Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

elsien

I am miffed. And upset.
The whole point of the impending gathering was so all close family would be all together for the first time in over 5 years specially for relative who has been sad that it never happens.
Idea mooted and date agreed by all several months ago. So with two days to go and pub already booked, why am I getting last minutes cancellations from people who have decided their social life now takes precedence.
Negates the whole point of the gathering in the first place.

whitewing

Weather reports maybe?

I'd never go anywhere if I listened to the weather reports in our area, and we are in a milder bit.

elsien

No, it's not the weather. They have just decided there are other things they would rather be doing. Which would have been better if they'd just said that in the first place instead of raising hopes and messing us around.

whitewing

That's a tricky one. Could relative phone each of them and say how much they are looking forward to seeing them? Or guilt trip them into going on the basis that they will probably enjoy it once they're there. (I know one shouldn't need to do that .)

I must admit that if I organise a gathering, I just get the venue/food organised on the basis of who I think will come and leave it open. But we tend to hire the room (if not at home) and do the catering ourselves and eat up or freeze leftovers. Those that don't/can't turm up still tend to make a compensatory effort eg sending present or having another visit or something.

jobbingmusician

Well, I had a varied journey home. I can't say that it was *thick* snow anywhere, but there was quite a blizzard blowing over Mill Hill. When I got home (another 5 miles or so) it was far calmer!

Just hoping it doesn't all freeze overnight

System

Need some oponions. History being when i started work, i blocked everyone on facebook. About 6 months ago my supervisor pressured me into adding him so i could see some facebook group for work and then it spiralled out of control and i ended up feeling like i had to accept everyone else friends requests. Got to the point where i was constantly switching privacy setting so i could "censor" what they saw.

Roll on to december. They decided to have the works do at a really expensive restaurant. I couldn;t afford it. So i asked people if they didnt want to go for the meal/couldn;t afford it either, if they fancied going to the pub for a few drinks before meeting everyone else after. I asked about 20 people, all of whom said it was a good idea, that they couldn;t afford it either and they;d meet me there. Got to the big day, i got myself all dressed up, ready to socialise (for the first time in about 6 m0nths as my anxiety has been bad), and i get there. And i wait. And wait.

1 hour later nobody is there. I check facebook. And i'm greeted by a picture of my workmates, most of them there are the ones who said they'd come and meet me. I felt crushed. I felt crushed that people had gotten my hopes up. That i genuinly thought theyld do what they said, that they meant it. Got a message from my supervisor asking where i was, i told him i couldnt afford it. And that i wasn't feeling well and going home. After that i blocked everyone again.

But now i'm wondering if i was too harsh? I mean i still dont want people from work on social media but im worried i overreacted? That said not one person i;ve blocked has mentioned it so maybe im making more of an issue if this in my head than i need to. I just felt hurt that i opened up to people and they basically abandoned me

Pyxis

MessedUp, I'd be really upset too.

Did you arrange a specific time to meet? And how long ago were the arrangements to meet made?

Could it be that if it was a while ago, they just forgot?

However, if it was a recent arrangement, then that is very rude of them.

onomatopoeia99

Block them all. If you don't want them on your facebook, don't have them on it. It's a personal thing, not a work thing, if the employer wants to do things on social media then they should use linked in, not encroach onto your personal space on the internet.

It's completely rubbish people saying they would come to meet you and then going somewhere else instead, I'd be really upset.

onomatopoeia99

Light dusting of snow on my garden and driveway this morning, "like icing sugar on a Victoria sponge" was what I said on facebook :rotfl: That's probably a metaphor or simile or something (I failed English Literature O level)

Traffic was OK as it didn't settle on the roads

Friends have been posting pictures showing rather more settling where they live, so I think I got off lightly.

Pyxis

Out of interest, when someone blocks you, if you try to look at their page, what do you see?