Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

calleyw

Evening my lovelies,

from reading see we have a MIA messed up. I do hope she is ok?

I see Melly is back :j

Not much to say. Still car less. my dad rang me after no contact for 6 weeks. And asked if I had left the country. He goes shopping with my mun one evening during the week in town, So no excuse. Got my new washing machine :j took nearly 4 weeks not impressed.

Was a good girl and sent my mum some flowers as it was her birthday a couple of weeks ago. Used bloom & wild they send through the post. And with some jiggling got a good price as well.

oh did something a bit different at the weekend. Paid to get locked in a room for an hour. Have to solve clues to find keys to get get out the room. Did not manage it but enjoyed myself. might have to go again to see if I can finish :rotfl:

And just in case anyone wonders you do have a unlocked fire exit for H & S reasons.

Hugs and handshakes and squishes to all that need them.

Yours

Calley x

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onomatopoeia99

calleyw wrote: »

oh did something a bit different at the weekend. Paid to get locked in a room for an hour. Have to solve clues to find keys to get get out the room. Did not manage it but enjoyed myself. might have to go again to see if I can finish :rotfl:

That sounds intriguing and I had to go googling, but it seems quite a popular thing. I'd never heard of it before.

codemonkey

In the latest chapter of 'Codemonkey whines about her new job'...

I asked them to make a small concession to my disability. Turns out they can't and I'd they'd told me that before I wouldn't have taken the job. Now I gave to decide how much time to give them to fix it before I have to leave because I'm in pain a lot.

Curses. I was just coming around to staying there for a bit.

Pyxis

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

That sounds intriguing and I had to go googling, but it seems quite a popular thing. I'd never heard of it before.

I like the sound if that.

It's a bit like Crystal Maze.

Are you on your own in the room, Calley? What were the clues like?

codemonkey wrote: »

In the latest chapter of 'Codemonkey whines about her new job'...

I asked them to make a small concession to my disability. Turns out they can't and I'd they'd told me that before I wouldn't have taken the job. Now I gave to decide how much time to give them to fix it before I have to leave because I'm in pain a lot.

Curses. I was just coming around to staying there for a bit.

Did they agree to or discuss the concession when you were interviewed or subsequently?
If it's something small like a different chair or a sloping desk, it seems trivial of them to refuse.

Pyxis

Sweeeeeeeeeee!

tea_lover

That's annoying code. Is it something they may come round to later on? Not that that's ok of course! Just that they may feel they have to be 'firm' to start with, to sort of test the waters with new people.

That dinky badger is beautiful!

Love the idea of the puzzle rooms, will have to see if there's anything near me.

Very odd, very vivid dreams again last night so am tired before I even begin today.

Waves_and_Smiles

Lovely to see you, Calley!

I really hope they sort something out, code.

Awwww, badger!

I am sad today. This is going to sound really silly-on Twitter some people with pets pretend to be them and make posts as their pets talking about their day, just for fun. About a year ago I got talking to giant bullfrog who's mate developed kidney failure. I wrote a few times to ask after him and eventually the owner dropped the pretense and began talking to me properly. She has spent as absolute fortune keeping this frog alive and comfortable but he died over night. If that isn't sad enough they mate for life and their partners often die too because they stop eating when alone. So now the poor woman is worried about his mate. Sleep well little Jack, I never met you but I loved you and be strong Jill, to go on without him.

tea_lover

That doesn't sound silly at all WaS. I think it's lovely that people care about their pets this much, and lovely that there are so many different ways we can interact now. I bet the owner is really glad they know they have your love and support today x.

Izadora

Welcome back Calley.

I'm very glad you added

calleyw wrote: »

And just in case anyone wonders you do have a unlocked fire exit for H & S reasons

because the thought of having to try to solve puzzles when you're locked in a room was freaking me out slightly!! Knowing that I could get out if I wanted to would be fine though and sounds really interesting.

Code - I thought that employers had a legal obligation to make reasonable concessions for disability? Hopefully they'll manage to get something sorted out because surely they realise that you can't be expected to suffer unnecessary pain because they won't help.

I love the teeny badger, so cute!!

Tea, I sympathise with the weird dreams. I keep waking up exhausted and confused thanks to odd dreams. I'll take odd over the horribly realistic ones which leave me discombobulated all day though.

WaS, sorry about your frog friend. Hopefully Jill will be okay.

MU - Happy birthday (for whenever it may be)