me luck!

Code massive hugs and squishes to you.

Yours

Calley X

Izadora

(((( Calley ))))

Good luck Code.

Waves_and_Smiles

Ah, MU massive hugs. The downs are hard with bipolar. Hang in there and remember you can always talk to us. You aren't alone.

Calley, as you say you will feel better once things are a bit less chaotic. Do get your physical health checked out, I know when one of my immune disorders mess up it always affects my mood and energy levels terribly. Go give AM a hug and don't forget to hug AD too. Have a hug from me too.

Good luck code! Let us know how it went! Imagine your boss on the toilet! Tends to work.

Hugs to you too Lambyr, always here for you.

I am up, down and roundabout. I have been discharged from my psychiatrist now which I think has shaken me a bit because although I have been discharged because I have managed any psychosis myself for quite a while now I really HAVE to manage it alone from this moment on. He said he would have preferred to keep seeing me but the rules say otherwise. I can go back but it isn't as quick or easy to see someone as it was. He also told me something all psychiatrists have told me that this is as far as he can go in making things better for me. With my past and the psychosis I am never going to be like everyone else no matter how much I try, he did say though that I can be something different and that isn't a bad thing at all.

jobbingmusician

Thank you SOOO much for all the links, Gingernutty, elsien and whitewing.

My friend was driving the assessment - ooops actually as a result of me suggesting the diagnosis to her in the summer. (When she suggested my diagnosis to her very nice GP, the GP said the equivalent of 'ooops, of course you probably are, how could I have missed that!') She had an appalling time getting assessed. Her first assessment they said they couldn't cope with her as she presented as too intelligent and articulate to have autism, and they said they couldn't complete the assessment. This sent her into complete meltdown. When her husband asked what they were to do in the mean time, as her MH was deterioriating, he was told to take her to A&E. No support whatsoever.

She begged the triage for a 2nd assessment when someone who supposedly had the expertise could see her. This was cancelled at short notice after 2 psychologists apparently had a meeting about her (without her) and decided they couldn't deal with her. Somehow she managed to get a 3rd assessment in a neighbouring county, and at long last, yesterday, got her official diagnosis. The formal diagnosis was very important to her and she feels validated, and far less 'broken' now she has it. Onwards and upwards! (And I suspect she will be in touch with the research centre!)

Oh dear, and I also meant to say - hang in there, MU! Hope the down passes soon - hopefully this is just a quick swing to get you back to the middle. xxx

And WaS - so sorry to hear about your psychiatrist, but remember, you are not alone, you have us! (And I'm sure that apart from being able to prescribe, we have as much knowledge between us as any psychiatrist. If you doubt this, Google 'the wisdom of crowds' )

Waves_and_Smiles

That is wonderful to hear, JM! I hope your friend feels much better from now on. My first psychotherapist was very anti-labels and refused to give me any over 9 years of seeing her, simply because she said she didn't feel it would help me to think I was put into a box. It turned out that yes, she had made several diagnoses but chose not to tell me. I think it was right for me at the time because I was very scared of mental illness back then but when I was eventually told it came as a huge relief to me. Suddenly there were other people like me and I wasn't some total weirdo who made no sense.

jobbingmusician

Exactly what my friend feels! She is reinterpreting her whole life now that she knows she is autistic. (She's 45, so has some years to reinterpret.) She can let go of quite a lot of guilt now that she knows she wasn't being lazy, disorganised or stroppy, but rather suffering the effects of experiencing the world in (in her case) a very different way....

Waves_and_Smiles

I totally get that JM. You know, one of the best things anyone can ever say to me is I feel like that too? I don't care what the diagnosis is but it is a huge comfort to me everytime someone says they think or feel like me, mental health problems and indeed autism or any 'difference' can make you feel as if you are very alone and the only weirdo in town. It will take your friend a while to process it all but I hope things begin to make more sense to her now and she can move on realising she is a little different just like many other people and that is ok.

codemonkey

JM - your friend can start to find alternative coping strategies now which can only be a good thing. It is hard being diagnosed with a 'label' though because you don't want that to be the thing that defines you, even if it does provide a reason for certain areas of behaviour. That doesn't even make sense does it?

So I tried to resign. My manager said he can get me an extra £5k if I stay and to go and think about it. What do I do now?

Eta: A payrise of £5k is over £10k more than the job I'd be going back to.